How to talk to people

Conversation is our response according to other people's words or behaviors. Whether your words "match" well or not will not only affect the fluency of each other's conversation, but also make the chat atmosphere change direction of different nature.

Many people who can't speak well often have the problem of chatting: they always feel that they can't interrupt what others say; Or if you say it yourself, the chat atmosphere will drop to freezing point in an instant, causing everyone to be speechless.

The former relates to your own knowledge, while the latter relates to your own cognitive empathy. When you "don't listen to what's going on outside the window" and lack emotional intelligence, it's easy for you to be unable to gain dominance in social activities such as conversation and express your own voice or opinions.

1. read a certain amount of books and magazines extensively every month to absorb information.

if you want to build a better conversation with others, you must have too little ink in your stomach. Although everyone has their own knowledge structure, reading information that is potentially related to their own lives extensively under the professional premise is of great help to increase their self-knowledge and broaden their horizons.

Books and magazines usually report and interpret recent events, so that you can understand the changes that are taking place in the world. Of course, surfing the internet and browsing information websites is also ok.

As there is a saying, you don't have to know about GDP, but you must know about CPI. After all, it is something we often come into contact with. On the basis of this extensive reading, combined with the knowledge gained by our in-depth reading, it will be easier and easier for you to chat with others when there is enough ink in your stomach.

remember, you don't have to force yourself to be knowledgeable, it may take you a lifetime to do this. We just need to know as much information as possible about our lives and have our own thoughts on them. Colleagues often sit together and talk about the economy, and you can't get in a word, so this is the information related to your life.

2, deliberately answer the questions you encounter every time you chat with people.

sometimes when chatting with others, everyone has different problems, so it is difficult to have a unified solution. The only person who can help himself is himself. So when you meet a problem in the process of chatting with people, you can't get through it and can't solve it. You have to think about what caused you to be like this. This is the duplicate offer.

the advantage of the resumption is that you can not only realize the existence of the problem, but also find out the reasons behind it. Only in this way can you learn relevant knowledge, exercise and improve this skill.

For example, someone told me that he can't speak "cliche" in social interaction. To solve this problem, we should first define what is cliche, what is its concrete manifestation, and what are the similarities of this form? When will it be better to say?

while solving these problems, you will certainly learn a lot. When you have a deep understanding of the cliche, then use the new experience to simulate this skill for more than a dozen times, and you will slowly solve this problem.

With these basic skills, you can provide a good application condition for conversation.

But even if you usually read a lot or often reflect on your own practices, you may not be able to make a correct conversation.

There are two core factors in correct conversation: quick reaction and the ability to cut into the topic.