Some people say, "It is best for an ordinary family to have only one daughter." What do you think?

For ordinary families, most of them have low incomes and only have one daughter, so the pressure on parents is relatively small. Because there is only one child, the cost of raising a child is much less than for a family with many children. And because she is a daughter, she doesn’t have to think about buying a house or giving money for gifts when she grows up. Therefore, some people think that it is better for families with low income to have only one daughter.

However, can you guarantee that your only daughter will definitely be able to catch a golden husband when she grows up? If not, wouldn't you consider buying a house for your daughter? Besides, giving birth to a son or daughter requires cultivation in previous lives. It’s not that if you want a son, you have a son; if you want a daughter, you have a daughter. In life, some people want to have a son, and some want to have a daughter. Whether or not you can get your wish depends on your fate.

Now discussing the issue of having only one child is somewhat incompatible with fertility advocacy policies~.

If we talk about opinions on the matter, I think what someone said is correct: it is best for an ordinary family to only have one child.

Because 1. No one can guarantee pregnancy and childbirth: only one child? Is it a son or a daughter?

2. The current situation is the same as having children and raising children. In many families, sons and daughters are raised equally. When the children grow up, they get married and start a business, and the male and female partners merge into one, and the parents of both parents support each other. As for the fact that there are still women who want betrothal gifts and men who buy houses and cars, this is an old tradition of marrying a girl, and it may become history or a "bad habit". Nowadays, national policies have interfered in some aspects, and many families have abandoned it.

Who can say clearly what the situation will be like in the future?

Note ① For example, national laws now clearly stipulate that houses and cars purchased by a man before marriage belong to him.

This is the matter and choice between husband and wife! Can't make a conclusion!

For ordinary families, life is stressful and wages are not too high, even from farming. Therefore, if you have a daughter, you will be less stressed. At least you don’t have to think about buying a house. Secondly, there is no need to give a bride price, as long as she educates her daughter well and grows up, she can also get a large amount of bride price. Therefore, the idea that ordinary families only have one daughter is realistic and very desirable.

Yes. The era has entered a pluralistic, consumption-based, knowledge-based, and intelligent society, and human concepts have developed by leaps and bounds. The feudal traditional imperial system and the inheritance of the family line were eventually replaced by the people's livelihood of democracy and freedom. In particular, people realize the meaninglessness of life and the nature of wealth. Having more children will not bring you happiness. Retirement and longevity depend on social security and medical care. No country on earth is happiest with more people. Only by strictly controlling the number of people and doing everything possible to cultivate people with high quality can society achieve stable progress.

Look at families with many children. People who have had multiple lives have not yet awakened. Modern life, especially the era of deepening development of computing technology, will completely overturn your remaining habitual thinking and cognition, and the paper-based population theory will be set on the altar of history where no one will worship.

Some people say, "It is best for an ordinary family to have only one daughter."

It is up to you to decide whether to have a child or a girl, and you don’t know whether it is a boy or a girl until you are born.

Whether it is a son or a daughter, the expenses before marriage are similar. When getting married, it is traditional custom for boys to prepare a wedding room and a bride price.

But now, since most girls have only one child, there are also girls whose parents give them dowry houses.

No matter whether you are a son or a daughter, if you have kept up with education since childhood, your life will not be that different when you grow up [face covering].

A benevolent person sees benevolence, and a wise person sees wisdom.

It’s a girl or a boy, one or two, it’s your choice, as long as you like it.

My aunt’s family only has one son, and my aunt’s family has only one daughter. When I was young, my aunt often laughed at my aunt for not having a son, and said that she has no one to support her when she is old. Unexpectedly, it is not my aunt who regrets it now, but my aunt. .

When my aunt was young, she only gave birth to one child, a son. Since then, she has not had any more children. My aunt was very fond of boys over girls. I heard my mother say that when she was pregnant, she was particularly worried that the child in her belly would be a girl. She also said that if it was a girl, she would not survive. She did not expect that she would be born a son.

