It's too realistic that a woman who refuses to pay the decoration fee can't get married. Who is the reality?

Sheng Nan knew that before he got married, he had to talk about money with men.

But she didn't expect that the result of talking about money was that the marriage didn't form, but she and Xiang Li became complete enemies. Specifically, after breaking up with her, Xiang Li trumpeted her reality, saying that a woman like her was too calculating to get married at all.

In their place, all women get married, men go out of the house, and women pay for decoration. As a result, when they came to Shengnan, she refused to pay. Not only refused to pay, but also used the decoration money and the dowry given by parents to buy a small house of their own.

Xiang Li said that women like Kato had too many ideas and too much scheming, so they left a retreat for themselves before they got married. Not the kind of woman who can live with a man with peace of mind.

Kato felt very wronged.

The winning male earns more than 6,000 yuan a month, while Xiang Li earns more than 4,000 yuan a month. When they discussed getting married, Li wanted to buy a house at home. At that time, Sheng Nan wanted to take some money, and her name was added to the real estate license, which was bought by two families.

But Xiang Li's mother didn't agree. She said that her family could afford the house where her son got married, and she didn't have to pay for it. After the house was bought, Li Xiang's family gave Sheng Nan a bride price of 60,000 yuan. What they mean is that Sheng Nan has increased 65.438 billion yuan to decorate this small house.

Katsumoto felt uncomfortable. Li Xiang's family said that she left the house and gave the bride price money, but the house was Xiang Li's pre-marital property, and the bride price was also smashed in the decoration. She not only got everything, but also paid more than 654.38+10,000 in bride price.

02

Katsuo doesn't want to.

Xiang Li broke up. Xiang Li said, why can't I come to you when others get married like this? It's all the man's money and the woman's decoration. Before you get married, you think about divorce and property division.

Kato thought it was you who took advantage, but of course he didn't say anything. I'm the one who loses, of course, I have to think for myself.

Li wanted to break up, but Sheng Nan didn't stay, so he decisively returned the 60,000 bride price. After Sheng Nan's divorce, she also realized that women must give themselves a sense of security, so she took her savings and some money from her parents to pay the down payment on the house.

It never occurred to her that Xiang Li would come back to get back together with her. When Xiang Li learned that she had bought a house herself, she began to lobby her to sell it.

He said to her, "You should sell your house quickly. Can't the money for decorating the house be divided? " ? You have your own house, and you have to pay back the loan when you get married. How can I live? You can't get married, so let me support you. You sold the house and used the money to decorate our wedding room. After marriage, we can still have some money in our hands and live a relatively comfortable life. "

Sheng Nan made an account with Xiang Li: "My monthly salary is 6,000 yuan, and your monthly salary is 4,000 yuan. It takes only one month 1700. I don't think I need you to keep it. I won't sell this house. "

Xiang Li broke up with Sheng Nan again. This time, Xiang Li clearly told Sheng Nan: "A woman like you is too calculating. First, she doesn't want to spend money to decorate the house. Second, she buys a house herself and has to repay the loan after marriage. It's too selfish and realistic for you to consider yourself and not others at all. "

03

After Xiang Li and Kato broke up, someone asked them why they broke up. Xiang Li will publicize what Sheng Nan has done, and finally add: "It is too realistic for such a woman to talk about interests without feelings."

Kato doesn't feel wrong, but everyone's public opinion is not towards her. She asked about the kind of girl who gets married and spends money on decoration. The girl said to her: "I didn't count these at that time, just thinking that his family would have a house, my family would pay for the decoration, and the two of them would live well."

Sheng Nan is a little confused. Is he really too realistic? But a family like Xiang Li is unrealistic. At least Sheng Nan doesn't want to take advantage of Li Xiang's family, but Li Xiang's family thinks she can "sell" the decoration money. Xiang Li doesn't want to marry her, because she refuses to post it.

Is it wrong for a woman to be smart before marriage? See what kind of people you meet. If you meet a man who doesn't calculate you, there is no need to calculate. Two people together, try to figure out your feelings, my wish. When your feelings reach a certain level, these interests are trivial. And when you can fall apart because of interests, you have to be smart, because others are also calculating you.

Many men say that women nowadays are too realistic. I began to plan for a divorce before marriage. They just want to get married and don't want to pay. Men buy houses and cars for bride price, and women feel normal. However, if a woman pays her own money, or buys a house or a car, then the man can't have it.

It's not fair.

What is fairness in marriage?

Before a man gets married, he buys a house, a car and a bride price, which seems to be the one who pays the bill. However, the RV is a man's pre-marital property and has little to do with women. As for the bride price, most women will bring it back to their in-laws after marriage. Many women bring back not only the bride price, but also the dowry.

After marriage, men continue to fight for their careers, while women need to have children and do housework. If a man feels unfair, he can feel the pain of giving birth. Or, you can take a leave of absence to take care of the children at home for a month.

After giving birth to a child, a woman can hardly sleep for three years or more. Because we should always pay attention to the children, even in the middle of the night, we should feed and change diapers.

Women also have postpartum sequelae. After giving birth, their bodies will be deformed, there will be stretch marks on their skin, they will cough loudly and even leak urine.

If you feel unfair, you can experience all this.

Many men should be fair to women when they get married, and even only marry women who can "reverse". They think such a woman is a good woman.

They are really good women, but how will you treat these good women?

If you are good enough to her, it is worthwhile for her to "post it backwards". If you treat her badly, then her "posting" is a joke.

And many men don't appreciate it when they ask women to stick it backwards. He doesn't want to give money to women, let alone love them. He just takes it for granted that you should.

This is probably the fairness they demand.

And these people who always demand fairness generally don't know the real fairness. Because they only see their own efforts and completely ignore the efforts of others.