After the blind date, my father will break off the father-daughter relationship with me!

Can you imagine what is the best state of two people together?

We have long passed the era of caring for each other, teaching children and taking Qi Mei as an example, and the era of listening to love and being young and ignorant. We pursue equality, enjoyment, natural growth without being expected too much, freedom without being bound, feelings without being made public and judged. We selfishly pursue love like ghosts, but we always want it.

( 1)

Knowing Z Jun is a visit to menstruation's house on New Year's Eve. His house is next door, and my aunt is going to introduce us. I am so confused that I was blind date.

It's not that I haven't had this kind of experience before, but in order to satisfy the matchmaker's mind, I also met and watched everything. But this time, it's a little different. Z, listen to me. In order to avoid being too embarrassed when I met him, I told him what he had seen in various cities. He was very impressed with me.

In fact, I graduated from college for a year and a half, and I was busy with my work every day, often working overtime at night and holidays, and I didn't have time to satisfy a wandering heart's yearning for the world, picking and choosing stories about poor travel with my best friend and roommate who skipped classes in college, and chatting with each other like this.

Z Jun is tall and thin, wearing bookish glasses, majoring in computer, not so shy, and looks simple and honest, a typical engineering geek. Because of this, he is a little curious about my restless temper of fooling around. According to himself, he also has a wandering heart, but he has never had a chance to see the world.

I think selling aunt's face is just a formality, and then there is no intersection. I didn't expect Mr. Z to say that he would come to our house to pay New Year's greetings in two days, but the way to pay New Year's greetings on a blind date there is nothing more than the matchmaker introducing the man to the woman's house to bring gifts for dinner, and even many different boys go to the woman's house nonstop every day.

At that time, the topic of Shanghai women and boyfriends fleeing at the dinner table when they returned to their rural hometown for the New Year was heated up. I gave him a screenshot and asked Z Jun what do you think? I forgot his answer. Z jun came to our house in a couple of days and made a gift.

I grew up in a small rural area, and it was a little hard for my brother and I to finish college at home, so my family was poor. The old house built in the 1980s, with red bricks, loess and black tiles, will leak in rainy days, and the wall ash will fall off badly, one white and one black, with moss in the corner. The kitchen was burning with firewood in the dark, and the wooden door bolt before and after renting was broken, and the creaking sound when closing the door was no exaggeration.

Under such circumstances, Z Jun came to our house for dinner several times. Menstruation acted as a matchmaker for the first time, taking him with him. He is quiet and introverted, not the kind of person who can talk in an active atmosphere. We only heard the elders' parents talking about a meal, and we ate quietly.

It was before and after the Spring Festival. It happened that I was going to visit relatives in the city and get together with their high school classmates that day. After dinner, we go to the city by bus. They have a car at home, but he doesn't drive it often and is not very skilled, so he only drives it at home and won't go directly to the city.

It's a small world. It's not a time to go around, but we can't meet earlier. Z Jun has a good buddy who is my classmate, and he has a primary school classmate who is my best friend's boyfriend. Our senior high school is in the same city key middle school, and our senior one is in the same building, and their class is upstairs. With so many coincidences and friends, I think we still have fate.

He said that although their family is better now, they also suffered when he was a child. He also often said that he spent most of his childhood at home alone and no one cared about him. He especially envied our family, and the whole family ate together, warm and lively.

The story of 20 16 Spring Festival came to an end. During this period, I met with Z Jun two or three times, and he took the initiative. What impressed me the most was that I got together with some junior high school friends one day. They happened to be nearby and kept asking to come and meet friends. I have always felt that he, who is introverted, was extremely enthusiastic and positive in the following similar incidents. Our classmates get together once a year and drink three rounds, and everyone is drunk. Finally, it will get dark, and he will take me home.

It happened to be Valentine's Day, and he bought me a thermos cup specially. I admit it's a surprise for single dog, which has been here for ten thousand years. I'm a good drinker, but I'm not an alcoholic. During my college years, I was fascinated by the bold and graceful words of Tang, Song, Yuan and Qing Dynasties, and had a strong sense of wine. After drinking, I always make up a few sour poems, and I always stumble back when I get there anyway. It's already February, and it rains in winter. My mind was in a daze all the way. I only remember that he walked with me for a long night with an umbrella. I don't know what I talked about at sixes and sevens. I only remember that after I got home, he went to the kitchen and added me a bowl of porridge. I only remember that I was awake at night and made a sentence for him. As follows:

It's too late when the wine is drunk and the ears are hot, and relatives know each other. Spring breeze, Miles Beth. The long road is unconscious, and the night has been woven. Hearing people's words at first, knowing people's words and understanding people's intentions.

