Why does my mother-in-law like to take her grandson back to her hometown?

Not only my mother-in-law, but also my grandmother said so. After I got pregnant, my parents said they would return the baby to her later. I am very exclusive. I'm pregnant with the baby for ten months. Don't worry about the baby. His father won't want the child to go back to raise it.

My mother doesn't seem to think we don't want to. She called and said that the granddaughter next door grew up in her grandmother's house and didn't want to go back. Sometimes she cries in the middle of the night and asks her father to take her to grandma's house. Whose daughter works in Tianjin, the eldest daughter is at school, and the younger daughter can't take care of it, so the parents bring it back to take care of it. Alas, I really don't want to. My door is the main road of villages and towns, which makes people uneasy.

Old people are not used to living in cities. They are used to a spacious and unrestrained home. They don't want to be trapped in the city, and they have no acquaintances to talk to. Living in the home of their son's daughter-in-law or daughter-in-law is always better than their own, and the consumption level in the city is higher. Old people are worried about money. For example, my mother-in-law has her own vegetable garden, rice fields and a flock of chickens, and she can be self-sufficient all year round.

So it is not difficult to understand that the old man wants to take his grandson back to his hometown.

Who doesn't know that staying at home is very comfortable? I am in charge of my website. Isn't that what everyone is chasing? It is wrong to take care of the baby in front of the daughter-in-law. It is mentally and physically tiring.

Because they have different ideas about how to take care of the baby, they can't say it yet. We should raise children according to our own wishes. Not bound by them. Don't be looked down upon, don't get angry, and take good care of your family.

They will blame her for not taking good care of the children. Let me see if you want to. I'll take the children home. This is a wise practice of many mothers-in-law.

That's because the mother-in-law is more suitable for the living environment in her hometown and is used to it in all aspects. For example, her hometown has fields to grow vegetables, and the air quality in her hometown is much better than that in the city. She can also grow some crops to increase the source of family income. Now almost every village is paved with cement roads, and the traffic is very convenient, so it is very convenient to go there. But her mother-in-law and grandson chose to take her to consider in their hometown.

Many mothers-in-law have grandchildren in their eyes. I didn't expect to be left-behind children once I took them back. Grandparents' love can never replace maternal love.

I have been there before. Go back to your mother's house after giving birth, and then go to work. After maternity leave, I asked my mother-in-law to bring it down. I have to go to work. I'm a trainer in a shopping mall, and I'm going to be promoted to assistant manager.

The day after her mother-in-law came down, she said that she would take her children back to her hometown. We agreed to ask her to come down and take care of the children. I didn't want to say that she had to take the baby away because it was only one month old, and she worked hard 10. This is very cruel.

Husband and mother-in-law said they couldn't get it back for the time being, but her mother-in-law complained a little but didn't mention it again.

But in the next few days, my mother-in-law began to hold her child in her arms until I came back from work or at lunch time to cook for her. I hurried to work as soon as I finished eating, and when I really came back from work, I cooked and took care of the children. Mother-in-law didn't come out until she went back to her room for dinner. I know my mother-in-law is quarrelling and wants to take the child away.

Barely lived for 4 months, didn't like living, didn't eat well, had no one to play with, had no friends to chat with, and said that the house was all an excuse. In the end, I was miserable, clamoring to go back to the countryside, even leaving my children alone.

After my husband and I weighed, the child was still eating human milk for five or six months, and didn't give milk powder when I went back to my hometown (my mother-in-law told me not to give the child milk powder before giving birth, just drink some porridge water). I don't see each other twice a year in the countryside, so I can't see the good or bad. Forget it. I quit my job and brought it myself.

My mother-in-law was very angry with me for this move. When she left, she told me that you had to bring it yourself and that I wouldn't help you.

Many mothers-in-law don't know that children are the emotional bond between husband and wife and the spiritual comfort after hard work. It is good for physical and mental development to let children stay with their parents and grow up happily and healthily.

However, some mothers-in-law are not used to living in a strange city because they have left the place where they have lived for decades. The place where they live is not as big as their own home, and there is no one to talk to when they go out. Unlike many villages in the country, people can talk to anyone for a long time. In addition, many old people in the village also bring grandchildren, so many mother-in-law look envious and want to bring their grandchildren back.

However, many mothers-in-law can persist, all for their children and grandchildren! .

Coincidentally, my friend has been worried about this problem recently. Her mother-in-law said that she should either take the children back to their hometown or go back to their hometown and let them take them by themselves.

My friend reflected. There are three reasons why my mother-in-law wants to go back to her hometown so much and doesn't want to stay in the city. If she knew the problem, she would try to solve it.

1. Her mother-in-law has no friends here. Every day, she is a child, and there is no one to talk to. My father-in-law farmed in her hometown, and my mother-in-law didn't want to be separated from her father-in-law for a long time. So they are going to let her father-in-law come over this year and stop farming. They also have a care, and their mother-in-law has a companion.

