Why can't even the closest people around you see that they are doing well?

A person in the world, no matter how good you are, some people say that you are worse, and some people give you gifts. In fact, everything is said by some people. We don't care what others say, as long as we live well. Because anyway, others have something to say, and sometimes it is most important to live your own life. Don't care about other people's gossip, because none of it matters. What matters is the happiness of your life, the happiness of your life.

In this world, no one really wants us to live better than their parents. Therefore, this sentence is especially right.

Some people say, "People living in this world should face reality as well as reality."

The truth of the former refers to the real life without falsehood. We should earn money to support our families, earn money to eat and live according to the rules of the world. No matter when, it can only be "reality".

The reality of the latter is the reality of the "human heart". Everyone wants to be superior, everyone wants to stand out from the crowd. In this way, everyone needs to pretend to deal with the cold world and everyone needs to pretend to meet different people.

When we face the world, the first thing that comes to mind is actually our blood relatives. We believe that as long as there is blood and friendship, the relationship between the two sides will be good and people will live in harmony.

But in the end, we found that it was just our wishful thinking. What is the real world like? The closer you get, the less you want to live. Behind this is often the following reasons.

The closer you get, the more interested you are in your life.

Someone has made such a comparison.

Ma Yun is worth hundreds of billions. Do you envy him? Not exactly. Because no matter how rich Ma Yun is, it has nothing to do with you. And you are not related to Ma Yun, even if Ma Yun becomes something, you won't care too much.

But if your relative is worth hundreds of billions, will you envy him? To tell the truth, I will not only envy him, but also have a strong interest in his life and career, and want to know the secret and experience of his success.

From this comparison, we can see that people who have a certain relationship with us will be particularly interested in their success and failure. Why do you say that? We are not interested in them because they are too close. Should we be interested in people who are "thousands of miles away" from ourselves?

Many times, it is because of familiarity that our hearts are easy to arouse "thousands of waves." In our opinion, the other side and we are both on the same starting line. Why does the other person live better or worse than himself?

Therefore, it is easy for people to have a kind of psychology, that is, they will be interested in people around them and want to explore each other's living conditions, so as to make some comparisons in their hearts.

The closer you are, the easier it is to "compare"

When people are curious about people close to them, they will naturally compare them with themselves.

Why "compare"? In fact, I want to see how I am doing, whether others are doing so well, and whether they are slightly better than others.

Just like when I was a child, my parents always compared the children in our neighborhood with our children. To tell the truth, this nature is actually the same. Because the children in the neighborhood are too close to us, naturally, someone will make a comparison to see what is the difference between their own children and others' children in their study and life.

Not only as a child, but also as an adult. Just like unmarried people, as long as they go home on holiday, their relatives or relatives will compare with some of their own people next door and tell you your reality and shortcomings.

Why do people "compare"? Either highlight yourself or belittle others. Mostly the reality of life.

The closer you are, the more you want to belong to your family.

Behind the contrast, it is often to satisfy your "vanity", comfort yourself, and let yourself taste the taste of "success or failure".

The closer you are, the more you want to stand up in front of your family, make people look envious and increase your face. This kind of behavior, in the final analysis, is to "be superior."

Many people will wonder why people should be "superior" even if they are close to their own people. In fact, it is not that they want to compare, but that everyone has his "vanity" in his heart. This kind of vanity can't be satisfied by "outsiders" you don't know, and only "family" you know can be satisfied.

This will easily lead to "unkind" psychology and behavior. If others live too well and find themselves inferior to others, they will naturally feel unwilling and think that others' achievements must be achieved by "unscrupulous means". All this is human nature and is caused by people's hearts.

The so-called "pro or not." The more people who are related to themselves, the easier it is to show their "heartless" side. Because of "contrast", there is success or failure. It is because of success or failure that people will have a psychological state of being cold and hot.

The closer you get, the more you want to see your own "jokes"

Why do people always like "unkind"? One simple reason is that the closer people are, the more they want to see their own "jokes".

A friend's daughter took the college entrance examination this year. Just after the exam, relatives asked his niece how she did in the exam. After a while, after the results came out, relatives asked his niece how many points she got in the exam.

When friends meet relatives, if they don't want to tell any lies, just tell the truth. But those relatives, their first reaction is, how many points did the children of a certain family get this year, and how many points did their children get this year? They are taller than your daughter anyway.

What kind of mentality is this? That is, no matter how many points you get in the exam, the other party thinks that you are not as good as others and wants to see your "joke".

So my friends were disgusted afterwards. He said: "With these people, they compare us with others every day, for fear that our family's life will get worse."

These relatives that friends meet are typical relatives who want to see other people's jokes. These people, they don't have you in their hearts at all, and they don't want you to live better than them.

The closer you get, the more likely you are to feel envious and resentful.

The more "unkind" people are, the more obvious their inner feelings of "envy, jealousy and hatred" will be.

Why do you say that? Because of the contrast, people are jealous. Because people become jealous, they will hate you more and more and resent you more and more. In this way, the less you want to live in your heart.

For example, one of your relatives is eating at home today, and they know that you are eating out. They will have this idea, you have a really good life, and such people are still showing off everywhere. It's shameless.

In fact, most people have this idea. Why is this happening? Because they think that as long as you live well, their self-esteem will be hurt, their vanity will be affected and their mood will eventually change.

Someone said, "People close to you are more likely to stab."

Think about it, outsiders have nothing to do with you. Why should they? And those who have a certain relationship with you, they have contact, communication and comparison with you, then there will be gains and injuries. In this way, it is easy for them to murder you and set you up when things are not going well.

These are contradictions among the people. We often talk about the hedgehog principle. When two hedgehogs with thorns embrace together, there will be harm and contradiction after all. In this way, the injured party will sincerely hope that you will get worse.

No matter who it is in the future, you should be prepared. Because no matter outsiders or related family members, they may not be able to see how you are, so as to "calculate" you.