The house is too shabby. Will children feel inferior when they grow up?

I don't know if he will feel inferior, but I know that he knows everything, knows that the house he lives in is not good, and tells a real case of our family.

We have our own house, downstairs 100 square meters, with attic, and the attic is more than 60 square meters. Without old people, we'll live in three rooms, which are very spacious. The baby lived with us until he was three years old.

When he was three years old, I had an opportunity to study in other cities, thinking that he was going to kindergarten soon, and he could work after finishing his studies. He used to look after the children at home. I took my children to the city where I studied. When my father didn't follow me at first, I arranged a kindergarten. Send the children to kindergarten during the day, and I will study.

Because it was just the two of us and time was tight, we just found a house. The house is not small, with two bedrooms and one living room, but it is an old house decorated in an old way. In the snack street.

My son will say, mom, it's dirty, smelly and noisy here. He doesn't like that place very much and has been clamoring to go home.

Later, I accidentally got pregnant with a second child, and I felt uncomfortable living there. Snack street tastes strange. My husband came to take care of us and then changed a house. When I first went to see the house, my son liked it. It had a children's room. As soon as our son liked it, we decided on the spot.

I think children can still tell good from bad. The child's heart will not be so strong. He must want good conditions, good things. A good environment can still enhance children's self-confidence!

I still hope to create a good living environment for my children!

In fact, whether children feel inferior has little to do with the house, but with their parents. If parents feel inferior because the house is too shabby, children will feel inferior because the house is too shabby.

In fact, children themselves don't need too much material, they need the companionship and care of their parents. Parents, as their first teachers, should set an example. If parents sigh every day, worry about money every day, and feel inferior because the house is dilapidated, then children will be affected by these influences and gradually become like this.

The generation of inferiority complex generally has a comparative process. If the parents feel inferior because the house is too shabby, the children's attention will notice the difference between their own house and others' houses, and they will compare them and come to the conclusion that their house is really inferior to others, and they will feel inferior because of the house.

Parents' inferiority to the broken house is equivalent to planting the seeds of inferiority in their children's hearts: the house is broken and there is no money. This seed will germinate and grow under the "irrigation" of parents.

In fact, a child's initial understanding and view of the outside world depends largely on his parents (or his upbringing). A child is like a stone, and his parents (or his upbringing) will give him a general sculpture, which will form a big problem. In other words: parents will stereotype their children. After the stereotype, children's efforts are to refine all aspects, but in general they still follow the stereotype given by their parents.

I really feel inferior. I grew up in a small house, with five people crowded in 13 square meters and no toilet. This is a building with a long history. I used to feel so inferior that I wouldn't bring my friends home. My childhood dream was to buy a house for my family. Actually, my parents said I could afford a bigger one, but I didn't give up spending money, so my vision is really important. I also inherited myopia, so I can buy a house if I have money. My family said it was expensive, but the house was still falling. Sisters say second-hand is not easy to use, otherwise parents can't go upstairs. My parents were in good health, and they swore at each other, and then it was like this. I haven't bought it for two years. Then the conditions were good. I will buy a new house. More than 800 thousand is only 50 square meters, with a down payment of 300 thousand, and then I have to pay. My dad asked me sarcastically, what ability do you have to buy such an expensive one? I don't need to buy a house at all. I just want to give him a change of scenery. There is also a place to live when you go home. Now I can't buy it for 900 thousand, and I'm 30 years old I got married, and my husband supported me to buy a house, saying that my wish would come true. We have a house in Chengdu. If you don't buy a house, life will be really easy. . Still want to buy, feel safe.

Yes, when I was a child, my family was too poor to bring my classmates to our home.

You can rent a house at work, but you are afraid to take your colleagues and friends to your place of residence, let alone bring your children.

We bought the first suite on 12, and we didn't live in our own house because of the distance. My son went to primary school and didn't live in a second house until he was 6 years old. At first, teachers always let his parents shoot videos at home. The house has not been renovated or rented. My son doesn't think he will let the teacher shoot on purpose, and he doesn't like it in his circle of friends.

We don't want children to show off and compare, mainly because we live in an environment where money can represent strength. Without a certain economic foundation, we really have no confidence to be human. Especially some people who love many things are more likely to bring unhealthy growth to young minds and seriously affect their outlook on life and values in the future. As parents, we try our best to provide a better life for our children and richer material conditions for their families. We don't want our children to follow my path and let them grow up happily.

Don't invite me to answer.

Children in this era will definitely feel inferior!

My good friend's house is like this, a typical person who won't spend money on the cutting edge. First introduce the financial ability of her husband's family. Her parents-in-law seem to be about 60 years old and haven't retired yet. The old couple have been engaged in timber business all their lives, that is, one has built a big yard to store timber, and there are two private houses at home, one is rented to others, and the other is it runs in the family. My in-laws live on the first floor and my friend lives on the second floor. Because we are from the street and they are from the countryside, my friend earns about 6000 yuan a month, and my husband's bus driver is well treated, but the hygiene at home is simply dirty!

