What should a 36-year-old sister-in-law do in a circle of friends?

I was dragged into a junior high school classmate, just joined the group and made a joke. A classmate sent a full moon photo of a group of children. I congratulated her indiscriminately on giving birth to a second child and praised her for her courage. She dared to give birth to a second child in her forties. As a result, all the students in the group laughed at me and said that she was the second child and she was the grandson. I am embarrassed. It turns out that some students in our class have grandchildren as grandparents after 70. Among them, many students have very young children, and some people are still considering whether to have a second child. This gap is really impossible to talk about.

In my impression, it seems that people who are earlier than us, when to go to school, when to date, and when to get married and have children, are all settled. Just take it step by step. Most of them get married at the same age, and their peers get married within a year or two.

Now, times have changed, that is, at the same age, the gap between children is really too big. People who marry early and those who marry late are almost one generation behind.

A reader sent me a story, saying that I hope to use my platform to remind men and women who let their children get married early that they must be responsible for their children and not let their children get married too early, saying that this is not for the good of their children, but for their harm. She told the story of her brother and sister-in-law.

The reader said that she is 40 years old, and her child graduated from senior three this year with good grades, which is expected to be admitted to a key university. Her brother and sister-in-law are four years younger than her. They are classmates. When my brother didn't study hard and got poor grades, he talked about friends early. And this sister-in-law, too, doesn't study hard and muddle along. I don't know why, the two have just the right temper and "fall in love" together.

She clearly remembers that her father gave her brother a good beating that year and told him to study hard. The result not only didn't work, but also backfired. Play truant, fight, do anything. And my sister-in-law at that time, one you didn't marry and the other you didn't marry. Later, I graduated from junior high school. At that time, rural children dated early and soon graduated from junior high school. Someone proposed, and as a result, both of them stopped dating. Later, the adults concluded that in this case, it is better to fulfill them and let them get married. In this way, when they got married, they were all under 18 years old. Married less than a year, gave birth to a niece.

It was supposed to be fun, but I got married and had children early. Although my parents built a house and arranged a home for me. But after having children, her brother felt a little heavy on his shoulders and had to consider going out to earn money. Because of my shallow knowledge, I can't do technical work, so I can only work in a factory. My sister-in-law just started to take care of the children at home. She said she took care of the children and played a lot. The child is left to her mother-in-law, who walks around, often goes to the market, plays cards and is very interested. Later, when the child grew up, the younger brother took over the sister-in-law and both of them went to work. In this way, the children became left-behind children. Grandparents love their children dearly and are very fond of them. Children develop a wayward personality, selfish, whatever they want, and cry or make trouble if they don't give it. At first, when she was young, her grandparents could control her and she listened to everything she said. Later, when I was older, I went to junior high school and began to rebel. Don't listen to your grandparents at all. A very good little girl, rebellious cut her hair very short, like a tomboy. Hang out with some male students who don't study hard.

The netizen said that she had taught her niece many times, but she was called back by her niece and said, "Who are you? Why do you care about me? My mother doesn't care about me What do you care about me? " She has nothing to say, just want to hit her. No way, she told her brother's sister-in-law that her sister-in-law still didn't like her backward thinking, saying that it was useless to study, and it was better to marry a girl if she studied well. It is said that girls should dress up beautifully, so that people will appreciate it in the future. Brother can't control, can't control his daughter-in-law, dare to be angry and dare not speak. In this way, with the support of her mother, the girl became unscrupulous.

After graduating from junior high school, I went to vocational high school, but I didn't go for two years. Because she was pregnant before marriage, she married a man eight years older than her last May. It is said that the man is married for the second time, and the marriage is very short. He has a bad temper and is not good to girls at all. But I can't help it. It's already like this. It's useless to say anything.

The netizen said that not long ago, my sister-in-law sent her a message and gave her good news, saying that my niece had given birth to a fat boy and told her to prepare the child's full moon banquet in advance. She feels that her 36-year-old sister-in-law is like a heartless person, not embarrassed at all, but also very happy. To her surprise, my sister-in-law actually sent a photo of the doll to a circle of friends, showing off in a high-profile way, saying that she had a grandson at the age of 36, very happy! The netizen said that he couldn't stand it anymore, and sent a message directly to his sister-in-law, angrily saying, "Your daughter has been ruined by you, and you still have the face to show off your grandson?" Delete your circle of friends quickly! Not afraid of others watching jokes? "My nephew is still sensible, and I quickly deleted my circle of friends.

There is something in the besieged city:

I remember hearing the old man say that some people in our hometown got married early, about 15 years old, but that was the old society. Later, although some people got married early, they were basically not that early. Some/kloc-married at the age of 0/8, and some married at the age of 20, but not much earlier.

Today's children have good living conditions and mature early, but their mental maturity can't keep up. If you get married early, it is unknown whether you will be happy in the future, or whether your feelings are still unstable, and whether you will regret it in the future. If you tie yourself to marriage too early, you will also lose many opportunities for growth and choice. Therefore, we still can't advocate it.

Parents still have to take up the responsibility of educating their children and can't let themselves go. In the critical years of children's growth, we must guide them well. If his ideas are wrong, then the child is likely to be biased. One step wrong, one step wrong, it is often too late to regret.