This world is unfair. I am a very introverted person. I grew up in a big way. Although I sometimes talk badly, I never offend people for no reason. It's all fake.

Maybe you are all introverts. When you talk about what an introvert is, you often choose to give up. As a social animal, introverts often want to integrate into society, but they lack various means or cannot overcome some of their own shortcomings. Extroverts can get more resources and recognition, and are often more likely to be in a higher position, while introverts are often difficult to get group recognition, resulting in frustration. At this time, an interesting phenomenon was formed. Introverts are often labeled as "losers". As a group, just like the disabled, they are discriminated against because of their own defects. The difference is that disability is usually considered to be unchangeable, while introversion is considered to be caused by its own reasons. This discrimination is most obvious when women choose men (or men choose women) (this is another big topic, so I won't describe it here). The reasons for the formation of introverted personality are very complicated, which cannot be explained by a sentence "formed by many wrong solutions" The most direct statement is that introversion and extroversion are relative, and half of them are always "less extroverted" than the other half. They are often called introverts (of course, I admit that this is not a good statement, and there are other statements, but I don't think that is the essence of the problem, so I don't want to mention it). I am an introvert, but this does not prevent me from expressing my views. I think I know people's thoughts better than extroverts to some extent. I think human nature is good, and I can clearly understand my own advantages and disadvantages, but I prefer to express myself modestly, which may be considered as not confident enough. I don't think others deliberately snubbed me. Although I was left out a lot, I always thought it was because I didn't perform well enough. Indeed, I would rather bear the pressure myself than tell others, but this is only in the private sphere. There has been a big misunderstanding. I remember someone once asked me, if you introverted friends sit together, won't you stare at each other for a long time without saying a word? To tell the truth, in my impression, when I am with them, I should be cheerful rather than talkative. Introverts are not without opinions, and they are not without words. Introverts may lack humor, introverts may lack courage, but their hearts are always rich. Refuse to be introverted, and you may not become better! But there will definitely be more people who think you are excellent! There are many reasons for the formation of true introversion and false introversion, which can be said to be the result of the joint action of psychology, environment and heredity. No matter what causes introversion, we can divide it into two types, namely, true introversion and false introversion, as the title says. What is true introversion? A child's mother came to me with her son and talked about her child's anxiety. His son is now in junior high school, and he has not been very active since he was a child. At that time, he thought it was nothing, but it will be fine when he grows up. But with the growth of age, the child has not changed at all, but has become more and more serious. At school, the teacher reflected that he was timid and introverted, never spoke in class, and rarely stayed with other students. He was an unsociable person. Parents and teachers have talked about this problem several times, and there is nothing they can do. Get to know the situation by talking to children. It turns out that children are divorced from their parents and live in single-parent families. He is very self-abased, confused about his present and future life, and rarely communicates with his mother at ordinary times. In such an environment, he developed a withdrawn character. When asked why he didn't talk to other students, he replied, "I don't like to communicate with others." I like being alone and don't want to get in touch with the outside world. " Parents are very worried about this. What should they do when they go to society in the future? No matter how high the degree is, what should I do without contact with the outside world? Finally, the mother of the child wants to keep her son and participate in the training of "psychological quality" course, hoping to change his situation. Seeing the child's unwilling expression, we politely refused ... From this case, we seem to see a truly introverted figure with the following characteristics: 1, not actively contacting the outside world, in a passive situation, maybe just coping; 2, don't want to contact with people, lack of interest in interacting with people; There is no urgent need to change one's wishes. What is false introversion? False introversion can be said to be relatively high and common among introverts. We may have met such people in our life, who are eloquent in front of people close to us, but when we meet strangers in strange places, we are speechless. On the phone, a student asked us for help: she is a college student, usually quiet, introverted, and has few friends in recent years. She really wants to talk and laugh like other students and have many friends. But I feel uncomfortable, nervous and blushing in front of my classmates. She also said that she really wanted to communicate with others and make friends, but she never had the courage, and she didn't know what to say, what topic to talk about and ask for help. First of all, we can judge that her situation belongs to false introversion from the phone call she received, because she has one of the most typical characteristics: she is eager to change herself. Secondly, it is eager to contact and communicate with others; Poor psychological quality, combined with shyness and nervousness, prevented her from contacting the outside world. From the above two examples, we can easily see that the difference between true introversion and false introversion lies in whether there is an urgent need to change one's wishes. Many introverted students who come to the center for training are mostly fake introverted friends. Whether to change or not means that in the process of training, one is to cope with it with all one's strength, and the other is to cooperate with teaching with all one's strength, and the effect is naturally different. Therefore, before we admit students, we have a clear condition: change ourselves urgently! This is the responsibility to the students and the maintenance of the long-term reputation of the center. So, if you are still struggling on the cliff of pain at this time ... then, while someone can help you, you need to reach out your hand and grasp the reins of fate in order to reach the other side of victory! As an introvert, it may be really difficult to change, because for us introverts, our biggest enemy is ourselves! Instead of always being regarded as "losers", we should try our best to win back a sigh of relief for us introverts. I often remind myself to work hard and refuel. Even if there is nothing, at least we should have a goal. Maybe we have lost our way, but we can tell ourselves, "No one in the world can predict the future!" So we should learn to be brave. Perhaps tears have become a habit of people of our character, including me, but it is better not to work hard than to waste time! It may not change anything, but at least we can grow up in pain! Maybe we feel that our shortcomings outweigh our advantages, but we can think of something happy, such as jokes. At least loneliness is worse than emptiness! ............. should believe that "there will always be a rainbow