"Tokyo Girls' Illustrated Book"—Do you want to burst this beauty bubble?

Saito Aya, a woman born in Akita, yearns for Tokyo.

What Ling wants to be is someone who is envied by others.

After graduating from college, Aya came to Tokyo and worked as an editor for a fashion magazine.

Unexpectedly, Takahiro, who claimed not to marry, married a model, Mei Ai.

Later, Meiai divorced Longzhi and opened her own flower house.

Mei Ai said, "The ideal marriage partner's own charm is not very important, but he must be able to support his wife to do what she wants to do."

This sentence became Ling’s life creed.

According to this creed, Aya found her ideal husband, Masato, and married him.

Later, Aya discovered a courtship manual written by Masato, with this tutorial clearly written in it.

Masato has an affair, and Aya calmly divorces.

Now, what Ling wants to be is a person with a taste for life, rather than an old housewife who can only regard her children as her own medals, no different from the elements of home furnishings.

We can see that Ling, a woman from a small city, aspires to be from a fashion magazine editor to an elite wealthy second-generation wife, from looking for an ideal husband who supports his wife’s dreams, to finally giving up her family. Be a strong urban woman with a sense of life.

Behind this seemingly glamorous role change and firm belief in life are endless illusions and emptiness.

The person Ling wants to be is someone who is envied by others; people who are envied by others will definitely be happy. This is obviously a standard for judging one's own feelings based on the evaluation of others, and what is built behind this must not be [true self].

Aya chooses a spouse according to the standard of beauty [ideal husband], "a man who will support his wife to do what she wants to do" - like a modern good man who respects women and appreciates women's dreams. However, even if this standard sounds good, it cannot change the fact that it is [other people's] judgment standard, and Aya has never asked herself what kind of lover/partner/husband she wants. All she sees is what others have. What kind of husband, and then use this to construct your own selection criteria, or even just "get it" directly.

"Vajra Can Break" says that the potential of all things is emptiness, and how we view things depends on our imprints. You must be aware of and guard against where your imprint comes from. Aya's impression of a perfect life definitely does not come from herself. So a very scary question is, whose puppet has Ling become? And for whose benefit has it been a stepping stone?

There is nothing wrong with coming to a big city to work hard, but the key question is why do you want to come to a big city to work hard?

Tokyo Yu Ling is a large supermarket full of necessities for a successful life. Through the game of killing monsters and upgrading, you can buy back high-value products, such as the rich second-generation business elite Takayuki.

But why does it have to be the rich second generation business elite?

Is it because of love?

Asked this question, I couldn't help but laugh out loud.

When I first came to Tokyo, I met Naoki, a fellow countryman. The two people's different life backgrounds quickly brought them closer. They got off work together and stayed under the bright moon; they made a sukiyaki pot, which was warm and hot. It seems that happiness is within her grasp, but Aya walks away just because she feels that this kind of "Akita-style happiness" is everywhere. Now that she has come to a big city, such a fashionable and gorgeous city, it is too unacceptable to end in such a simple way.

As a mistress who works as a kimono shop owner, she enjoys material things that do not match her level like a helicopter. The emotional demand for the kimono shop owner is a red line that the kimono shop owner will never continue.

Similarly, when Aya also became an "upper class" person economically, Haoping, a fresh meat from the coffee shop, took the initiative to deliver it to her door. However, Minato's "princess friend" went straight to pick up Haoping, who she had a crush on, which made Aya really uncomfortable.

What Aya wants to be is not a specific person.

What Ling wants to be is a better person than others.

The driving force here is [comparison], and what supports comparison is [vanity]. Both comparison and vanity are a bottomless pit, and even Aya herself has been swallowed up.

Doing things out of resentment or fear will only bring more resentment and fear; doing things out of comparison and vanity will only bring more comparison and vanity.

This explains why Ling has never truly loved anyone. Because those dating partners are just means and tools for Ling to satisfy her material enjoyment and break through her class, and naturally they will not bring real love and happiness.

This also explains why Ling does not have a true female friend. Because those friends are for friendship, gossip, and to satisfy one's sense of superiority. Naturalness does not lead to true appreciation and friendship.

Ling’s entire struggle is a process of constant contempt for her own class and longing for the upper class.

Urban love is very romantic, but there is no need to despise "Akita Love Story".

The interest in life is very cute, but there is no need to look down on housewives with garlic smell on their hands.

Life without children can be a fulfilling life, but there is no need to define women with children as people with no "medals" except for children.

Did you see it? [Comparison] is scary because it is a ranking relationship, a competition where you are good and I am bad, and it is an endless chain of contempt.

And this kind of comparative thinking also destined Ling to be unable to achieve great success at work. Because of comparative thinking, people cannot let go of their own sense of superiority and arrogance to cooperate. Comparative thinking makes people always want to prove who is right and who is wrong, and compare who is higher and who is lower. In this case, we often establish antagonistic relationships with others, and cooperation cannot be carried out, and we will soon hit the ceiling.

In fact, Ling has not been promoted since she became a manager, and she has not accumulated any capital.

When vanity and consumption are combined, you must be careful. Perhaps one’s life can become a propaganda slogan if one is not careful.

"The wool coat that a happy woman must have", "The lipstick that modern women must have" and "You deserve the best"...

Think a celebrity has the same style? My appearance can rise to three levels. I think that a Chanel business suit can turn me into a professional elite. I think that a kindle can have connotation and depth. I think that a notebook can turn me into a cute little girl who loves life...

In fact, nothing will change, you are still you, almost the same as fireworks...

In the next article, I will share how people can build their true self and live out themselves; how to get rid of the chain of contempt, Break out of the pit of comparison; and in contemporary society, how do we respond to the tide of consumerism and how to start "primitive accumulation of capital". ?