Unrealistic women are terrible.

Unrealistic women are terrible. We live in reality, of course, we can't be divorced from reality. Even if you fall in love and get married, you should be grounded. Girls should be realistic. Let's look at unrealistic women.

Unrealistic women are terrible. 1 Not afraid of girls' reality, but afraid of girls' reality. Find a partner and live in your own fantasy forever. With a monthly salary of 10 thousand, I can afford to buy a house. In the fourth-tier cities, it is already a middle and high-end crowd. Such conditions are still unsatisfactory. It can be said that finding a satisfactory object is more difficult than winning the lottery. Even if he is satisfied, the man is not without requirements. His face value is average, with a monthly salary of 4 thousand, and the other party may not be able to value it.

Double-label older women are destined to be single, at least not so easy to get rid of. Because they are always self-righteous, they always feel that they are women and don't have to worry about being rejected.

If the man's condition is worse than himself, in her eyes, it is hopeless and disdainful.

If the man's conditions are similar to his own, in her opinion, he just wants to climb high and marry him, which shows that he is wronged and chooses to make do.

If the conditions are better, in her opinion, she just doesn't work hard enough and still despises each other.

What they pursue is that the conditions are several times higher than themselves, so as to meet their own positioning. Waiting for years is to find the perfect man.

And the good men they pursue, who are high-quality and can marry, are not met by a high probability blind date. Either you are already someone else's husband, or a bunch of girls around you can choose. A good man never needs a blind date. The blind date market is clearly marked. What kind of person you are, blind date will meet similar people, because you are like that in the eyes of others, just like you are a treasure.

Dating with a double-standard attitude will only make you more and more self-righteous and feel that the blind date is not worthy of yourself. This attitude will only make it harder and harder for you to get off the bill. Blind date is a two-way choice. You choose others and others are choosing you.

I really want to get married through blind date, know myself clearly, and rejecting double standards is the most basic attitude. A well-matched and evenly matched marriage is more stable and lasting.

Unrealistic women are terrible. The word "reality" has obvious derogatory meaning, describing people's snobbery and greed. At best, it is "marry a rich man and have food and clothing for a lifetime." At worst, it means "everything is money first, not family".

But I think "reality" has another meaning.

We live in reality, of course, we can't be divorced from reality. Even if you fall in love and get married, you should be grounded. Material is the foundation. Without daily necessities, it is almost impossible for us to have feelings, or for a long time.

The reality is also suitable, there is not much difference in economy, especially in the three views, we all have a clear and objective understanding of each other, rather than being hot-headed and impulsive.

Does it have to be a big gap between the two sides to be true love?

What you said about love is much simpler. As long as two people get along well, practical problems can be put aside and enjoy the romance before and after the flowers.

However, when many blind date meet for the first time, they don't know each other at all, and they can't talk about any feelings at all. At this time, what everyone wants to talk about is of course reality. Let's lay out their own situations and make it clear one by one, whether it's appropriate or not, and whether they want to be another.

Girl, you have to be realistic.

I like that kind of "silly sweet" and think that as long as there is love in the world, no matter what the other person's conditions are, as long as he loves me, I will love him, and then I will often stumble and get lost in reality.

When I was working in a foreign country, I knew a fellow villager. She is several years older than me. She married a local poor man and had a daughter who had just entered primary school.

The man's family condition is not good, and his parents can't help him at all. The man suffers from liver disease, has no formal job and loves playing cards. It's hard to imagine how she married such a person in the first place.

In her words, she was not carried away by love, and nothing else was considered.

At that time, she left her hometown and came to work in this city with her acquaintances. The unaccustomed life and hard work made her feel homesick and lonely. At this moment, he came into her sight.

At first, men were kind, careful and romantic to her.

In order to buy her a snack that she likes to eat, he can travel through most cities by bus. Whenever she coughs, he will be extremely nervous, not to mention other details of life.

Every time he quarrels, he will admit his mistake first, buy gifts and make faces to make her laugh.

It is clear to the beholder that in the eyes of others, especially parents, her so-called love is just asking for it.

The man's family condition is really bad, and he has no strength. He also loves to change jobs and is unstable.

This man is several years older than her. There is no deposit at home, and he has never saved any money. This is not the way to live down to earth.

However, no matter how her family tried to persuade her, she refused to marry him, blaming her parents for not understanding her, which was too realistic and only saw the interests in her eyes.

She finally got her wish and married love. Her family didn't get a penny of the bride price. When she got married, she didn't even have decent jewelry, and two pieces of silver ornaments were still on sale.

She believes that they will be very happy in the future.

As a result, her life is really a mess now.

She really has nowhere to tell, she is in a foreign land, and she has tasted the warmth and coldness of human feelings.

The most serious thing is that my husband sometimes loses at cards and will beat his daughter and her. The so-called love at the beginning has now become a joke.

She regretted it. She should have listened to her elders and fallen in love. Although we should follow our own heart, we should also proceed from reality and objectively recognize whether this person is really worth entrusting for life. Even if she suffers, she should see hope and win respect. Even a painful breakup is better than the rest of her life.

Unrealistic women are terrible. Girls are afraid of being told the truth. In fact, sometimes, boys may be more realistic than girls.

The story of marrying a poor boy for nothing often happens around us, and some people still talk about it and think it is true love.

But how many boys in Gao Fushuai have you seen marry poor girls?

To be honest, in love and marriage, boys are often much smarter than girls.

However, they don't consider the question of bride price, real estate and whose name to write in the house, because they don't need to consider it. They may consider whether your family will hold him back, whether your parents' resources can help him further in his career, and whether your background and income can make him "struggle less for a few years".

We always criticize women for wanting to marry a rich man, live in a big house and drive a luxury car, but in fact many boys think so.

They will also weigh various options and choose the one that is most beneficial to them. They will also look at the conditions of girls' families and choose the one that can help them the most.

I used to know a boy, whose family was average and his income was not high, but he was very good-looking and had a high emotional intelligence. His greatest ambition is to use his own advantages to kidnap a white man, so as to "upgrade a level" (original words).

He often encourages friends around him to introduce girls with "good conditions" to him and classify them. If you have a property in the suburbs, it is Class C. Just hold it and keep it as an alternative. There is real estate in the urban area, but only one in the family is Class B, which can be pursued actively, but it is not necessarily the final choice; There are more than one property in the urban area, and we must catch up with despair.

I don't know if he realized his wish later, and I'm too lazy to pay attention to this kind of thing, but I know how much time he spent on this matter, and I know that he did hook up with several girls from good families, but he always avoided it because he felt that these girls were not rich enough.

Of course, this is only an example, but there are not a few boys who have this idea.

So the real situation is that when girls are still worried about being labeled as "reality" and dare not talk about conditions in love, many boys have quietly laid a big net.

When girls are still looking for "pure" love and putting practical problems in the second place, many boys have already talked about marriage with people they don't love at all in order to "struggle less for a few years".

And the reality of many boys, you may not see it at all.

They won't talk about money with their mouths shut. They will secretly observe your actual situation and judge whether you are the right marriage partner in their minds.

They won't tell you frankly that your family has no money, so I can't be with you. They will only say that we are not suitable, or I am afraid of disappointing you.

Even they pretend to love you, hold your money first, run a business with your help, and then discuss "true love" with other girls.

Often in this case, you won't leave him because you firmly believe that he loves you. Now he ignores, cheats and betrays your love, probably because you are not doing well enough.

You may have to tolerate his laziness and lack of progress, you may have to support his family, and you may have to persuade your father to help him run a relationship, otherwise you will look down on him and you will be "reality".

You think you are together by deep feelings, but in fact only you value this relationship.