Friends sometimes need to socialize because of work, husbands are busy, and mother-in-law takes a long time to take care of children alone. It's boring to take care of the children alone for too long. My mother-in-law feels very hard because she has to cook every night, so my friend discussed with her husband, less social intercourse and more care for the family. A person must go home on time every day and give her mother-in-law a holiday every week.

3. I have a heavy burden in my heart, fearing that my child will be said by my daughter-in-law. Because her living habits and the way of taking care of children are different from those of my friends, sometimes my friends just say that she is not doing well. She didn't pay attention to her tone, so she was said many times and naturally felt uncomfortable. I am kind enough to help you with this matter, but you always tell me what to do. You're not feeling well. So pay attention to your tone, thank your mother-in-law for taking care of your children, get to know her mother-in-law, and buy her some clothes and gifts from time to time.

Therefore, you need to know what is the real reason why your mother-in-law wants to go back to her hometown, whether she is not used to talking and doing things in the city, or whether she wants to go home and let your father-in-law help her share it with her, or whether she has no money.

Find the reason and then think of a solution to the problem, otherwise she will not be happy even if she reluctantly continues to help you take care of the children in the city, thus making everyone unhappy.

Because my mother-in-law has long been used to living in her hometown, she doesn't need to bring her grandchildren, but it's not necessary. She lives in the city with her son and daughter-in-law. Many of them are not used to city life. The pace of life is different and the space is limited.

If you go back to your hometown to take care of your grandson, you will have more free space and you can follow your own way of life. Neighbors are all acquaintances, so the pressure of looking after them is not so great. The activity space is large, and people are happy!

My mother-in-law likes to take her grandson back to her hometown. I think there are two reasons.

First, it is caused by the mother-in-law's acclimatization. After living and working in my hometown for decades, the familiar environment, familiar customs and familiar neighbors have been deeply engraved in the old woman's heart. In order to take her grandson away from home and come to a strange place, it is understandable that her mother-in-law is not used to it. I took my grandson back to my hometown and made my own decisions on my own turf. I don't feel dependent on others. No need to feel words, communication is barrier-free, neighborhood chat is not lonely, accompanied by a small pistachio. It's really smug, smug.

The second is to save money. Cities spend a lot of money, and everything needs RMB. The mother-in-law is worried about her son and daughter-in-law. It is not easy to make money. If her hometown is in the countryside, she will take her grandson back to her hometown, raise chickens, ducks and geese in groups, and grow a kind of vegetables and fruits, which is both economical and green. Why not?

However, in families with conditions, parents should do everything possible to take their children with them, and don't leave regrets because they missed their children's growth.

Suddenly want to answer this question.

A hometown is familiar to my parents-in-law (I have lived for decades and all my friends are in my hometown).

Second, who owns the venue (going to an unfamiliar place is like visiting someone else's house, and nothing is right, even the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is wrong)

Third, save money (old people think that cities spend more money, rent, water and electricity ... if you can save one person, you can save one person)

Fourth, it is better to cultivate the feelings of grandparents and grandchildren (it is better to cultivate feelings without a mother). Some old people want their grandchildren to be closer to themselves than their mothers. Just some old people, oh, not all.

In view of this, there is no way to kill two birds with one stone, either put it in your hometown as your in-laws wish or carry it with you.

I think it's really liberating physically to put it in my hometown, but it's very tiring mentally. I will think about how the baby eats and how to dress safely all day … I will be on tenterhooks all day. Besides physical strength, I am really tired and mentally tired, but I can rest assured by my side.

My mother-in-law and we always have different ideas, and ours is no exception. I like to dress my girl up as a boy. My baby is a girl who never wears pink clothes and lighter shoes, saying that she is not resistant to dirt, wears clothes for a long time, and is particularly dirty and rustic with grandma's children! Never tie our hair, the kind that is cut so short. Don't want to live in the city with us, it's inconvenient, just like in the countryside, I don't want to take her back every time. But every time we come home from work, we want to see the baby at first sight. It's always empty when the baby is not around. And every time I buy clothes for my children, I don't give them. I always pick up clothes worn by others, and all the clothes I buy are smaller. My dressing style is different from hers. I don't like what she wears, and she doesn't like what I wear. Natural contradictions come. Don't wear clothes when you buy them, and put them down as soon as you put them down. Anyway, it feels like the generation gap is so big. Usually I'm embarrassed to talk to my face when I take care of my children. When taking care of children, you can only do it according to your own ideas, and your mother-in-law can put it beside her.

1. Because people are old, they still feel that their hometown is good, the mountains are good, the water is good, the air is fresh, living in their own home is more comfortable, and they are familiar with everything, not to mention their father-in-law, who can give them a hand when they are tired.

I am not used to living in the city. In the country, I am very free. I can do whatever I want. I can also do farm work and chat with my neighbors in my spare time. The city can't do anything, there are too many constraints, and it is locked in the house all day, and no one talks.

Another key reason is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Living together, the relationship is not easy to deal with. In addition, in the way and concept of raising children, the elderly and young people are not the same, so it is even more difficult to deal with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Just leave, go to your own place, make your own decisions, and take whatever you want.