Our street was only 2000 yuan seven years ago, and it was still a very good community, but no one bought it, or we rural people didn't have a long-term vision. His family had the money to buy a new house, and his parents-in-law bought an old building near their village in the name of waiting for demolition, and then they decorated the outside and rented it out slightly. Does it sound particularly nice? My parents-in-law do business, their son and daughter-in-law are almost 10 thousand yuan a month, and two generations have raised a grandson.

However, one thing surprised me. My friend was on a business trip for a week, and my son was taken to bed by her husband every night. My son was about five years old. As a result, my nose was bitten by a mouse in the middle of the night, and my face was covered with blood. I was sent to the hospital for an injection. In winter, mosquito nets are hung on mosquito nets. In summer, I heard from my friends that there are so many mosquitoes at home that I can't walk with my eyes open. I really can't feel it. There are cabinets and shoes everywhere in the house, and there is no place.

Until one day, I took my friend and her son to another good friend's house for dinner. Another friend lives in a mid-range community, with good greening, sanitation and fitness equipment. When I arrived at a friend's house, I heard my son say in an envious tone, "This aunt's house is really beautiful and clean. I especially want to live in such a house." Later, I advised my friends many times to buy a smaller community for their children, because the husband and wife refused to repay the loan for fear of pressure.

The school has a holiday on weekends. This son doesn't go out to find friends and doesn't want to take his classmates to his house. In fact, he is very inferior. Because other people's homes are so beautiful, so clean and pleasant to live in, while their own homes are full of clothes and shoes. Either bitten by mosquitoes or bitten by mice. Every time we want to go to this good friend's house for dinner and visit their old house, we are turned away. We would rather pay us to drink outside than go to their house. You think adults will be embarrassed, and visitors will feel embarrassed to entertain guests at home, let alone children.

Be careful, children. If you think children are young, then you are younger than children. Don't think children don't know anything. In fact, they know everything in their hearts. Sometimes it's just that we parents don't want to give them a chance to express ourselves.

When I was a child, I was also a rural baby. I have to pee in the toilet outside. In summer, maggots in the toilet can make you vomit last night's meal. Although parents still live in the countryside, the new house built has its own bathroom. Even if the toilet at home is occupied by guests, I would rather hold back from going to the dry toilet in the village. The decoration of the newly built house is no different from that in the city!

If hard work can make children live a better life, my husband and I will also work hard to make money and save money for a better community. I'd rather sleep an hour less and keep my home clean and tidy. I am happy that my home is clean and tidy. My son especially likes to invite children from his kindergarten to my home to play! I am also very pleased to see my son's confident face.

Inferiority will accompany the child for life. Our efforts are all for the children, not only the problem of food and clothing, but also the psychology, early detection and early education! Self-confidence is also cultivated from childhood.

My personal experience! Will feel inferior! It also inspired me! I am a female, 88 years old. When I was a child, I lived in a rural bungalow yard with a dry toilet. The primary schools nearby are classrooms where everyone takes turns to make a fire early! At that time, everyone may have the same environment and no difference in vision! The only memory is that from the first day to the third day, all kinds of hot lunch boxes filled the classroom, and it was impossible for people to attend classes!

Later, in order to get me into a better junior high school, my mother transferred to a good primary school in the city in the fifth grade. Counterpart is our best junior high school! When I got to that primary school, I realized that basically all my classmates lived in buildings, and only my family lived in bungalows. And many of my classmates have cars. My mother had a little Mulan at that time, and I used to think it was very good. I don't compare with others. But I will feel inferior. I never invite my classmates to my home. I really want to invite you. Later, because the primary school was close to my second aunt's house. They are all buildings, so I go to my second aunt's house occasionally. I really don't like living in bungalows! Mainly can't stand the toilet!

When I was in the third grade, I also lived in my aunt's house, and my aunt's house also lived in the building. Although they are not big, they are clean! I live in high school and I am used to living in buildings. I don't like going home gradually. When my parents divorced, my mother and I were too busy to take care of our inner feelings. I also know that my mother works hard, so there will be no complaints and complaints. I grew up eating a hundred meals. But I've always wanted to have my own house, my own room, and I don't have to rely on others!

The university is working hard for my goal. 16 years, my mother got a serious illness, and it was inconvenient to go back to the bungalow to go to the toilet after operation, and it was inconvenient to go to the kang. My husband offered to buy a house for my mother first. It took us four days to buy my mother a 79-square-meter house with the full amount of 270,000 yuan. The house in the county is not expensive, but my mother is very moved. What I'm thinking is that all my relatives and friends have already lived in the building. Mom's sisters are all buildings. My mother has never lived in a building in her life, so I must let her live. Otherwise, I will regret it if my mother is gone in the future!

Maybe God will care if my husband and I are filial children. Business has been particularly good in recent years. My husband and I also bought villas and Land Rover in Shenyang. After graduating from college, I have been traveling all over the world for one breath. The classmates around me are better than before, and they don't feel like an era. I can't be better than that. Can't spell dad, spell myself! It is also the pressure and motivation brought by inferiority! Take a picture of our new house and our big baby.

