Why do many people think that it is not easy for the woman’s parents to raise a daughter after working so hard, but it is not easy for the man’s parents to raise a son? This is what I said

"A married woman throws away water." In the traditional thinking model, the son is responsible for providing for the elderly, and the married woman should not take too much care.

My grandmother gave birth to seven children, five sons and two daughters. When my grandmother was in her eighties, her health deteriorated and she had to be fed three meals a day.

After learning about my grandma’s condition, I said to my mother: “Mom, grandma is old and has difficulty moving. You can take care of her for a few months.”

My The mother said: "I am a married woman, so I can't take care of it. Aren't there a few men in the family? They will take care of it."

It's not that my mother doesn't feel sorry for my grandmother, but she has very traditional ideas. I feel that if my daughter always takes care of her parents and provide for them in old age, she will make other people laugh, and she will also be disliked by her brothers.

Some people think that for a daughter to provide for her parents in old age is to slap her son in the face. This idea is difficult for me to accept, but in real life, it exists objectively.

In many large families, when a daughter gets married, her interactions with her natal family are limited to visits during New Years and holidays. At other times, it is just a few phone calls. The daughter will not interfere in her natal family's affairs.

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The daughter thinks that she has not received her due share of the family property, so she does not want to support her parents in their old age.

Many parents have worked hard all their lives, earned hundreds of thousands, and even bought a house or built a small western-style house in the countryside. When parents get older, they will look for opportunities to discuss the distribution of family property with their children.

Most parents will favor their sons when distributing family property. Unless parents have no sons, they have to distribute their property to their daughters.

The son got most of the family property, and it must be the son who provides for his parents in old age. Even if the daughter-in-law is very powerful and unwilling to take care of the elderly, as a daughter, she is too lazy to take care of it. She has resentment in her heart.

In fact, my daughter spent a lot of money studying, and her parents also spent a lot of effort when their daughter grew up. If we must make a clear calculation, the money a daughter gives back to her parents is really not that much. Such facts are often covered up when the family property is distributed. Some daughters even turn their backs and refuse to admit their fault, thinking that their parents are not good people and have given them too little.