? How serious are you about other people's jokes?

Do you often misunderstand what others mean? It's not just a misunderstanding, but someone makes fun of you on purpose, but you take it seriously!

"Oh, your XXXX is good. Have the opportunity to bring me one? " After I really gave it to her, "Well, I'm kidding, so you'd better give it to me, lest ..."

"Oh, you should go to XXXX before I go to XXXX. It must be like that. " When you actually carry it out, "you are so stupid, it was just a joke." "Oh, how did you do it? I want it now ..."

Have you ever had such a very hurt moment? Obviously, it is a good intention to help others, but in the end it is emotional, and sometimes people even complain.

Why are you so serious?

Are we too sentimental to recognize the meaning of other people's words? Or is what others say too confusing? Why do you always flatter yourself?

? Your emotional intelligence needs strengthening.

Like many people, the author often takes other people's jokes seriously, and then gradually learns to be "heartless".

The key here is that if that person doesn't come to you for confirmation, or repeatedly says, don't flatter yourself, be a good person first. Even though your kind heart always wants to help others, you have been hurt many times. If you don't learn from it, then you don't know whether you are really kind or stupid.

? Ask the other person whether it is true or not.

If you are not sure yourself, and the other party has not made a statement, and you are afraid that you will get the wrong idea, then ask the other party. Was she serious or joking just now? Ask the other person's opinion before you do what you want to do.

Some people are really joking, and some people really don't know that you are kind and want to help her, so she dare not bother you easily. Therefore, it is much simpler and more convenient to ask a romantic question than to be beaten up after helping others.

◎ Even if it is a lie, is the three points true?

Someone will always say this, but it seems useless to me.

Of course, there is a premise here, which is useless, because when you want to help someone, or want to know whether that sentence is true or not, all your guesses are your own guesses and have no clear meaning. There are many facts that tell us that our guess sometimes doesn't mean anything, so the author will say this sentence is useless here.

Sometimes it's really better to ask directly. Of course, you have to master the plot yourself. If you can ask some questions, ask others first, but you can't ask their advice. If it's really hard for you to find out, in order to avoid making mistakes, I still suggest asking directly.

Of course, if this sentence is emotional, it is another matter. After all, how many people can speak clearly and understand the true and false feelings, right and wrong?

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