The aunt was very happy after having a son, and her energy was different from before. Especially after the aunt gave birth to a daughter, she got sick.

My aunt got pregnant not long after she got married. At that time, my aunt’s son was already over one year old. Since she became pregnant, my aunt has paid special attention to her, either to look at her belly shape or to ask questions. What does my aunt like to eat? She cares more about the child in her belly than her aunt does. At that time, the aunt wanted her to have a daughter, and everyone could see it, including her. Later, the aunt actually gave birth to a daughter. The aunt was very happy when she found out that she had given birth to a daughter. She gloated to her and told her that if she didn't have a son, she would have no one to support her when she gets old.

My aunt suffered a massive hemorrhage when she gave birth to her baby, which frightened everyone in the family. Fortunately, she saved her life. My uncle was very kind to my aunt. At that time, he was very afraid that something would happen to my aunt. After my aunt saved her life, my uncle cried and told her that she wanted that child and that she would never have another child in the future. He could not let her suffer anymore. That's what he said and what he did. Later, when everyone advised the aunt to have another child, the aunt would always say that she couldn't have another child because she had already suffered heavy bleeding after giving birth to a baby for the first time. She was worried that something would happen if she had another baby. It’s okay to say that I only have one daughter.

Although the aunt and the aunt were both born to their grandmothers, they have been at odds since childhood. There is no big conflict. They are both very cold and their relationship has always been dull. The two of them have been competing against each other since they were young. Whether it's studying or finding a partner, they both compete with each other and neither wants to lose to the other. Especially when they were looking for a partner later, both of them were looking for someone in the mountains, but the eldest uncle was more handsome than the younger uncle, so the aunt was particularly proud. Ever since she was little, her aunt has been much better than her aunt. Finally, at the most important time, her aunt found a handsome partner and she was able to beat her aunt once.

The aunt later gave birth to a son, and the aunt later gave birth to a daughter. Both of them stopped having a second child for different reasons. From then on, the aunt's proud mouth turned to the sky. When their two children were young, the aunt often said openly and secretly that it would be good to have a son, and that someone would visit his grave when he died. She also said that raising a daughter was of no use and that she would marry someone else when she grew up. Every time the aunt spoke like that, the aunt didn't say anything. She just looked at her child and smiled. In the hearts of her and her uncle, they felt that both boys and girls must be cultivated into adults, otherwise it would be all in vain.

Both my aunt and my aunt were married in the mountains, but during holidays or Chinese New Year, they would buy good things and go to grandma’s house to have a look, and then have dinner at grandma’s house before leaving. Every time the two families get together, the aunt will praise her son for being good at studying and growing up, and he will definitely be successful in the future. Because the aunt is very patriarchal, she will satisfy her son's needs whatever he wants, which also causes her son to be arrogant and domineering. When her son was in the first grade of elementary school, he got into a fight with others at school and broke a classmate's bones, but his aunt did not teach him a lesson.

My aunt’s children went to school in the same year as my aunt’s children, and they were both in the same class. My aunt’s son was arrogant and domineering, but my aunt’s daughter was smart, and the teachers in the class were very good. Like her. Because the relationship between the aunt and the aunt was not good, and the aunt often laughed at the aunt for not having a son, so her son also bullied the aunt's daughter like the aunt. At that time, my aunt would give her daughter money to buy food at school at noon, but every time her son would spend the money. She also told her daughter that if she didn’t give him the money, he would tell the teacher that she After stealing something, his aunt's daughter had to give him the money.

The aunt's son not only treats his aunt's daughter like that, but also treats everyone else in the school. The aunt's son has been a gangster in the school since elementary school. He is the best in studies regardless of playing with others. Because his academic performance was not good, the teacher was always mean to the aunt's son. In addition, the aunt's son really had no talent for learning, so he stopped going to elementary school before he finished elementary school. Since he stopped going to school, he has been squatting at home every day, and the aunt's son has no talent for learning. My daughter was well-behaved and sensible, and finally got into a good university, and the gap widened just like that.

