Children's horizons are lowered by excessive savings. Can they have a future?

Thrift is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and it is also a good value that parents need to establish for their children. However, everything needs a standard. Once you "save more", your meaning will "change"

Some families with general economic conditions will establish a sense of saving for their children from an early age and decisively refuse all their material requirements; There are also some families who obviously have good living conditions, but care about everything and hold the educational concept of raising children in poverty.

Maybe parents think it's for their children's good, but it turns out that these ideas are often the key to ruining their children's future, reducing their horizons and patterns, and it is difficult to make a difference in the future.

My friend's mother is a thrifty person, and she will think twice about any project that costs money. All expenses must be worth the money, otherwise it is a waste.

She said that when she was a child, she often went to the vegetable market with her mother to buy food, and only bought the cheapest food at a time. Regardless of whether the nutrition is balanced or not, she often fights with vegetable vendors for a few cents, and the scene is ugly. Finally, it's not good.

One Sunday, she and her mother went shopping, just in time for the price reduction and activities, so the mother and daughter bought a lot. Because many shops forgot to calculate the money for the same dish, she found it and wanted to remind her that she saw her mother's warning eyes. If she gets to her mouth, she can only take it back.

On the way home, my mother was complacent about this little bargain and said to her, "These vegetable merchants have already sold expensive vegetables, and the vegetables without money are compensation and should be earned." Her mother always instilled this idea in her, and she was not surprised to encounter such a thing again later.

Sometimes I'm even happy for my mother's petty gain. Later, she grew up. Influenced by her mother, she always chooses to buy clothes at a discount, preferring to wear low-quality clothes when changing seasons rather than expensive and comfortable clothes.

When she was in college, five other people in the dormitory discussed eating. She subconsciously refused and never took part in any activities to spend money for the student union. She stays in the dormitory or library all day, has no friends, and has a narrow social circle.

After a long time, her personality has become more and more withdrawn, and it is difficult to integrate into the class. She does everything by herself and is ashamed to express herself. When something happens, she always panics. Her roommates said, "This girl is not as frugal as everyone advocates, but a little stingy and petty."

First, what will happen if you are frugal?

1, inferiority, inner sensitivity

Parents' excessive frugality will make their children feel inferior, and the "no money, no money and no poverty" you repeatedly instill will make their children lose confidence.

When school students have something they don't have, some children will question it. However, in the face of students' mocking eyes, children don't know how to deal with it. They can only bow their heads and cover their noses, silently swallowing grievances.

Wearing old clothes and watching others eat snacks can only be greedy. Children can't tell their parents about their pains. They can only sit in the corner silently and don't want others to laugh at themselves, so they don't communicate with others.

2, vanity, material supremacy

Excessive frugality of parents will also make children form wrong money concepts and values, and become very vain and ignorant.

The family environment in which children live since childhood makes them very sensitive. When others are talking about what they have bought, they may think, "What's there to show off?" I will compare myself silently, and even use my breath to lie that I have such a thing.

The next time a friend asks about it, he will tell another lie. In order to keep up with the fashion, it is easy to form impulsive consumption and cause burden and pressure on life.

3. Narrow vision and small pattern.

Parents' wrong educational methods will make children form wrong values, limit their horizons and make the pattern smaller.

In the later life, I don't want to spend money for others, but always like to take advantage of going out to eat and wait for others to pay; For the money that you already have, you just want to save it, and don't consider doing some investment projects.

Parental education has a great influence on children's life. Once children's horizons and patterns are gone, it's hard to expect them to have a future.

Second, how to broaden children's horizons under limited economic conditions?

Children's horizons and patterns should not be bound by economic conditions, and children from poor families still have "big ideals."

How to give consideration to family conditions and children's growth is a good lesson that parents need to take seriously.

1. Establish a correct view of money for children.

Parents should not always say that they are poor, but should establish a correct view of money for their children.

Let the children know that although the current situation at home is not rich, they all rely on their parents' hard-earned money to work hard for a better life in the future.

For what children want to buy, don't blindly refuse, don't buy things they don't need, properly satisfy things that are beneficial to children, and let children feel the love of their parents under limited conditions.

2. Improve children's horizons with limited money.

When expounding the educational concept, the president of Harvard always emphasizes that children should go abroad and understand the world culture. There are so many contents in the world that children need to explore and be familiar with, and they must not be confined to the culture and history of a country.

When the world that children know becomes bigger, they can be more tolerant and open-minded.

Then, in the face of limited economic conditions, how to let children know about the world without consuming a lot of money?