At the wedding, my mother-in-law asked me to kneel down and offer tea in public, making me grovel in front of everyone. What should I do?

Is it important to be appropriate in marriage? I believe everyone has their own answer to this question. What is the right family? In fact, it is easy to understand, that is to say, the two parties who are married can only get married if their families are consistent.

There were classes in ancient China, and it was almost impossible for poor families to marry large families. It is precisely because of such conditions that in our concept, mutual suitability is the residual poison of feudal society and cannot be advocated.

But now, matching has a new meaning, and more and more people realize that matching in marriage actually makes sense. Now the meaning of this word mostly refers to the consistency of educational concepts, living habits and some material conditions between the two families.

Don't underestimate these factors, it is these factors that determine whether the married life of husband and wife is happy or not. Because these factors have a subtle influence on everyone's personality, and whether the personality matches is also a decisive factor for the long-term relationship between husband and wife.

In fact, different people have different views on it. For example, people who are in love will feel that it is meaningless to be suitable for each other. If you want to get married, it must be because of love. Nothing else is worth mentioning.

Married people will feel that feelings can be cultivated, and choosing a family is more important.

Choosing a person to enter marriage is not only a choice of life, but also a choice of your legal relatives, and you will live with the other family.

Whether you get along well with each other's relatives has become a key indicator to measure the quality of married life. This is one of the main reasons why marriage is difficult to operate.

In marriage, we should not only maintain the feelings between husband and wife, but also handle the relationship with another family member. If one of them is not satisfied, it will make the marriage unbalanced, and in serious cases it will ruin the marriage.

Therefore, before starting a marriage, we must first carefully understand each other's temperament, and we must understand each other's family situation, preferably appropriate. Don't get married only to find that you can't get along with the other family, which has caused many contradictions and affected your marriage.

We should all understand that only by making preparations in advance can we ensure a foolproof marriage and sail carefully for thousands of years.

However, in real life, there are still some people who become blind because of love, only to find that it is not easy to get along with each other or their families after they get married in a hurry, which eventually leads to the failure of marriage.

Xiao Lu is such a person, and the story that happened to her is even more outrageous. There were some accidents at the wedding, which made Xiao Lu unacceptable and dissolved her marriage in public.

Now, because of this, Lu Xiao and her boyfriend's family had a big fight, and their relationship came to an end.

Lu Xiao and her boyfriend have been in love for more than two years, and their relationship has been very good. Boyfriend takes care of Lu Xiao and loves her very much, which makes Lu Xiao feel that he has found the right person.

But there is still a small problem before them, that is, the family background is too different.

Xiao Lu's family is very ordinary. Her parents are ordinary company employees, and Xiao Lu is the only daughter in the family. And Lu Xiao's boyfriend's family is very good. Both parents are in business, and the family is very rich.

Because of this, Lu Xiao always felt that he was not worthy of men. But her boyfriend told her that she loved her and didn't care about her family, which reassured Lu Xiao.

Two years passed quickly, and the marriage between Lu Xiao and her boyfriend was put on the agenda. At this time, some obstacles appeared.

The obstacle is the man's mother. Mother thinks these two people are wrong, but Xiao Lu is obviously climbing his son. With the conditions of my own family, I can find a girl who is ten thousand times stronger than Lu Xiao. Therefore, the man's mother has never agreed to this marriage.

However, Lu Xiao's boyfriend gave up marrying Lu Xiao and had a big fight with his mother. Then her boyfriend ran away from home and threatened her mother. When the mother saw that her son had made up his mind, she had to reluctantly agree.

Being able to get married has always been their dream, and now they are both happy to get what they want and start preparing for the wedding.

Although the man's mother reluctantly agreed to this marriage, it doesn't mean that she really blessed them. On the contrary, she wants to make Lu Xiao give in through some things. Therefore, when preparing for the wedding, the man and the woman have always opposed Xiao Lu. If they don't do as she asks, they won't get married.

For the sake of marriage, her boyfriend has been begging Lu Xiao's patience. Lu Xiao suffered a lot of grievances, and she wanted to explode early in her heart, but for the sake of her boyfriend's pleading, she always endured it.

But during that time, she has been reflecting. What if this marriage is successful? I'm not interested in marrying into a rich family. She values her feelings. If she is bullied by her mother-in-law all her life, is this marriage still meaningful?

Before getting married, Lu Xiao had resisted the future marriage, and she was confused about this marriage for the first time.

Men are still happily preparing for the wedding, but Lu Xiao still has to be laughed at and despised by her mother-in-law. Lu Xiao felt that she was almost impatient.

I finally waited until the wedding day, and everything was ready. Lu Xiao is finally getting married.

The wedding place is very luxurious. Boyfriend's family invited many relatives and friends, and the man's mother treated them warmly. However, I love to ignore Lu Xiao's relatives and friends, which embarrassed Lu Xiao's parents, but they also put up with it for their daughter.

Xiao Lu noticed this detail a long time ago, and she was very angry. She tried to find her mother-in-law several times, but her husband pulled her back.

At the beginning of the wedding ceremony, one of the links is to ask both husband and wife to offer tea to each other's parents, and then change their names to parents. The man finished his tea successfully, but when he arrived in Lu Xiao, his mother-in-law made trouble for him.

My mother-in-law even said, "You fucked my son and came into our house, but you have to know the rules. Today is your first time to offer tea, kneel down and offer tea to me! " "

Xiao Lu looked at her mother-in-law incredulously and found that she was deliberately making things difficult for herself. She looked at her husband for help, with reluctance on his face. In front of so many people, Xiao Lu couldn't kneel down to offer tea.

Lu Xiao has been patient for a long time, but her mother-in-law has gone too far today. She couldn't bear it any longer. She grabbed the receiver and said loudly, "You said let me kneel down and worship tea. I thought I married a knowledgeable family, but I didn't expect you to be so unreasonable! I won't get married, and I won't marry your son! I advise you to learn to respect others, and others will respect you! "

Say that finish, Lu Xiao heavily put down the receiver, pulled up the veil, turned to leave, leaving a stunned crowd.

Because of Xiao Lu's practice, the man and his mother were humiliated in public, and they got married on the wedding day, and their family became a joke. Xiao Lu's relationship with her boyfriend is over, but she has no regrets.

In fact, there are not a few love or marriage tragedies caused by family disparity. The fundamental reason is that the two sides are not suitable, so the one with a good family will be arrogant and think that the other side is greedy for his own money, and contradictions will arise.

Material abundance can make you cope with life easily, but it is easier for people to get respect and happiness in marriage if the three views are consistent. Material can be created, but spiritual equivalence is not easy to obtain.

Marriage is your own life, and comfort is the most important.

Only mutual respect, respect for each other and respect for each other's families are the basis of a good marriage.