How to refuse in the workplace without embarrassing the other party?

1, empathy.

When your colleague wants to ask you for help, and it will make him feel uncomfortable, then we should put ourselves in others' shoes and let him understand the discomfort imposed on him.

We can use some probing tone, such as "I know you need help very much" or "I know your thoughts very well". These words also show that they have understood what he said, not that kind of hasty refusal.

2. Try to refuse in a "gentle and reliable" way.

Most people hate outspoken people. They tend to be self-centered and never consider other people's moods and faces. If this type of person is a leader, others may not say anything. If such a person is a colleague, people around him will hate him.

Therefore, when rejecting others, the tone and tone should be gentle. If it doesn't involve your principle bottom line, you don't have to resolutely refuse. Of course, a firm attitude is needed behind the doctrine of the mean. No matter how entangled and threatened the other party, it will not change.

When refusing others, don't be led by the nose, but passively let the other party understand their difficulties and positions, and minimize the embarrassment and influence of refusal.

3. explain your difficulties before refusing.

If you can't find a suitable reason, tell your own difficulties and let him think from your point of view. Because, generally, people who need your help don't know your current work pressure and whether you have time. At this time, we can explain our difficulties in detail, or talk about our inconvenience. I believe he will understand.

Learning the art of refusal can not only reduce a lot of psychological tension and pressure, but also show the uniqueness of personality, which will not make you passive in communication and help to deal with the relationship between good people. If you don't make good use of it, you can achieve a wonderful situation of elegance, leisure, implication and endless aftertaste.