Do you know that a woman with high emotional intelligence never helps these two kinds of "busy" in her husband's family?

A smart woman knows what she should and shouldn't do. Such a woman can always get high praise at work or at home, but being such a woman needs high connotation, not that you have a good temper and a high IQ. In fact, you don't have to be smart, because there are also stupid girls who are also highly praised. Is it because they are stupid? Actually, it's not. This is a mode of playing dumb.

When a woman marries a man, she needs to learn a lot, including communication with her husband and good relationship with her in-laws. Now, after many women get married to their in-laws, half of them don't get along well with their mother-in-law. That doesn't mean they don't get along well with their mother-in-law, and some of them don't get along well with their father-in-law. In short, it is difficult to get along with in-laws, but why do women with high emotional intelligence get along well with in-laws? Is it because they are patient, or have helped many in-laws, because a woman with high emotional intelligence will never help these two kinds of "busy" in her mother-in-law's house. You don't know, just look.

The first one never helps her in-laws.

Xiao Jie is a virtuous woman. When she married her husband, her husband's family was not very kind to her, because Xiaojie's family conditions were not very good. Her mother-in-law looked down on her and thought Xiaojie had climbed into their house, but Xiaojie's husband was very kind to her and married Xiaojie despite her mother's opposition. Xiao Jie's married life is not easy. She is often picky. Xiaojie is always patient. I have a brother-in-law at home and married one.

Every time her mother-in-law has something good, Xiaojie's family doesn't, and Xiaojie is also very open-minded. Money is earned by oneself, so you can feel at ease, but my sister-in-law is not very satisfied with her mother-in-law. Xiaojie saw it in her eyes, but didn't tell the truth. She never helped provoke this relationship, but let her mother-in-law see for herself who is real. Maybe in others' eyes, she thinks Xiao Jie is watching the fun, but Xiao Jie's high emotional intelligence is there. If you intervene in this kind of thing, you can help it, but you can't. That is to let others have more space to exploit. Not worth it. If my mother-in-law understands, she will always understand. There is no need to force her to help.

The second kind never helps in her husband's family.

Liu Zhu's in-laws are very kind to her. Her mother-in-law takes care of her and her father-in-law helps her beat and scold her husband. In Liu Zhu's family, whenever Liu Zhu says anything, her husband's family will say yes, and if her husband says anything, she will be refuted by her in-laws. For this reason, her husband's position in the family is obviously the same as that of marrying Liu Zhu, but their relationship is very good. Liu Zhu can get her in-laws to be so kind to her because Liu Zhu never helps. She is a decisive person.

Liu Zhu lives with her in-laws and has a sister-in-law at home. They have a good relationship. Liu Zhu has her own decision. Sometimes when the whole family is discussing things, as long as Liu Zhu is not paying attention, she will play a role. She is not a vase at home, because Liu Zhu thinks she is a member of the family and has to say everything, so her in-laws trust her very much. It turns out that my mother-in-law doesn't understand, but every time. I don't think my daughter-in-law is a joke at home, but it makes her feel old and relaxed. They know other people's gossip is listening, but don't listen blindly.

Conclusion: Remember, in the in-laws family, women must not help these two things. Maybe you think your mother-in-law is not so reasonable and unreasonable, but as long as you do well, you should take care of yourself and keep your mouth shut, and there will always be different results. People's hearts are all fleshy, and a little influence will soften.