Use these four tricks to deal with acquaintances.

China is a human society, and we often pay attention to the relationship between acquaintances: more acquaintances make things easier, while more friends make more roads. However, after getting along for a long time, we often ignore the communication and interaction with acquaintances around us and take everything for granted. I don't know that maintaining our circle of acquaintances is a shortcut to quickly open up contacts and establish a foundation.

The so-called acquaintance is the transition from a close friend to a stranger. Maybe through meetings, travel, study, and * * *, and then get to know each other. We can't talk about it personally, but we had a short-term relationship.

Because they are familiar with each other, they often forget to say hello and alienate acquaintances until something happens. This is not the way to keep in touch with acquaintances. How can we maintain a good relationship with acquaintances and be willing to lend a helping hand when we are in trouble, so that acquaintances can continue to be noble people in our lives?

One? Thank acquaintances in an appropriate way.

Qiao Shan caught the bus this morning, but she couldn't wait. She met her colleague Lin Xiao at the bus stop and drove by. Qiao Shan was so excited that he stopped waving his hand, hitched a ride with Lin Xiao, and arrived at work on time.

Qiao Shan got off the bus and thanked him again and again. "Thank you!"

"Oh, tell me thank you for your diagnosis! You don't have to say it yourself! " Lin a face of disapproval.

Between acquaintances, people often feel different when they thank you, but you should try to express your gratitude in an appropriate way, perhaps without the word thank you, but with a sense of gratitude. You can also say, "You really helped me a lot today." Or "I really don't know what to do without your help."

Second, there are good things to miss acquaintances.

Lin Xiao's daughter is going to take the senior high school entrance examination recently, and Lin Xiao wants to inquire about the admission line of the provincial key No.7 middle school. Suddenly, she remembered that Mei Wen's son next door had just entered the first year of high school. He knew this information best, so she mentioned jiaozi cooked in the morning and knocked on Mei Wen's door excitedly. Unexpectedly, I met Qiao Shan. When my daughter was in junior high school, Lin Xiao asked her about her education. At the beginning, because of the children, the two families used to be particularly familiar. Things in the past three years, Lin Xiao rarely see Qiao Shan, two people gradually alienated.

At the door of Mei Wen's house, Qiao Shan saw a string of zongzi carried by Lin Xiao, and immediately understood that Lin Xiao was going to please the children again. Think of three years ago, for the sake of children, Lin Xiao has always been so enthusiastic about himself and very concerned about his friends. Unexpectedly, he was useless. He didn't even receive a short message from Lin Xiao.

Qiao Shan's eyes are full of disdain: the world is cold and human feelings are indifferent. It's a snob to engage in activities whenever something happens!

What Lin Xiao doesn't know is that Qiao Shan's cousin is a teacher in No.7 Middle School, and she knows as much news as Mei Wen. Just Qiao Shan don't want to help Lin Xiao anymore. Why doesn't Qiao Shan do this anymore?

In fact, we are particularly easy to care about those who are not familiar with us but are interested in the present. Maybe those acquaintances did the same at the beginning, but because things have passed, we have gradually forgotten. It's easy to make people think that we are snobbish and full of scheming.

Acquaintances are willing to help us, not necessarily because we are grateful, but more often, they really want us to live well. We are willing to share a part of our life with our acquaintances and have a good time to deepen our intimate relationship. This is the best way to express our gratitude.

The way to keep in touch with acquaintances is simple: remember to send some good things to acquaintances, which may be cakes made by yourself or earth eggs brought back from the countryside; If there is a good movie, you can invite acquaintances to go with you. If there are good books, you can recommend them to acquaintances. If you have a travel plan, you might as well invite acquaintances to go with you. It is more convenient to have WeChat now. Just enjoy taking selfies at any time.

Three? Praise acquaintances behind their backs

When people get familiar with each other, they will find many shortcomings of each other. But speaking ill of acquaintances behind their backs is absolutely harmful to us. Because there is no guarantee that one day, your words will spread beyond recognition and become the source of future discord. And people who hear good things behind your back will become your better friends.

My personal experience is that when I was in college, I took the teacher qualification examination. At that time, the examination center was located in the city, and I stayed at my classmate Annabel Lee's for one night. While eating at her home, her mother suddenly asked me, "How are the students in Macey's dormitory?"

The truth is that their dormitory relationship is complicated. A woman is kind, but she is always bullied because of her weakness; B a woman is kind, but she has a deep heart and never suffers; C female is passionate and moves out to live with her boyfriend. On the surface, these three girls are in the same camp, but in fact, they are intrigued. Among them, Macey is a more powerful advocate: put everything first, and you can't rub half a grain of sand in your eyes.

I think according to Macey's personality, every time I go home, I should talk to her mother about the complicated relationship of girls in the dormitory. Her mother should know something about the girls in the dormitory.

In this case, I told them some advantages and disadvantages that I appreciated, but they were mainly praised. Therefore, Annabel Lee always makes friends with me and brings me all kinds of good things from home.

She said that her mother praised me: "smart and sensible, can talk, and is a person worthy of deep friendship."

Later, in the workplace, if I asked about the impression of an acquaintance, I tried to give him a positive evaluation. If that person really can't do it, I usually won't say anything. If you have to make a statement as a last resort, you tend to talk about things and not talk about people. Spitting out the shortcomings of acquaintances can quickly draw the friendship between colleagues, but at the same time it also lays a bomb for the future. When to detonate it depends on people's wishes.

Four? Respect the boundaries of acquaintances

Last month, Hui Jin was short of money because of business failure, so she borrowed money from her college classmate Yi Xia.

Yi Xia lent him 50 thousand yuan as much as she could. Jin Hui was very moved. He knows that summer is all he has, so he calls every night to complain. I spent two or three hours chatting with him when I came back from work late every summer. When he finished his work, he began to ask Yi Xia again.

He can't help but comment on things at home and up and down, asking questions about big and small issues.

At first, Yi Xia felt that Hui Jin was in a bad mood. As long as he asks, he will say something more or less, but one day Yi Xia came home late, and Hui Jin and Yi Xia's wife also talked about what she heard from Yi Xia, which made Yi Xia's wife think that Yi Xia had a problem with her.

To make matters worse, he will come to me in the middle of the night and ask Yi Xia to accompany him to the bar. This life lasted for nearly a month, and the life of the whole family was affected. One summer is full of complaints, and another summer can't stand it anymore. He not only stopped answering Hui Jin's phone calls, but also urged Hui Jin to pay back the money as soon as possible. The brotherhood between the two men broke down.

Because we are acquaintances, it is easy for us to blur the boundaries. In fact, acquaintances may not care so much, but once they start to care, they are embarrassed. If the division of labor is clear at ordinary times, the possibility of caring between acquaintances will become smaller. Therefore, what should be returned should be returned, what should be divided should be divided, what should not be asked should be pretended not to understand, and what should be apologized should be apologized.