Why is the divorce rate high?

The reason for the high divorce rate With the continuous improvement of the quality of life, living environment and living conditions of most people, as well as the

The reason for the high divorce rate With the continuous improvement of the quality of life, living environment and living conditions of most people, as well as the expansion of national education and the general improvement of education level, most families have lived a relatively well-fed life. However, just behind our increasingly affluent living standard, there are more and more disharmonies between husband and wife and within the family, and more and more phenomena of separation between the old and the strict, which is worth pondering by sociologists and even the whole society. Modern people's concept of marriage is weakening, and there are more and more temptations in reality. Therefore, people's desires and longings will expand endlessly until marriage is buried in their own hands, which leads to this phenomenon. On the surface, most of them are far from the essence of divorce. Why do these long-standing problems in love break out after marriage? And prove the problem with such a big life cost of divorce? In fact, when each of us can calmly think about this problem, it is not difficult to find out what the reason is. Marriage death? The real motive.

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At present, the divorce rate in China is very high. The basic reasons are as follows:

First, the proliferation of feminist ideas has profoundly affected the code of conduct of modern women. Since the founding of New China 60 years ago, the education of women's traditional ideas has been loosened. Women hold up half the sky. Thanks to encouragement, more and more women have fundamentally changed their traditional concepts and codes of conduct, and the characteristics of China traditional women, such as hard work and humiliation, are becoming less and less obvious. The impulse to be masters of their own house makes them want to be the first in everything, whether in the workplace or at home, and they are afraid everywhere. However, once women who are deeply bound by traditional ideas are completely liberated, their explosive power can never be underestimated. At the same time, social progress has also brought them equal pay for equal work, which has made more women stand upright and no longer depend on their husbands for spiritual and material life. Therefore, without the shackles of traditional ideas and the economic ability to support themselves, women naturally no longer need to listen to men.

Second, the weakening of traditional ideas has also made more women go out of the family and participate in social activities. In modern society, the vast majority of women are no longer willing to obey men, which is the similarity between women and modern education, completely abandoning women's? Three obedience and four virtues? And more is to ask women? Self-esteem, self-reliance and self-reliance Therefore, we can often see a phenomenon, that is, from kindergarten to university campus, the proportion of girls becoming class or grade student cadres is much higher than that of boys, and girls have a strong sense of participation and desire to rule the world. Many girls not only learn to control boys, but also get used to giving orders to boys, which leads to the phenomenon that yin flourishes while yang declines. At the same time, with the weakening of traditional family concept education, parents have neither the time nor the ability to systematically educate their children on courtesy, integrity and shame, which makes it difficult for the young couple to form the core of the family in a short time after marriage. The boy's status in the family is getting lower and lower, which makes it more difficult for him to form a complete and strong sense of family and social responsibility, and the seriously degraded sense of family responsibility is often one of the fuses that cause the high divorce rate.

Third, the mode of tutoring has changed. Many families send girls to school from an early age. Strong woman? Directional culture. Everywhere that goes back to the present? Yin flourishes while Yang declines? Phenomenon, or in layman's terms? Afraid of his wife? Phenomenon, which is easy to find after we finish jokes, is actually a deviation in our current education model, which has caused this situation to a great extent.

Now many of our boys' families are usually afraid that their children will get into trouble or not study well outside. They often educate children to listen to teachers and elders, to abide by social order, to be polite, and not to hit people and swear outside. However, some girls' families are afraid that their children will be bullied outside, and usually give their children tough education to learn not to be afraid of violence and dare to compete with boys. As a result, many girls' personalities are masculine now. At the same time, what children often see in the family is that their mothers bully their fathers, and their fathers will always be a timid image of being wronged and seeking perfection. This subtle education has deepened boys' timidity and made girls stronger.

You know, most men like gentle, graceful, gentle, virtuous and considerate girls, and absolutely hate those? Tigress? Type A, the wife who is absolutely strong at home, therefore, the tenderness that men can't get at home may become lovers outside, and it is difficult to get psychological balance, which is also one of the deep-seated problems that lead to the high divorce rate.