The aunt’s son has been squatting at home since he dropped out of school, sitting at the gate and chatting with others all day long. At that time, there were no people in the village going out to work, and the aunt’s son was relatively lazy, so he had been squatting at home. I stayed idle at home for many years.

However, although my aunt's son has no talent for studying, he is particularly talented for working. He can do basically all the work at home, and he has the final say at home, and his aunt is used to everything. My aunt's daughter went to the school in the town when she was in junior high school. She was admitted to the No. 1 Middle School in our county with excellent results in the high school entrance examination. In the college entrance examination, she was admitted to a key high school. She and her aunt's son just distanced themselves. .

When my aunt's daughter was admitted to college, she even held a banner in the village. The red banner said about being admitted to college. The banner hung in the village for a whole summer. Because my daughter was admitted to a key university, my aunt specially held a college entrance banquet to celebrate her daughter. During the college entrance banquet, all the close relatives came, and my aunt also arrived. After the aunt came, she kept saying sarcastic words. The aunt said to her: "Even if you get admitted to a good university, what's the use? In the end, you will still marry into someone else's family, which is equivalent to raising someone else's children. It's still a waste of time. It's better to come down." To work, girls only need to know a few words. See, my son is still living well without going to school."

The aunt was not angry at all when she heard her aunt say that. She had already known that her aunt would say such things. Well, in that case she wouldn’t feel anything anymore after listening to it. She was just sincerely happy for her daughter. Finally, her daughter would no longer have to farm with her back turned to the sky like she did. She would probably have a decent job after getting into a good university. Besides, my aunt does not regret not having a son at all. In her heart, she feels that boys and girls are all human beings, and there is no distinction between gender. Besides, my aunt has never treated her badly because she did not give birth to a son. On the contrary, because she gave birth to a daughter, Over the years, my uncle has been very kind to my aunt, and my aunt has also been very kind to my uncle because she owes her some debts. It is because of this that the two of them have always been very affectionate.

My aunt’s son is still farming at home as he did a few years ago, and he doesn’t go out to work. Even the old people in the village can’t stand it anymore. They think he is just a grown-up giant baby, and they think he is eating the old man. His family members all persuaded him to go out to work and earn money to spend. The aunt's son is also more open-minded. In the early years, he didn't go out to work. In the past few years, he also started to go out to work, working on construction sites. However, he only worked for a month each time and earned a month's salary. I would come back after the money was spent, and then go out after all the money was spent. My life was so free and unrestrained. Since I stopped going to school, I stayed at home and had no chance to meet girls. As a result, I didn't have a partner when I was in my twenties, and everyone in my family was very worried.

My aunt’s daughter later went to college. After she went to college, only my aunt and uncle were left in the family. When the farming was busy, they worked in the fields, and when they were not busy, they would go to their daughter’s house. I visit my daughter at school and travel by the way, and my life is very relaxed. My aunt's daughter took the civil service exam as a fresh graduate in her senior year and returned to our county. Later she met her husband at work and settled in the county. Because it is close to her hometown and she works on weekends, she goes home every week to see her aunt and uncle. Although she gave birth to a daughter, nothing changed because of her marriage. She was still filial to her parents by her side as before.

The aunt's son also found a partner later, a girl he met through a blind date. The girl was willing to stay with the aunt's family, but she put forward conditions, that is, she must buy a car and buy a house in the county. But the houses in the county are also very expensive. My aunt’s family doesn’t have that much money at all. Moreover, all the family money was spent just getting engaged, getting married, and buying a car. There is no extra money to buy a house. If you want to buy a house, I can only borrow money, but where can I borrow so much money? Because of their bad character, no one was willing to lend money to them. In the end, they had no choice but to buy a house in the county with zero down payment, and the monthly mortgage payment was enough for them.

