Should the leftover men and women in the series of older men and women be in a hurry (1)

With the development of the times, more and more people are pursuing the quality of marriage, and they are paying more and more attention to the pursuit of true love. However, there are no rules to follow in emotional affairs, and some influences of family factors in modern society inevitably lead to a large number of leftover men and women.

This phenomenon used to be common in large cities and high-educated and high-income people, but with the passage of time, this phenomenon has become more and more popular, even to ordinary people like me. It is a great honor that I was gloriously present in the Saint (remnant) group three years ago.

In fact, the quality of life of this kind of people is quite high. I have been lucky enough to experience the free life of a single aristocrat, and I have also been on a trip when I come to it. Now that I think about it, I have endless memories. How chic and ... Well, don't let my wife and adults see it, it will kill me. However, the sad thing came, and it happened that I didn't want to go home every holiday. At that time, it was really "I couldn't stay at home", like ants in hot bricks. Every day, my relatives and neighbors taught me earnestly in their ears, and the mood was beyond words. This leads to a practical question: should older men and women be in a hurry? And what is bothering us? Let's analyze one or two according to my own feelings.

Let me introduce myself first. I was born in 1982 (let's count my age, it's really …). I was lucky enough to meet my wife who has been lost for many years, and finally I successfully took off my bill three years ago, and now I have a small business trip under 2 years old. Wow, haha, it's really something to show off (the article will talk about children, so please read it carefully). After introducing yourself, let's briefly talk about the whole process. First of all, it's our husband and wife. It's an absolute flash marriage. What three days ... five days ... ahem, don't think about it, don't think about it, in short, I got the license in one month. Congratulations, happiness and joy, haha. Although love is short, quarrels and fights are inevitable ... As the saying goes, you can't fall in love without fighting or scolding, right? As a layman, I can't avoid cliches. But overall, there is still more joy. After all, 5% of the splendor in our life is paved with 95% of the dullness. What about married life? To sum it up in ten words: simple and happy, painful and happy. That's it.

some readers want to ask, that's all? No more?

yes, that's it. it's gone.

after I successfully took off the bill, I carefully reflected on my personal emotional path, from being young to being so big (which makes me sad when I think about it), whether I did it right or wrong, and finally gave myself the evaluation: Too much is more than merit. What is the reason? I will talk about it later, and this is what I really want to say to you today, for your reference only, and I hope to give every single friend some inspiration.

let's talk about the problems we may encounter first.

as you get older, there will be more problems. What problems are there? First, when I get older, I have rich social experience, and I have seen both the good and the bad, so it is less and less easy to believe in love. Second, it is becoming more and more realistic. This actually coincides with the third point too much. As we all know, talking about money hurts feelings and talking about feelings hurts money. Third, worry too much about the future. Too much consideration will be given to the future quality of life, income and job security. Including houses, cars and the like. Fourth, the problem of providing for the aged of both parents. When you get older, the elderly are getting older, and your health is not good. The problems of hospitalization and care that follow are really worrying. Fifth, the issue of children. When you get older, especially having children, whether it is necessary or not has become one of the important issues that many people must consider. After all, we still need to be pregnant in October. Followed by a series of troubles such as taking care of children. If you decide to be a Dink clan, it is even more necessary to communicate and discuss. Sixth, it is the family factor. Parents' opinions are also indispensable in marriage matters. Who can accept a marriage without blessings? Maybe, but most people don't have the courage.

with so many questions, what should we do? Let's talk about it one by one. Let's talk about love today. Love is an important emotion second only to family in the initial stage, which is a special existence that is slightly inferior to family and above friendship, and later merged into family. Among kinship, love and friendship, love is the most impactful. It is precisely because of this that love is more fascinating and yearning, and more mysterious. All single friends are afraid and yearning for love-who can forget the heartache of the first love? Who has forgotten the beauty of love in the bottom of my heart? In fact, no matter what you have experienced, whether it is bitterness, pain, regret or whatever, it is ultimately "unforgettable"! In fact, the beauty of life is very simple, and nothing is better than believing that beautiful things are about to happen. Love is also very simple, as long as you all believe, beautiful love will happen. "Where there is sea in my heart, there is Maldives everywhere", although it is a joke, it is really a truth. If you have good thoughts, you will do good deeds. If you believe in love, love will come true. In the face of unknown feelings, when you have reached the age of marriage, when you are willing to try to accept each other, please open your heart and look for that long-lost heartbeat. Be willful once, follow your feelings and bravely find true love! However, don't talk about money, it really hurts feelings.

In the face of feelings, we still need some simplicity. Because of simplicity, it is unbreakable. Counting all the unbreakable emotions, whether they are holding hands with white hair, or asking for brotherly feelings that don't want to be born on the same day of the same year, but want to die on the same day of the same year, or those whose parents have been in bed for decades and take care of their knees like one day, all believe in the simplicity of emotions. See brothers and sisters turn against each other, husband and wife fly separately when disaster strikes, and brothers kill each other, all of which are caused by "impure".

So, you older saints who have experienced too many ups and downs, when you face the other half you want to accept, be simple. Because we are both smart people, we all know whether we use our heart or not. How do you feel? The other person's feelings will not be much different. Don't pretend to be confused, and don't think that you are the smartest person in the world. Only when each other is sincere and feels it, the two hearts will get closer and closer, and some things will come naturally.

to sum up, pure sincerity is the first step to a good relationship. Please don't be stingy with the true feelings, maybe it will be difficult to meet again when you turn around. That's all for sharing in this issue. Let's talk about "reality" in the next issue. See you next time.

when I first came to your place, there are still many things I don't understand, and the articles I wrote are all based on my own feelings. At your convenience, please show your hands and help me praise or spread it. One is an encouragement to me, and the other hopes that more people will read this article. You can also say something wrong in the comment area, and I will thank you. After all, my personal feelings are still very narrow. Thanks again to all the readers who read this article. I will continue to work hard to update it. With a cute baby at home, the speed may not be very timely, but I will try my best to keep the update speed! Your support is my greatest motivation! thank you