Fourth, the decline of housework ability has made more and more men feel the warmth of family. The biggest drawback of the one-child policy is that children's ability to live independently is getting lower and lower, and many boys and girls can't do housework. As the saying goes? If you want to keep each other's hearts, you must first keep each other's stomachs? If you can cook a good meal and your husband comes home to eat your cooked meal on time every day, the happiness index of this family will definitely be higher, the probability of going out for entertainment or cheating will be relatively lower, and the divorce rate will naturally be lower. Similarly, cleaning the room, removing the laundry quilt and educating the children can also be coordinated by the husband and wife. There are two people in the family, and both sides should bear the housework. If the girls in this family don't do housework at all, or don't want to learn to do housework after marriage, then the latent crisis in this family may break out when the novelty of marriage passes or the man feels physically and mentally exhausted.

When women don't do housework, they will reduce their responsibilities to the family and put their extra energy elsewhere. If this place will hurt the family, then the man will definitely take on more housework by himself and get it from his wife? Green hat? In this case, it is strange not to divorce!

Fifth, the increase of social activities fully respects women's social status and social value, and also gives men and women considerable freedom in social interaction. We should know that in today's male-dominated world, women often pay more than men in order to realize their ideals and achieve the glory of their careers, and they need to be recognized by men. Although someone is joking? Why take it seriously when you lose your virginity after drinking? But once you really lose your virginity, you can't be serious. It is not easy to maintain a family. Breaking up a family is often just a few words or a wrong thing. Analysis of the current divorce cases, the vast majority are caused by one party's emotional derailment, derailment and derailment, which has added many unstable factors to the current family.

6. The pursuit of individuality, the continuous relaxation of living environment, the continuous improvement of living conditions, the continuous improvement of income level and the continuous renewal of life concept all give members living in this society the choice of pursuing their own personalized lifestyle. As long as you go out in the morning, it will always make the other person nervous about your resistance to temptation, and it will always make people feel that everything in the world full of temptations may bring fatal harm to the family anytime and anywhere.

Seven, mother-in-law interference. The reason why quite a few family couples broke up with Lao Yan came from the mother-in-law's dissatisfaction with her son-in-law. Now some mothers-in-law have high expectations for their daughters' marriage, and put their happiness for the rest of their lives on their daughters' marriage, thus setting a high threshold for their sons-in-law's access. Some people think that there is no brilliant career, some think that the family is wrong, some think that the son-in-law can't meet the material needs of his daughter or himself, and some think that marrying such a son-in-law is a waste of parents' efforts. Therefore, they will object when they are in love, and they will still object after marriage, and some girls will bear mental stress if they obey their mothers' strong leadership. Similarly, if a son-in-law feels that her mother-in-law has seriously hurt her self-esteem or is bored with her mother-in-law,

Eight, the difference of life concept

For life, everyone has different requirements and habits. Every couple will try their best to conceal their defects, including some bad habits in life, before marriage. In order to win each other's favor in the process of love, they always show each other the kindest, best and most sincere side of human nature. Even if you are unwilling, you should restrain your words and deeds in front of your lover, resolutely not fight back, and use the present sentence. The consequences of this behavior after marriage are very serious. For example, a girl from the south married a man from the north. Living habits, one likes to eat rice and the other likes to eat noodles. If they pretend to be forced for a long time, it is estimated that they will either break the bowl or smash the pot. Even if one day they compromise and eat rice and noodles, it is difficult to integrate the life concepts and cultural differences between the North and the South. After a long time, marriage will appear.

Nine, the economic situation.

Say? Money makes the mare go? This can be used anywhere. There is a popular saying now, I will take you, you will get the money, and we will travel together. Young people nowadays are very realistic. Who will accompany you to travel without money? Even if someone is not trapped by money, just to follow pure love, let your sweet words blind his eyes for a while. After a long time, the poor life after marriage is getting more and more stretched, and watching friends and colleagues around him spend money all day getting drunk and lead a carefree and rich life, who can follow you calmly for a lifetime? Once occupied by such a comparison mentality, the originally miserable life is bound to face the risk of falling apart. If we can't change the current situation of financial constraints in time, marriage may disintegrate at any time.

