For the rest of your life, you must learn to recognize yourself

Text | Achai said emotions

Use simple words to convey warmth to readers and heal every lonely heart.

01.

In my childhood memories, both parents and teachers would ask us this question: "What do you want to be in the future?" What kind of person do you think you are?"

Most people’s answer is: they want to be scientists, teachers, and a good person.

This question has existed since ancient times, and Socrates's answer is "Only by knowing yourself can you know life."

Just like an architect must have a clear understanding of the architectural drawings he has drawn to ensure that everything can proceed smoothly according to the preset direction during actual construction.

For everyone, it is important to know themselves clearly, know what their abilities are, and where their maximum is.

Knowing what you want, what is the way to do things?

These are the prerequisites for us to ensure that when we leave home and wander around alone, we will not follow the crowd, muddle along, or lead a confusing life.

If a person cannot recognize his own position clearly, he may fall into chaos in work and life.

For example, one of my colleagues, Xiao Wang, was fired by his boss because he was inaccurate about his position in the workplace.

He should obviously be responsible for the planning section at work, but he always felt that he had a talent for marketing, so he always thought about dealing with customers.

However, his lack of actual ability caused him to accidentally touch the bottom line of a client. Not only did he mess up the project, but he also lost the project. If you lose the job you earn a living from, the gains outweigh the losses.

In the adult world, doing as much work as you have the ability to do is a necessary criterion to ensure that you will not violate the minefield.

We need to understand that those with high skills have the foundation to create greater brilliance boldly, but those who do not have diamonds but want to work with porcelain can only act high and low, causing jokes.

02.

Only when a ship sailing in the vast ocean knows its position and the direction of sailing can it finally reach its destination and continue its next journey.

On the road of life, we are also in a vast sea of ??people.

If we want to find the person we care about for the rest of our lives, we must first see through our own minds, so as not to miss the destined person because we fail to see our hearts clearly in time.

In "Thirty Only", the marriage between Chen Yu and Zhong Xiaoqin was not happy at the beginning because the two could not calm down and have a good talk and failed to realize their true inner feelings.

So they both believed that being with each other was torture to themselves and should end as soon as possible. After a fierce quarrel, they chose Walked into the Civil Affairs Bureau and ended the marriage.

When they truly separated and moved out of each other's lives, they began to see clearly how strong their feelings for each other were and how dependent they were on each other.

Fortunately, they discovered this in time and began to let go of their grudges about each other's shortcomings.

Try to accept the good and bad of each other, and then you can hold hands again in the end and start a new life.

But in real life, not all misses can be given another chance. In order not to leave regrets, the best way is to think about how to solve the problem when it begins.

In relationships, put aside the worldly ties and obstacles, and just ask yourself out of true feelings: Should you compromise for the sake of reality and let go of the person you clearly love deeply?

This is a struggle that we must participate in for our own happiness. We cannot retreat or avoid it and allow things to continue to go in the wrong direction.

03.

Recognizing ourselves does not mean that we should have excessive doubts about our abilities, retreat again and again because of lack of confidence, dare not fight for our future and happiness, and just stay. Stay within your comfort zone.

People tend to have a humble attitude when reflecting on themselves. This approach helps us not to get carried away because of great achievements.

If we do not grasp the degree of "humility" and regard self-humility as inferiority, then we are likely to compromise due to setbacks and challenges.

For most of us, the family levels we come from are basically in the same position.

Why are some people able to change their destiny through their own efforts and become the best in the world, while some people continue to decline despite their superior conditions, and ultimately lose everything.

In Achai's view, this is because they have different views on self-awareness.

For the first type of people, they believe that their previous height cannot determine their future height. They firmly believe that through their own efforts, they can always rewrite the original trajectory of life and embark on a prosperous road.

As for the second type of people, they think they have absolute advantages and can stand out from the crowd.

But they forget that temporary comfort does not represent permanent stability, and they are ultimately eliminated from life due to a lack of awareness of danger.

In the adult world, fighting for survival is always ongoing.

In order to create a good living environment for your family, you must shoulder your responsibilities and understand the direction in which you want to strive.

Constantly challenging yourself for a goal is a life journey that everyone must go through.

As human beings, the reason why we are unique is because we have our own opinions on self-understanding.

In the process of everyone's growth, we will receive advice from many people such as elders, friends, colleagues, etc. They will use their own experiences to guide us in what kind of person we want to be.

Among these different opinions, we may be swayed by different ideas, or we may be entangled and distressed because the opinions of people around us are contrary to our own inner thoughts, and we do not know how to choose the way forward.

But we need to understand that in the end, the only one who can define our life is ourselves, whether we can live the way we imagined.

In order not to regret being born in this world in our old age, we need to think carefully.