How to help people make suggestions and get out of danger?

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Gui Guzi’s "Zhong Jing" chapter says: "Zhong Jing" means to revive the poor and become more urgent, and to give to them. A person who is eloquent and virtuous.

The "Zhongjing" refers to those who save people in danger, teach others and show great kindness and kindness.

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Who are in danger and need to be rescued? Guiguzi said: "Geshi, when the world is different, you may be able to avoid the Khotan pit, or you may be able to speak out when you are in trouble, you may be a hero by breaking your virtues, you may be guilty of being restrained, you may be kind to yourself, or you may be self-reliant after defeat. ”

Some of them were born at the wrong time and were lucky enough to escape the war in troubled times; some were killed because of their eloquence; some rebelled and became heroes and were even framed; some adhered to the good way; some Although he suffered defeat, he became self-reliant.

In fact, the above situation will not occur in modern society, but there are still many people in difficult situations, some are economic crises, some are marriage crises, and some are growing pains, etc.

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To help them, in addition to material support, more of course should be spiritual encouragement, so that they feel that they are not embarrassed to speak, not isolated in action, and can execute orders. .

Let’s take a look at the following example first:

Marquis Wen of Wei sent Le Yang to attack Zhongshan Kingdom. After defeating Zhongshan Kingdom, he granted it to his son. Marquis Wen then asked the officials what they thought of him. Everyone said: "He is a benevolent king." But a minister named Renzuo said: "When the king takes Zhongshan, he does not grant it to his younger brother, but to his own son. How can he be called a benevolent king?" Marquis Wen was very angry. The consequences seemed serious, and Ren Zuo had no choice but to run away.

When asked about Zhai Huang again, Huang replied: "He is a benevolent monarch." Marquis Wen said happily: "How can you tell?" He replied: "The ruler is benevolent and his ministers are upright. What he said just now is very good." Honest." Marquis Wen was very happy after hearing this, so he sent Zhai Huang to invite him back to his seat, and went down to the hall to greet him personally, treating him as an honored guest.

Ren Zuo was indeed very upright, but it made Wei Wenhou unable to step down. In order to save his colleagues, Zhai Huang praised Wei Wenhou in a roundabout way, which made him happy. He also understood the truth and knew that Ren Zuo was a wise minister.

Imagine that if Zhai Huang is eager to save people and continues to blame Wei Wenhou, then more than one or two ministers will suffer. Therefore, if you want to help people out of trouble, you cannot act recklessly, you need skills.

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Helping others out of trouble requires not only language skills, but also practical actions and even the cost of life, such as the well-known story of Hou Ying stealing a talisman to save Zhao.

Look at the following example:

The State of Qi sent troops to attack the State of Chu. Although Zifa, the general of the State of Chu, led the army to resist and the army retreated three times in a row, the Qi State army became increasingly weak. The stronger. A thief from the street came in and said, "I have some skills, and I hope I can do something for you." Zifa sent him without asking any questions.

The thief took advantage of the night to take down the mosquito net of General Qi and presented it to Zifa. Zifa then sent someone to send the mosquito net back to Qi, saying: "Some of the soldiers went out to chop wood and picked up the general's mosquito net. They sent someone to return it to the general." The next day, the thief went to pick up his pillow again. He sent someone back again. The general of Qi was greatly frightened and said, "If I don't leave quickly today, Chu's army may take my head."

Of course the thief's contribution cannot be denied, but the one who really helped Zifa get out of trouble was It's still him. Why do you say that? If you rely on a thief, no matter how many things he steals, he will not attract the attention of the general of Qi. Instead, he will laugh at Zifa.

Zi Fa's cleverness lies in his ability to make a fuss about this matter, taking advantage of the situation and taking advantage of the enemy's fear to force them to retreat. This example tells us that it is one thing for others to help you, but you have to rely on yourself to truly solve the problem, and you must be good at using all favorable conditions to get out of trouble.

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When you are in trouble and cannot extricate yourself, just call in reinforcements. If other people's methods are correct and the measures are appropriate, you must listen, and you must not say one thing on the surface but another behind the scenes.

Look at the following example:

A son of the wet nurse of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty broke the law and was worthy of death. Emperor Wu was prepared to deal with it according to law. The wet nurse went to ask Dongfang Shuo for help. Dongfang Shuo said to her: "This is not something I can win with intercession. If you want some help, just when you visit the emperor and leave, always look back at the emperor and be careful. Don't talk, there may be a glimmer of hope."

When the wet nurse arrived, she did exactly what Dongfang Shuo wanted. Dongfang Shuo then said to the wet nurse: "You are so infatuated. The emperor has grown up, how can you think that he has sucked the breasts from your breasts again?" Although Emperor Wu was talented and ambitious, and his mind was stoic, he was suddenly moved by nostalgia. So she felt compassion for her and pardoned her son.

The wet nurse was kind to Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, and Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty repaid his kindness and pardoned his son. If you only rely on Dongfang Shuo to intercede, the results will be difficult to predict. At the same time, the wet nurse has a sincere attitude, is willing to listen to other people's persuasion, and resolutely implements it, so that she can solve the problem.

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If people sincerely help you, you should obey their advice. Even if you fail, others have tried their best. Sometimes, people can make things happen and God can make things happen, so you can't blame others. But if we go to help others, we should not change the planned countermeasures easily, and we must not be interfered by the outside world.

Look at the following example:

At the end of the Han Dynasty, Taiwei Yang Biao married Yuan Shu. Cao Cao hated him because of this, so he was imprisoned and sent to the county. Order Man Chong to interrogate him. Kong Rong and Xun Jialu were tortured and interrogated in accordance with the law.

A few days later, Man Chong went to see Cao Cao and said: "Yang Biao was tortured and interrogated, but he couldn't get any confession. If he is punished because his charges are unclear, Ming Gong will definitely lose the support of the people." ”

Cao Cao then released Yang Biao. First, Xun Tuzier and Man Chong tortured Yang Biao, and were very angry. Later, Yang Biao was released from prison because of this, so he became even more angry. Full of kindness and favor.

In critical moments, everyone's judgment of the situation and attitude towards handling things will be different. If you don't understand the situation and can't figure out the family situation, it's best not to be too sure of what you say. At the same time, we must see the situation clearly and prescribe the right medicine without being paranoid.

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