after the storm" and "I don't know what will happen tomorrow today". If others know how to cherish and trust you, you should cherish and trust yourself first! I hope people of our character can work together! Come on together! As an introvert, I may feel more distressed and embarrassed and look forward to changing myself. We think introverts are in great need of help, but in fact, another situation is emerging in society. For example, banks will give large loans to enterprises with good performance to make them grow and develop, but in turn, they will let enterprises with poor performance die. Nowadays, society and schools, part-time jobs or clubs will arrange interviews, sweep the introverts out of the house and leave training positions to extroverts. In this way, we find that introverts are actually difficult to change, because the competition in the jungle is cruel. Therefore, introverted friends should actually organize their own clubs spontaneously so that everyone can get exercise here. Clubs should pay more attention to developing extremely introverted friends, so that everyone can feel the love and warmth between people here. It's hard to lose weight, and it's hard to change your introversion. Forced weight loss will have a good effect, and introversion also needs forced change-but based on love-because I love you, I want you to change. Introverts should also strengthen the cultivation of morality and knowledge. When a person has made achievements in morality and knowledge, he will naturally have the confidence to speak and will naturally make himself stand in the hearts of others-in fact, the most important factor for success is not personality, but quality. Advantages and disadvantages of introversion Many people fall into social troubles, are afraid of interpersonal relationships, are timid, shrink back and think they are introverted. In fact, he just lacks inner spiritual direction, and he is not happy at all. He will be happy only if he expects to be recognized by others. Such people happen to be extroverted and lack introverted psychological ability. In a person's life, two personality forces coexist. It is no exaggeration to say that introverted personality ability is the premise of acquiring extroverted personality ability. As Eriksson said in Identity Crisis, self-identity is an inward injection of spirit. In fact, people's personality is complex, and it is impossible to be single like cultural calibration. Society is a stage, and people you like can perform different personality colors. If you can be single, I guess being single and introverted is better than being single and extroverted. Many scientists, philosophers, great men, artists and entrepreneurs have developed a good introverted ability, which enables them to calm down, think independently and be creative, and finally succeed in an impetuous society. From the advantages of introverts, we know that, in simple terms, extroverts can make many short-term reactions when thinking in short paths, while introverts often need a long time when thinking in long paths. Therefore, in familiar scenes, extroverts can frequently switch topics at parties, as if they know everything, but introverts are always embarrassed. In fact, extroverts are used to thinking when they speak, while introverts must think before they speak, that's all. Introverts do everything after careful consideration, while extroverts do it first and then say it. It is precisely because of this genetic difference that introversion and extroversion are created. The advantage of introversion is that it is slow, and it can think things clearly and thoroughly, so-called think twice before you act. Introverts are more resistant to temptation and loneliness, and can put more energy into their inner thinking, while too much social interaction will make them lose energy. Completely different, extroverts must replenish energy from external stimuli, constantly catch up with games and constantly seek novelty and difference. The personality described by culture is actually a social character of human beings, not a psychological character that is not the inner essence of human beings. To make introverts like themselves, we should think about the conceptual dilemma that our cultural definition brings to introverts. If society equates introversion with extroversion and gives people with different personalities the same smiling faces, then introverts may find it easier to find a way to suit their existence. Forcing introverts to live according to the culture-oriented extroverted model may cause great discomfort. Only by developing the power of introversion and making the mind a source of happiness can the extroverted character gradually take root, calm down and let go. If you don't like yourself and don't accept yourself, your soul will stay away from you and wander for life. Love yourself and find the meaning of existence from the inner world. Such happiness can be self-sufficient at any time. The general feature of introverted personality is 1. I can walk very fast by myself. I like the dark night. I like clothes with pockets, otherwise I don't know where to put my hands. I am used to hugging my arm. I am used to the cold war. 8. I like writing and reading. 9. I am inexplicably lonely. I can't resist the fear. I don't like talking, and I don't like talking very much. I have a world of my own 12, I put a smile on my face, I fantasize that I am a safe child 13, I am used to silence, I broke out in silence or chose to die 14, I am used to doubt, but I always want to see the bright side of people 15, I don't believe in fairy tales. After that, I felt deep loneliness and fear. I don't like shopping alone, but I always go shopping alone. I thought of a little thing. I think it's dramatic. I like listening to slow songs and sad songs. I will carefully write down everyone who appears in my life. I am used to unrequited love. I will fall in love with someone wholeheartedly. But I don't want to turn it off. 23. I feel that everyone in the world is unreliable, but I still choose to trust others. 24. Occasionally, I want to disappear, or I want to sleep for a lifetime. I don't like waiting, but I always wait. 26. I am often in a daze. I am used to living in the past. I like nostalgia 28, I always think about things for a long time 29, I'm not used to a person disappearing into my life for no reason 30, I always feel that no one can put himself in my heart, which hurts 3 1, and it's easy to satisfy, and it's easier to get hurt 32, I like sadness, even decadence 33, and I'm used to keeping myself, because only in this way can my heart not hurt 34 when I leave, and there is always a kind of. Actually, I'm protecting myself. 36. I pay far more than I get. 37. I am stubborn and don't know how to give up, but once I give up, I will never look back. 38. I always say I want to leave, but I can't find the reason again and again. I am happy in front of others, but I am lonely when I am alone. 40. Be quiet in front of strangers and fool around in front of friends. I don't want too much in return, just a little. There can be very few, but there must be 44. I like listening to sad songs when I am in a bad mood to adjust my introverted personality. Please adjust yourself first. If you can't adjust yourself, which will seriously affect your work and life, please ask a psychologist to help you. Generally, you can adjust yourself from the following points: First, don't think too much, no matter big or small, thinking too much is easy to be distressed and sad. Second, I believe that everyone's concerns are different from their own. Don't be afraid to say the wrong thing, and overcome others' "ridicule" with a calm mind. Third, exercise your positive will and form a strong enterprising spirit.