What are the 10 parenting habits of mothers-in-law who are not suitable for raising children in life?

Most grandmothers are taking care of their children now, but has Ma Bao carefully observed how her mother-in-law takes care of her children? If your mother-in-law has the following 10 habit of taking care of her children, she must correct it, or take care of herself, which will harm her children in the future.

First, superstition is heavy. Guo Jun Jr. received a complaint from a treasure mother backstage, saying that her mother-in-law said that her son was short of gold in his life. When she said this, she immediately took off her gold ring and stuffed it into the baby's mouth. The baby is only three months old. I almost swallowed the ring and almost lost my life. I'm afraid to think about it now.

Another mother-in-law said that her mother-in-law was superstitious and just gave birth to a grandson. She said that according to the "custom" in her hometown, she had to use money to bathe her newborn before she could become rich and powerful. As a result, as soon as she gave the child a bath, her skin became seriously allergic, and she was covered in red pimples all night. Seeing the child like this, her grandmother disagreed and thought that she could become rich and expensive in the future. What's the point?

Second, chasing children to eat. No matter who the old man is, he always feels that if the child is fattened for nothing, it will be very dignified to carry it out. So sometimes it's "grandma thinks you're hungry when you're hungry", and I always want my children to eat more and eat more.

After some children have the concept of being full, the general baby doesn't want to eat when he is full, but the old people always feed him habitually, and all kinds of threats, inducements and intimidation from the police or cartoons will make the children eat in this cartoon. Anyway, children can use any method as long as they are willing to eat.

Also, when children are having fun in kindergartens or playgrounds, the elderly will take the opportunity to feed their children a fruit or a bun. Don't miss the opportunity to feed your child.

This practice of the elderly is actually wrong, because such actions will undermine the development of children's attention. Why are some children not easy to concentrate at school? In fact, it was caused by being disturbed little by little when I was a child.

Third, put a lot of clothes on children. Old people are very afraid of cold, so they think children are also very cold, so they habitually let children wear a lot, but children are actually more afraid of heat than adults, and are generally not afraid of cold. Unless the child is naturally weak, it is easy to sweat if he wears too much exercise. When sweating, take off your clothes quickly, but children are more likely to get sick.

Fourth, limit children's exploration. Old people often tell their children: run slowly and don't fall. After the child can walk, it is often that grandparents don't pay attention, and the child runs away at once, so the old man will feel afraid, afraid that he can't catch up with the child, and afraid that the child will not be taken away in his sight, so he will choose to hold it on him.

Often holding a child will lead to insufficient exercise for the child, and the energy saved by the child has nowhere to vent, resulting in insomnia; Just learning to walk is the time when children love to walk around. Often holding will make children unwilling to walk and hinder their normal growth and development. When a child wants to run and jump, the old people often stop him, fearing that the child will be injured, which will form the consciousness that the child is afraid to take risks. When in danger, I just want my grandmother to hold him or accompany him, so that the child will only become more and more timid when he grows up.

V. Hearing loss of the elderly If your mother-in-law has poor hearing, she will unconsciously speak loudly to her children. If she watches TV, she will habitually turn up the TV volume, which will damage her children's hearing in the long run.

6. Give children unlimited snacks. I can't bear to cry. Even if the child is crying unreasonably, he will quickly give the child candy, soda, yogurt and other things that the child likes. He is only in charge of love, not education. Old people know nothing about additives. They don't know that eating too many snacks will damage children's health, and they don't know that additives will actually damage children's brains.

7. Doing things instead of children Nowadays, most of the children are holding hands in pain and are rather delicate. If many children want to eat their own rice bowls, and many old people are afraid that their children will fall from the rice bowls, they will first hold the rice bowls step by step and feed them spoonfuls. In fact, these behaviors are not good for children's growth, but will only reduce children's language development and coordination ability, so that children have no chance to try to learn, and after a long time, they will lose the idea of wanting to learn.

Eight, help children dress Many three or four-year-old children still don't know how to tie their shoelaces and dress themselves, because most of the children brought by grandparents will think that their children are too young, and adults should help their children more. They think that their children can't dress well and it is easy to make people laugh when they go out.

In fact, it takes a process for children to learn to dress and learn shoelaces. How can they slowly correct and make progress without making mistakes? The teacher should help the child put it on quickly. Children can't learn new skills. When they grow up, they won't wait for you to do it.

Nine, the child hit the table and fell to investigate the responsibility of the table. The child bumped into the table. The old man quickly picked up the child and gave the child a "snoring". All the responsibility is put on the table, that is, the baby hit by the table.

This kind of practice will only make children distinguish right from wrong. When they grow up, children accustomed to such education often choose to blame their mistakes and faults on the objective environment or others. Such children don't know how to correct themselves and their mistakes. What they learn can only be self-deception and will not make progress.

X. It is no exaggeration to deceive children as long as they want to eat and sleep. Many old people like to cheat their children to achieve their goals, such as "you eat this meal, grandma will take you to buy candy" or "toys or you go to bed, grandpa will take you to the park tomorrow" and so on.