After the divorce, the ex-husband who earned 20,000 yuan a month, but was still 3k, handed in his salary card and asked for remarriage. Should I accept it?

We are friends in love and got married right after our freshman year. Have a baby. After graduation, we all have good jobs. He is a little taller than me, because he is a skilled worker and I have reached the top of the company.

We have a house, a car and children in this city. I was pregnant in 20 12, and I was in labor and lactation in 20 13. He cheated on me, and three of them were women who had sex dates online.

And then I found all this. So I decided to divorce decisively. On the one hand, I can live alone. On the other hand, I love someone so much that I can't accept betrayal.

All the property was given to me. Since then, he has made a lot of money from my card every year. I guess it should be all his income except living expenses.

For three years, he has been pestering me and begging me. He completely lost contact with those people and was deeply aware of his mistakes.

But now I am in a dilemma. On the one hand, in fact, in the past three years, I have not had a good life. I found that I still love him, and I can't accept other men. I can't bear to see him suffer. Seeing him please me and my children carefully, I sometimes fantasize about how happy we would be if we were still together. On the other hand, I haven't put those things down. In the past three years, I have suffered from depression and many minor physical problems. I always wake up in a nightmare at night, and the dream is full of scenes of losing him.

I saw him yesterday. He is old, not yet thirty, and he has a lot of white hair. He told me that he paid a heavy price for his childish selfishness. He wants to spend the rest of his life making it up to us.

I still refused, because I am as strong and proud as ever. I don't know if my choice is right, and I don't want to get married again. Because I can't trust others anymore, I'm afraid others will treat my children badly.

He is waiting for an answer. He said, if you have a bad life, you won't get married. He is going to take over foreign projects and wait for me slowly. What should I do?

The above is the netizen's self-report. Antique suggestion: after his divorce, he could have found an unmarried girl to live with and only gave you some child support, but he didn't. Can't you see his sincerity after three years? Forgive when it is time to forgive. Two people support each other to live. Who can say that he won't make a mistake once? Your husband should sincerely repent. Giving him a chance is also giving himself a chance.

Judging from your description, you have forgiven him from the heart. In three years, both of them got enough time to test themselves. You can live together without remarrying. At least, he is the father of the child. After observing for a period of time, you can remarry.

He does have remorse. You can't give up marriage for the sake of children, parents and yourself. Then, choose to forgive him completely, forget his betrayal and injury, only remember the good times, only remember that at the critical moment, he finally chose you, accepted him with sincere feelings, and tried to live a good life with him now and grasp the future.

Life is too short, and people's hearts are too fragile to bear long-term harm and torture. Everyone has the right to choose a happy and high-quality life. Only by forgetting the unpleasant past can we live the present and the future. Even though some people, things and things sometimes evoke those unpleasant memories and sting your heart like needles, think about each other's hard work, the happiness and peace that you finally got in front of you, the smiling faces of children and the relieved faces of old people. Is there anything you can't let go of?