If you dream like this, you will quit in the morning. Wake up for no reason, when the child is ugly. Duke Zhou's explanation is nothing but dust. Half a cup of tea, half a few, half a bucket of poetry. ?

(2)

There is truth and falsehood in the world, and if we have falsehood and truth, it will be over if we take part in accidental amusement. As expected, my relationship with Z Jun won't last long. As it turns out, it is not that simple.

20 16 years, I was in Shenzhen, and Z Jun was in Wuhan.

In June, he resigned from Wuhan and went to work in Shanghai. As for why he went to Shanghai instead of Shenzhen, Z Jun explained that Shanghai knew many friends. After settling in Shanghai, he took time to come to Shenzhen, where Z Jun had no other friends. He said he just came to see me.

From college to now, people around me have jumped out intermittently to say that they like me, but most of them are said by phone, SMS and qq bombing. No one has ever traveled long distances to say his favorite words in front of me, or said nothing, just asking to meet all the way.

I asked Z Jun's opinion, and he said that he had never been to Shenzhen and was unfamiliar with it, so I booked him a hotel near his residence in advance. He came by train and arrived around seven or eight in the morning. I am waiting for him at the subway exit. I haven't seen you for four months in a blink of an eye, and the strangeness still makes me feel quite restrained.

I don't know how a person who is not good at words usually expresses his love. He is silent, cold, and overbearing, or maybe he just doesn't forget to play his inner play.

At first glance, Mr. Z can't express his bad words, or he really hasn't missed much, so he doesn't think about it often.

During these four months, we will contact once or twice a month to talk about work and life. I am very busy at work most of the time and often work overtime. I often go out with my colleagues at midnight. I often climb mountains, go shopping and read books on weekends, and my schedule is full. He works leisurely, goes to work by the hour and is usually at home on weekends. They are in such a state that they often can't remember the last time they contacted each other.

Today is the Dragon Boat Festival, so it's rare not to work overtime during the small holiday. He stayed in Shenzhen for three days, and I tried my best to accompany him on a three-day tour of Shenzhen.

Accompany him to visit mangroves on the first day. It's already afternoon, and we are walking slowly on a long road. We talked a lot. The long coastline, the sea breeze mixed with the laughter of the children around, came face to face. I told him that this is a must for many people to come to Shenzhen. When the weather is fine, they can see the opposite Hong Kong. However, it was still cloudy that day, and the sky was covered with dark clouds, as if it might rain at any time.

The next day, Mr. Z accompanied me to visit the Grand Canyon of OCT in the east. He said to accompany me because I like to play with my heartbeat. In life, Z Jun is taciturn and quite manly. He didn't like roller coasters and whitewater, but he went and played many exciting projects with me. The crowded projects were patiently lined up for more than an hour. After whitewashing, he bravely went in and sat on the edge, his clothes were wet a lot by the water, and he was as happy as a child. Then he offered to play again. The weather in Shenzhen is changeable. It was sunny in the morning and began to rain in the afternoon. Many amusement facilities had to be closed, so we left the Grand Canyon early. Knowing that he had never seen the sea, he wanted to see it. We went straight to Dameisha from OCT in the east. Z Jun happily took off his shoes and socks, touched the crab, waded past, and had a good time.

Perhaps, you don't have to have the same hobbies in life. It is not rare to be around, willing to try more possibilities for you, and face this complicated world with the same indifference.

On the third day, we climbed to the top of Lianhua Mountain and visited Shenzhen Museum and Shenzhen Library. I have a hobby. When I go to any new city, I will visit the museums there. This should be the best way to understand the history of a city. Suzhou Museum, designed by North China, takes walls as paper, stones as paintings, and patchwork rockeries, creating the artistic conception beauty of oriental ink-and-wash landscape painting in the underground of Jiangnan with dense flowers and trees, a pool of clear water and misty rain, which is unforgettable so far. Therefore, although Shenzhen has only a history of more than 30 years, the museum is also a must-see place in my opinion. There is no objection to the comparison of Z Jun, and it is rare for anyone to agree with this, but I am optimistic about him at two points.

Eat, drink and go shopping. I took him to eat Shenzhen morning tea, casserole porridge and Chaoshan beef hotpot. He offered to carry my bag and open an umbrella for me. So far, Z Jun's three-day trip to Shenzhen has been very successful. After his trip to Shenzhen, he returned to Shanghai, and we had a new round of contact once a month or even several months.

(3)

Sometimes you get into a contradictory situation. What is the ambiguous and awkward relationship between Z Jun and me? But some people say that the best stage of love is that I know you like me, and I have a good impression on you, but there is no ambiguous period. Although, I don't think we are ambiguous, there is a tacit understanding that a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water.