After getting married, my aunt’s son is still the same as before. He doesn’t go out to work to make money and only knows how to chat with the old man at home. When he has no money, he asks his uncle for money, but he is also very tired. Not only do I have to give money but I also have to pay off the mortgage for my son. At such an old age, I still have to work on construction sites just for the sake of my useless son. Although his son has found a wife, she is not a trouble-free person. She will jump up and down and throw things when something is not appropriate. She will smash the things in the house to pieces if they are not suitable, and she will throw anything valuable. Which, after finally making some money, I finally paid it all.

Whenever that happens, the uncle and aunt will sigh at home, saying that raising children can prevent old age, but they are already angry before they get old. Because both his son and daughter-in-law were not working, not only did he ask for money, but they also asked his aunt and others to help pay off the mortgage, which put a lot of pressure on the aunt. In the end, the mortgage was not paid off, so my aunt's son pinched my uncle's neck in front of many people in the village and said to him: Why did you give birth to me if you don't have money? Why did you give birth to me if you don’t have money? That time, if there was no one around to stop me, it would probably have happened. Fortunately, there is an uncle beside me so I can live well.

From then on, the aunt and the uncle began to envy the aunt, because the aunt and the uncle lived a carefree life. My aunt's daughter is already married and has a formal job. My aunt's daughter's parents-in-law are also regular employees. Later, after my aunt's daughter gave birth to a child, they directly paid for a nanny to look after the child. Not only did there not be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, The aunt is not used to look after the children, which reduces the burden on the aunt and the others. Every year during the Chinese New Year, the two families would get together to celebrate the New Year. They lived such a good life that my aunt was almost jealous.

But it was a different scene on the aunt's side. Originally, the son and daughter-in-law were very dissatisfied because of the house. Later, they had a child. After the child was born, there were more trivial things. They don't have money to hire a nanny like their aunt's daughter, and their life is more difficult, so the aunt helps them take care of the children at their home, and she not only has to contribute money but also effort during the time of taking care of the children. The aunt's life at her son's house was not easy, because her daughter-in-law always looked down upon her. As long as she did anything that dissatisfied her daughter-in-law, her daughter-in-law would yell at her. Therefore, the aunt So sad.

My aunt and uncle were a little envious of my aunt because they had been wronged and they were watching her live a comfortable life. They always thought that raising a child could prevent aging, but when they got really old, they found that the adopted child not only didn't prevent aging, but also drank her blood, which made her extremely uncomfortable. The aunt and uncle finally said helplessly that it would be better for ordinary families to only have one daughter, as it would be more convenient.

Some people say that it is best for an ordinary family to have only one daughter. I think this is right. In a sense, the girl is better than the son. She is a real little cotton-padded jacket, knowing how hot and cold she is and caring for her parents. But the son is different. If he is filial, it is okay. If he is not, he may marry a daughter-in-law and forget about his mother, which will make the parents sad.

Especially in rural families with poor conditions, I think there is no need to have a son. After giving birth to a son, you have to give gifts to others when you get married and take a wife, and you have to spend a lot of money to buy a car and a house. You may end up with a lot of debt. It's okay if your daughter-in-law treats you well. But if your daughter-in-law treats you badly and you spend so much money to marry her into your family, is it a loss? So it is better to have a daughter. It is better to have a daughter in an ordinary family.

In ordinary families, it is the same for both boys and girls, but the boy inherits his father's surname, and the girl usually gives up her gender. Therefore, if you give birth to one child, a boy will be more confident, and a girl's parents will save effort, and each has its own advantages.

I think it’s quite right, no matter it’s a boy or a girl, one is enough. Even if it’s a boy, raise it well. If you don’t have money, as long as the family is harmonious and the parents-in-law are harmonious, the two children can live well in the future. The woman is also an only child and will help buy a house and a car. After all, she doesn’t want her children to have a bad life. I only have one daughter. We will definitely help her if she needs it in the future