I don't know the rest. Let's talk about our home! Our first house, the 150 flat elevator villa in the city center, was later sold for various reasons and replaced with 120 flat. Although it is also in the urban area, its geographical location is not as good as that of the first house. The child was too young to feel it, and he didn't feel it subconsciously. But one day, we took her back to her hometown in the countryside, and she suddenly said a few words, which surprised me a little. She said that her mother's husband's family was so shabby, rotten and dirty (the wife was her husband's grandmother's family in the countryside), and she didn't want to get off the bus and let her father hold her, saying that her shoes were dirty. I looked at her, my heart was about to explode, and I was going to drag her into the water. Her father told her not to talk like this, which would be rude and unprofessional and the old man would be sad. Tell her that dad grew up here when he was a child, and we may live here when we are old. When we are old, our health will be bad. The daughter got off the bus without saying anything. Later, we often took her back to her husband's hometown, my hometown, and went there more often. She also adapted and liked to go, so I don't know if the child was careless or something. Inferiority is definitely not. Whether a family is good or bad will make children feel inferior. I think it is part of parents' education and the children's own reasons. Selfishness does not understand parents' difficulties, and vanity is strong, because everyone wants to give their children the best.

Yes! Ten years ago, we lived in a village in the city and rented a house with two bedrooms and one living room. The house is a new house with only one household on the first floor, but it is a village in the city after all.

At that time, it was 2008, and the children went to junior high school, which was a provincial key children's middle school. The students in the class are all employees' children and live in the community. Because my child studies well, all her classmates are willing to make friends with her. Some students invited her to play at home, and many students asked my home address and wanted to come to my home to play.

After the child told me, he said that he would not let his classmates go home, because the address reported by other students was a unit of a building in a certain district. My family lived in a village in the city, and there were only a few alleys, so the child felt very inferior. After hearing this, I was very moved and thought it was time to buy a house! Let children have face and confidence in front of classmates, because my children are not vain children. You must have a problem with the children in the village if you can say that.

Later, I told my niece about it. My niece is in high school. My niece said, "Yes, renting a house in a village in the city, among my classmates. Very embarrassing, very shameful, a little. "

After consulting with my wife, I looked around the house. At that time, there were few high-grade residential areas in Xi 'an, all of which were tube-shaped buildings developed by local small developers. Huxing is not good, the environment is too bad, there is no greening, but there are many acquaintances in the community and the location is good. Ask for the opinions of the two children. The children don't agree and unanimously demand to buy supporting real estate. It doesn't matter if you have acquaintances.

Picked almost seventy or eighty properties and came to the sales department of my community. At that time, the house price in our community was higher than that in the surrounding area 1000 yuan, and a suite was hundreds of thousands more, but it was the best property in Fiona Fang at that time. The career counselor said something that made me pay the price without hesitation. She said: "Although our property is expensive, it is high! If your child studies well, it will be different when he goes to college. If her classmates come to your house to play and see the community environment and greening, does the child have face? "

In fact, the guests who have been to my house all praise our community for its good environment, and many foreigners often sneak into the community to take selfies. Moreover, the economic conditions and quality of our neighbors are good, and we are very satisfied.

There is also an acquaintance of mine whose child is as big as mine. He heard that I bought a house and wanted to see it. He said that his children complained at home, saying that other students and others lived in the community, while our family rented a house in the village. Lazar ate and drank in the same room, and there was no kitchen and bathroom, because he only rented a large suite to save money. Later, at the urging of the children, his family also bought a house.

I think of the story of Meng Mu's three moves, and then look at the environment and people living in many urban reform communities. I think I made the right choice. When the house is dilapidated and the children are old, they will really feel inferior.

First, in my opinion, I feel inferior.

Second, the degree and heart of inferiority will also be influenced by family.

Children will naturally understand when they are older. She can see and listen. Comparison and contrast are too common in this society. I come from the countryside. When you go out to school and see a big house and a bright house, you will be disappointed with the broken house at home. When I met my good friends in the city, I was embarrassed to invite them to my home. No one can compare, only myself.

Later, until graduation, I found a decent job through my own efforts. I sometimes tell the truth about the embarrassment at home. At that time, none of my colleagues and friends looked down on me. They appreciate my efforts and my mentality. When I talked about this later, I really took them as jokes. At that time, if my parents, like my colleagues and friends, could tell me this, I think, with strong confidence and heart, I should not feel inferior.

So ... I think the topic is mainly to set an example for children. Let the children feel that I am trying to live. Work hard. Show the positive side of sunshine to children. You are strong, children are strong. On the other hand, I don't believe such a person will live in a small house all his life.

I feel inferior, and so do adults. I was afraid of things since I was a child, and my husband was not as good as me. After I got pregnant, I bought an old house of more than 40 square meters for my children to settle down. I naively thought the house was going to be demolished, so I never sold it. My family of four lived in it for 8 years. I have never sent photos taken at home for 8 years, and my teacher's home visit has been rejected. The school asked me to find the angle carefully when punching in and taking pictures, because I didn't want others to know that my house was so crowded.