Goodbye is a few months later. Z Jun has worked in Shanghai for several months, but he still can't adapt. In addition, he has friends who intend to start a business, hoping that he will go back and give his full support, so he returned to Wuhan in 10. I don't quite understand this feeling. After staying in Shenzhen for three years, I have learned a whole body of copper and iron, and all the people who can't go back are their hometown.

On the Lunar New Year's Eve in China, Mr. Z gave me a book, made a web page with photos of our three-day trip to Shenzhen in June, and packaged it for me. The unique romantic expression of the scientific IT man still touched the old lady's heart.

10 In mid-October, college roommates got married in their hometown in Hubei. It happened to be the wedding on Sunday, and my roommate and other friends went to congratulate me. I asked for leave and went back to Wuhan at the weekend. The train arrived at Wuchang station at six in the morning. I had lunch with friends from Wuhan and Guangzhou, and left Hankou Railway Station for Xiangyang in the afternoon.

/kloc-Wuhan in October is already very cold. In the morning, everyone wears long sleeves, and some people wear coats. Fortunately, I am well prepared, so I don't have to take the train all night, and it won't be too awkward to get off the train. Z Jun came to pick me up early in the morning. He lives in his own home in Wuhan and lives alone. Although it is not far from the station, I am still very touched that someone got up so early to meet me. I went into KFC to prepare some coffee and sat there waiting for him to come. Just as I was about to pay the bill, he came and looked at my direction tacitly. At the moment I turned around, we smiled at each other, the world was still, and our eyes were only on each other.

There is enough time. He didn't go back to school for nearly three years and wanted to go back to his alma mater. He was also happy to accompany me. I took the only double-decker bus to and from school, built as I did three years ago, walked through Nanmen Commercial Street countless times, walked through the playground where I practiced three-step layups, walked through the No.1 and No.2 teaching buildings of European architecture, walked through the library and lover's slope, walked through the back hill where I practiced Mandarin, walked through the Sanjianchi where I filmed a commemorative video, walked through the dining hall in the east and west areas, and walked through the grove where I enjoyed cherry blossoms, osmanthus flowers and plum blossoms. On the door, I sneaked into the dormitory where I had lived for four years. The moment I came out of the dormitory, it was like going back to the past. Like most girls, there is a boy waiting for me downstairs.

It's hard to make an appointment with a college roommate. We don't meet once a year, from Yicheng to Wu Guang, and then to the underground commercial street of Hankou Railway Station. Like procrastination in school, time is too late. A simple and casual meal was not delicious, but Mr. Z was polite in front of my friends. My roommates joked that W (referring to me) was the most beautiful in our dormitory, and the meal you owed us in college was finally returned. There is an unconventional tradition in the university. Every girl's boyfriend in the dormitory invited us to dinner, but I spent four years in college alone, indulging in novels, drinking a little wine and writing some sour words and sad sentences every day to kill time.

Jun z told me all the way. He has nothing to do at the weekend anyway. He wants to go with me. He has seen L (married roommate) in Shenzhen before, and it is quite normal to attend the wedding. I meet my best friend in our dormitory once a year, and there must be something to talk about. I don't have time to care about you and refuse. Although the roommates who were watching the excitement and didn't care too much encouraged them all the way, Z Jun didn't go with us in the end.

After attending the wedding on Sunday, I caught the plane in the evening and flew back to Guangdong overnight. I didn't have time to say goodbye to Z Jun!

(4)

It's the end of 20 16. According to the habit of previous years, I always stay in Wuhan for a few days, meet my old friends, and then go home for the New Year. This year is no exception. At two o'clock in the morning, I walked out of Wuchang Station with a heavy suitcase and took a taxi to the hotel on Jianghan Road that was booked in advance. I didn't tell Z Jun when I would arrive.

In the middle, there is another story.

20 16 it's almost three years since I graduated, and my family doesn't have to pay my tuition and living expenses, but also all the expenses of my brother's college education. My father resigned and went home. With the existing money and the patchwork of relatives, he built the house wholeheartedly. Z Jun's father is doing building materials decoration business on our side. My father stayed at home for a year, and I found Z Jun's father for home decoration. They are already parents. During this period, my father asked me if I wanted Z Jun's father to help us decorate the house. I sincerely say no. Z and I have no definite relationship, so it is not easy to get involved in economic interest disputes. This relationship is not pure at all. To put it mildly, my father is selling his daughter. My dad often calls me to ask how you and Z Jun are doing recently, and if there is any contact.

This seems to be based on marriage. However, in my opinion, Z Jun and I have never established a love relationship, let alone like it. We don't even hold hands, hug or kiss, and the invisible gap between us will never be bridged. However, in imagination, the intimate contact between two people in love is indispensable. In this case of family love, I am disgusted, so I have had several great unpleasantness with my father.

