What kind of people like it more than pretending to understand?

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Not pretending to know is more terrible than being ignorant. Some time ago, I had dinner with a friend, and she complained to me that the new intern in the company was unreliable, which made people angry. Some time ago, my friend took a planning case and did it himself. As a result, this intern, even before learning the basic work, came to guide "this shouldn't be done." The friend asked, "What should I do?" The intern replied, "I don't know, but I shouldn't do it anyway." The friend said angrily, "in this case, write a copy and I'll have a look." Finally, what the interns wrote was speechless. Because his copywriting, at first glance, knows that it is patchwork from the Internet, and it doesn't even make sense. What made his friend even more angry was that his friend asked him, since he can't do it, why shouldn't he do it? As a result, the intern replied three words "by feeling". Finally, my friend said this sentence helplessly: I am angry, not because of his ignorance, but because he doesn't pretend to understand. In life, there are indeed many people who are very low-key and modest, but some people like to pretend they don't understand. Often hide things you don't know, don't pretend to understand, pretend to be very knowledgeable. Or know a little, just talk in front of others. From then on, leave a bad impression on others: this is a dishonest person, or a show-off person.

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Why do some people like to pretend they don't understand?

I once read a joke: someone asked, "What do you think of Shakespeare?" A said, "Not bad, but the taste is not as good as XO." B retorted, "Hey! Don't pretend to understand! Shakespeare is a dessert, how can you call it wine! " This joke is ironic, but it is a few words and full of philosophy. In fact, if you think about it carefully, almost everyone will have such a person. So, why do some people like to pretend they don't understand? Psychologists from Cornell University in the United States have studied this, and they believe that most people don't pretend to understand in order to cover up their ignorance. Because if we can't answer other people's questions, we will worry whether they will think we are ignorant. Therefore, the brain will quickly search and make up information that can be answered, although our answers may not be correct, at least when chatting, we will not appear so ignorant. Of course, some people don't pretend to understand, just to save face or to win vanity praise. But in fact, many times, if you don't pretend to understand, it will only make you look down upon. This reminds me of a WeChat group added not long ago. There are experienced elders and young people in the group, and the topics are constant and the themes are fresh. There is a girl among them, who almost always speaks when everyone speaks. It seems that when everyone chats together, she can't show her knowledge without speaking. But in fact, some topics, as long as you open your mouth, how much ink you have, everyone already knows. And you don't pretend to understand, everyone has already seen it, but no one has poked it.

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There's nothing to be ashamed of if you admit that you don't understand.

As the old saying goes, "You have to know the Tao in sequence, but you have to specialize in it." Everyone's knowledge is limited, and even experts in a certain field have blind spots in other knowledge. Wang Guowei, a master of modern Chinese studies, is one of the "four mentors" of Tsinghua Institute of Chinese Studies. He can be said to be knowledgeable and knowledgeable. However, whenever a student asks a question in class, if he doesn't understand it, he will honestly answer, "I don't understand this." His student, Wang Li, once said that he remembered that sometimes Wang Guowei would say several "I don't understand" after a class. There are still so many things that Chinese scholars don't understand, not to mention us ordinary people. It is much better to admit your ignorance of something honestly and frankly than to pretend to know nothing. In fact, "not understanding" should be the norm. For example, a lot of "buzzwords" may appear overnight, and it is normal to not understand their meaning. Moreover, knowledge is changing with each passing day. It can be said that people's understanding of things is limited, and their ignorance of things is infinite.

You know the brilliance of starlight, but you may not know the geological structure of the stars.

You know the ferocity of the river, but you may not know the hardness of the river bed;

You know the landmark buildings of a city, but you may not understand the inner spirit of the city ...

There's really nothing to be ashamed of if you admit that you don't understand.

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Only when you admit that you don't understand can you do well.

In the final analysis, pretending not to understand is actually a kind of self-deception, and it is also a cover-up for one's own shortcomings in the process of seeking knowledge. In real life, many people will have such concerns when they encounter questions they don't understand: "Will others make fun of me if I ask such an idiot question?" "Everyone understands, but I don't. It's really embarrassing." It is these concerns that make people begin to pretend to understand. Doing so may satisfy your vanity, but it loses the opportunity to learn new knowledge. And a person's ignorance begins with not learning. "What you know is what you know, and what you don't know is what you know." This is Confucius' teaching to Zilu. For those who always like to pretend not to understand, this sentence is especially instructive and should be kept in mind. Only by admitting that we don't understand can we have a chance to do better.

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