X. Tight housing conditions

In the current reality of soaring housing prices, if you don't have your own love cabin after marriage, you will still live with your parents and eat in a pot, which will inevitably lead to some disharmony in taste. This is a trivial matter, for now, and for newlyweds, the most worrying thing is sex in bed. It's not good to make a scene when parents share the same room. Over time, be careful in everything. It will also bring many obstacles to later life. If you don't adjust your mentality, it will cause sexual apathy between husband and wife. After a long time, there will be misunderstandings and emotional problems. Once there are emotional problems, marriage will break up.

Xi。 Improper handling of contradictions

Everyone who lives in this world should say that he can live. Those who can't live may say that he won't live. However, everyone lives in contradictions, especially in this world. It is more appropriate to say that we are solving contradictions in life. The relationship between spear and shield is the relationship between man and woman. If the contradiction between husband and wife is not handled properly in life, even a small trivial matter, such as an inappropriate remark or a dismissive expression, will trigger a marriage war without smoke. These are not contradictory trivial matters. If they are not handled properly, they are likely to turn into contradictions and self-harm and destroy marriage.

Twelve, the husband and wife life imbalance

Husband and wife life is an important link between husband and wife to stabilize their feelings and maintain their marriage, and it is also an important inducement that most easily leads to the breakdown of marriage. In married couples' lives, once their lives are out of balance, they will have inexplicable sexual fear and suspicion psychologically. If the sexual psychology of both parties cannot be adjusted in time, the contradictions and unpleasantness in husband and wife's life will eventually deepen and eventually lead to separation. According to relevant case analysis, dissatisfaction with sexual life accounts for more than 50% of the reasons for divorce, which was counted twenty years ago. Now, this data should be constantly updated.

Therefore, when the communication of love makes two hearts merge into one and form a family, the communication of sexual psychology between the two sides becomes more and more important. In short, in order to enhance the feelings of husband and wife and keep the freshness of marriage, we must weaken egoism in the sexual life of husband and wife, so that the thoughtfulness and dedication of love are greater than the enjoyment and selfishness of sexual possession. Only in this way can we communicate the sexual psychology of husband and wife and constantly improve their sexual feelings.

It is impossible to escape from this reality and this world full of temptations. The key is to start from an early age and start from education. Therefore, I personally think that what China has passed down for thousands of years is not decadent and should be given to girls appropriately? Three obedience and four virtues? Moreover, it is not necessarily a bad thing for girls to go back to the kitchen to learn some classic contents of their daughters' homes. It is not necessarily a bad thing for girls to be taught to stick to women's morality from an early age. In this world, boys need to abide by certain rules and shoulder the great responsibility of connecting the past with the future, so we should strengthen the education of their sense of social responsibility; And girls should also abide by certain social norms, strengthen women's gentle and elegant cultivation, and let girls return to the beauty of nature. Isn't it a happy thing? There is a division of labor in this society, with men dominating the outside and women dominating the inside, which will certainly help balance the social division of labor, especially bring the traditional concept of harmony and stability to this society. We should still vigorously publicize and properly inherit them.

There is a skeleton in the cupboard. Although marriage and divorce are protected by law, they are separated when they are together. Marriage is as free as divorce. There is only one reason for marriage, but there are ten million reasons for divorce. Anyway, divorce means that their marriage has come to an end. After all, the high divorce rate is not conducive to the stability of family relations, the maintenance of family relations harmony, the harmony of the whole society and the foundation of our social stability. Of course, it will also impact and influence the social order deeply influenced by China's traditional culture and ethics.

Therefore, China has its own national conditions, its own traditional ideas handed down for thousands of years, and traditional ideas that are generally accepted by everyone. So I think we should educate the people according to our national conditions, so that men are more masculine and women are more gentle.