My family leaked the news when I went home and passed by Wuhan to Z Jun, who was a little timid and silent. He will tell all these things to my family as my birthday present, since everyone in our family knows it from Z Jun's father.

Z Jun seldom takes the initiative to contact, but as long as I appear beside him, he will be extremely active. I have the habit of sending Weibo a diary. Knowing that I was in Wuhan, Z Jun said he wanted to see me and asked me when I would go home, so we could go back together. I said I had an appointment with my friends at night, and I had already bought the tickets to go home. He said he would go if he told him the time and place. He said he would go back with him after my long vacation.

I have some psychological contradictions. On the one hand, I want to keep my distance, and I don't want Mr. Z to have too much contact with my circle. On the other hand, I want him to meet my friends and ask my girlfriends to help me check my tone and judge the emotional value that has not yet begun. It's not worth continuing.

Friends I haven't seen for a long time are chattering and making noise. After dinner, they continued to visit Jianghan Road Night Market with undiminished interest, took a fancy to a pair of earrings and bought the same ones as in college. It was too late to go shopping, so two of them went back to the hotel with me to sleep at the party, and the rest caught the last bus. Y (one of my college roommates) and Z Junshun Road, all the way to insinuate that many people are chasing me, Z, you should work hard and catch up with W (referring to me) as soon as possible!

(5)

I got up early and didn't go back. It was too early in the old alley of Jianghan Road. I sat down at the old table set by the stall owner. I'm satisfied with Regan Noodles and noodle soup for 4 yuan a bowl, which is many times more delicious than breakfast in Shenzhen. There is another reason to get up early. Z Jun's birthday is just during the Spring Festival. He took his children across Qing Ji Street and came to the main branch road to choose a birthday present for him. Politeness is essential when the ceremony is still going on.

It took three hours to go home by bus. We chatted off and on for a while, and then went to bed. When I arrived at the station, I called my uncle at home to pick me up, and Z Jun called his father to pick him up. I left before him, and when I came back, my dad blamed me for not bringing Z Jun back. I refute what people have to do with you and why they want to go home together. This is the beginning of an unhappy ending.

Z Jun sent me a message at night, saying that he would come to your house tomorrow!

Before that, we reached a tacit understanding that getting along with each other is a matter for two people, so don't get involved in the family and avoid going to each other's home. That's why I told him not to come. You can go out and meet sometime. As a result, Z Jun came to our house with his father in the morning and brought a bunch of alcohol and tobacco gifts to visit us.

My parents were all smiles, but I kept a straight face and didn't know how to deal with it. Our house has just been renovated, so it is inevitable to clean it when we go home. Z Jun volunteered to help and cleaned the doors, windows, tables and chairs. My father must be laughing at the moment, and the more he looks at his son-in-law, the more pleasing he is. And I, the in the mind more and more entangled.

Go home for the New Year, do routine work, renew Hong Kong and Macao passes, get together with several high school classmates, visit relatives and friends, and take turns to have New Year's Eve dinner.

Because of the appearance of Z Jun, this year is somewhat different.

Z jun's parents think that we have been together for a year, and it's time to go to their home for dinner. I refuse.

My parents think it's time to invite the Z family after we've been together for a year. The handwritten invitation said in-laws, but I refused.

Z jun's parents and my parents both think it's time for us to settle down and get married first. I strongly refuse.

I refuse to go to Z Jun's house for dinner. In our hometown, it is customary for male and female friends or blind date to determine success together and then go to each other's house for dinner. As far as I know, we are still in a long period of getting along, and it is not time to go to his house for dinner. It was agreed on the Internet the night before yesterday that I would take care of my parents and he would take care of them, so don't talk about it in a hurry. As a result, after breakfast the next day, he appeared in our house and said he would pick me up for dinner. There is no doubt that Z Jun's cowardice is exposed at this time. I was angry with him, but when my family saw him coming, they reversed the wind. "You have been together for a year, so you should reassure your parents." "This is just a meal. It's no big deal to come back after eating. " "It's rude to read so many books for nothing." I was 24 years old, even if 18, it was not so gullible.

Encouraged by both sides, I raised the flag and surrendered to eat this meal.

In this way, two days later, my father called Z Jun's parents while I was not paying attention. The two families got together one night and asked me if I would like to settle down. Under the attack of both sides, I cried and said no. My dad started calling me a jinx, a singer, and saying things like breaking off the relationship between father and daughter. In a rage, I almost ran away from home with my box.

Say goodbye to Z Jun completely. It was the Dragon Boat Festival in 17. Knowing that I came home from Shenzhen, he also went back from Wuhan. I said I didn't want him to come to our house, and he could go out if he wanted to meet, but he came anyway. After lunch, I said quietly, let's not contact again. Since then, my father has never given me a good face.

I hope I have happy luck and confidence, and I hope my future will not be arranged by my family.