There is no need to care about the "concern" of the seventh aunt and the eighth aunt.

What are the hottest topics during the Spring Festival? The seven aunts and the eight aunts must do their part. If you don’t believe it, come and see:

For primary school students and middle school students, "Where is your final exam rank?"

For college students, "How is your major? Graduation If you have a future, don’t forget about us!”

For those who have just started working, “How much is your annual salary? Do you have a partner? If you don’t hurry up, you will be left behind..." /p>

For those who are married, "Has the mortgage been paid off? When will you have a baby? Your parents can still help you take care of the baby."

For those with children, "The country is "Already allowed, when will we have a second child?"

The above phenomenon must be asked during every festive season. The seven aunts and eight aunts perform this drama year after year, enjoying the " The feeling of "elder" and "good for you".

Because of this incident, a lot of "How to Reply to Seven Aunts and Eight Aunts - Tutorials" appear on the Internet one month before the Spring Festival every year. Although there are high voices on the Internet, after all, they are all young people. It's just that people are addicted to talking. After all, can young people really be able to fight against them? Another point is that compared to the eight aunts and the six grandmothers, they are better able to understand the necessity of "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you."

So why does this phenomenon become more and more intense every year despite being criticized every year?

1. "What should be done is not done" may be due to a bottleneck.

No one will refuse good things. Since they have not done it, it is very likely that they do not have enough time, energy, money, courage and fate to realize it at the moment.

For example, many young women will face the choice between promotion and having children. Most of them cannot stand the pressure from the older generation or even their husbands, and they choose to have children and take care of them and then return to the company again, which is almost impossible for them. of foothold.

If a woman is more assertive and planned at this time and insists on having children later, she is very likely to be passed down as a bad legend by her aunts and wives.

2. "Not doing what should be done" may be because you don't want to do it at all.

As the family and career of the post-80s generation gradually stabilize, the post-90s generation has become a new generation of people to be discussed. At the same time, affected by social, ideological, economic and other aspects, some people simply do not want to enter the so-called "happy life" prematurely.

They have their own ideas, what they want to do at the moment, and a step-by-step itinerary.

3. The eight aunts and the six grandmothers just want to talk freely about themselves.

From the perspective of the seven aunts and eight aunts, are they really thinking about others? Do these "death reminders" have any practical significance?

Regardless of whether others can’t do it or don’t want to do it, the role of the “death charm” is not only to add disgust to others’ pictures, but also to achieve the pleasure of the three aunts and six women’s own witty remarks. The purpose is to show off one's own home.

We all learned from Xianglin’s Wife in middle school that a group of people “forced out a few tears” and then thought as if nothing had happened. They were only satisfied with the kind-hearted “Bodhisattva feeling” they thought they had. "That's all. Anyway, they don't have to take any responsibility for what they say.

4. No one should impose their own "happiness" on others, and there is no need for individuals to accept all the good intentions of others.

Xiao Zhao graduated at the age of 22, got married at the age of 23, gave birth to a child at the age of 24, and lives a happy life; does he have to follow this process for small money?

I will give you my favorite durian, but if you don’t eat it because it smells bad, I will say that you are ignorant, selfish, and don’t understand people. Is that okay?

Every individual in the world is different. It is not the happiness you think is the happiness of others, nor is it what you think others should be.

5. "Happiness" caused by succumbing to public opinion is likely to be misfortune.

For a large number of people, they do not have particularly strong personalities, and they think that what the three aunts and six wives say is normal, so they marry men when they are young and have children when they are young.

However, not having a strong personality does not mean that you have no personality, and as time goes by, you will feel that the current life is becoming more and more difficult. Endless quarrels and even divorce are now common.

There is a real family in my hometown. At that time, the man was in his thirties and it was difficult to find a wife. Because of the traditional concept of a happy family, he finally found a mentally ill woman; later he had a daughter, and the woman was mentally ill. Unfortunately, her daughter died due to a seizure. Later she gave birth to a boy, who was raised by his grandmother. Later, the boy's grandparents died one after another, and his father also suffered from cerebral thrombosis and died soon. Now only a 16-year-old boy and his mentally ill mother are left.

Is it happy to have a wife and children like this? Not to mention the extreme examples above, just ordinary arranged marriages or rush marriages, quarrels and fights after the marriage, and crying children, can it be called happiness?

In general, other people just want to see whether you fly high or not. Only those who really care about you will care whether you are tired from running.

Please maintain basic principles and kindness as a human being. Your own life is your own, don't let it be changed by other people's words, and don't arbitrarily comment on and suggest other people's paths.

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