The same thing, almost the same appearance, why do others always chase girls?

We all say falling in love, falling in love, falling in love is what we say.

Through chatting, two people constantly exchange information, gradually deepen their contact with each other, get to know each other better, and finally decide whether the other person is the one on their own channel, and then choose whether to upgrade their relationship.

So the importance of chatting is self-evident.

But many brothers often fall into chat when they want to fall in love. When Mingyu gives emotional counseling to some students, I sometimes worry about them and feel that they have missed many good opportunities. ......

Obviously, it can advance the topic very well, but it was terminated by his words;

Obviously, the other side took the initiative to throw the stalk, but he slammed back;

And many times the whole chat atmosphere is very tense. If I were the other side, I would feel embarrassed. Do I want to continue chatting? ...

So how to chat, in order to better show themselves, get to know each other, and make two people more and more intimate?

Not much to say, today is to tell you about dry goods. Are you ready?

Hello, everyone. I'm Mingyu. I have been focusing on emotional teaching for many years. I have always adhered to the principle of helping every customer and focusing on service. I am committed to the sexual emotional service of chatting and making friends, attacking real life, saving love and repairing marriage. If you have any emotional problems, you can also talk to Mingyu!

First, mentality construction.

In chatting, remember one principle:

Stay equal with girls. Tell the girls through chatting that you are equal, the same kind of people and the same channel.

Many boys mistakenly think that the most important thing to chase girls is to be handsome.

Women like handsome guys at first sight. Look at yourself again. She is plain and even a little ugly, so she denies herself and thinks that girls will not like herself.

As everyone knows, this inferiority complex of "thinking that girls won't like themselves" is the biggest reason why they are really disliked!

It leads to being really rejected by girls in real life, which further deepens this psychology and eventually forms a vicious circle.

And those handsome men, their own value is high, so naturally they will send out a kind of confidence that "I am deeply liked by girls", thus further enhancing their attraction to girls and eventually forming a virtuous circle.

Looking around, we can find that some men are plain and not very rich, but they are very popular with girls.

In fact, it is thanks to their "winning mentality" mentioned above.

They regard themselves as "prizes" that are very popular with girls. In the process of interacting with girls, whether speaking or acting, you will naturally reveal a confident and sunny temperament.

You know, girls themselves are a very impressionable species.

If you give her the feeling that she should like you, then she will really like you.

Second, self-construction and display.

As the saying goes, "Gold always shines".

But the premise of this sentence is: first of all, you have to be gold; Secondly, you have to dig it out and be seen.

If it weren't for gold, it wouldn't shine if it was dug up;

If you are really a piece of gold, hide it 50 thousand miles underground and no one will find it.

Self-construction is the process of turning yourself into "gold".

Value display is a necessary condition for being seen and liked by people.

Here we recommend the following ways for boys to build themselves:

① Fitness.

To be honest, you don't have to go to the gym to keep fit.

Doing several sets of push-ups or running in the dormitory and at home every day has dumped many peers. What matters in this matter is not how much you do in a day, but persistence. Doing 100 push-ups a day is far less than doing 100 push-ups a day.

2 clothing.

Unlike women, men need to buy a lot of clothes. The eight-character motto for men to buy clothes is "quality but not quantity". Instead of buying a bunch of "cheap goods", it is better to buy a high-end dress.

At the same time, boys should wear clothes as simply as possible, and the whole body color should not exceed three.

I don't want to go into details here, just want to throw a brick to attract jade. When I search around the internet, the answer will come out. Really lazy. There is a whole set of recommendations on a treasure, so you can buy it.

3 hairstyle.

Needless to say, a good hairstyle is really equivalent to going to Korea for plastic surgery.

The easiest way is to find a reliable hair stylist and ask him to help you design a hairstyle that suits you.

4 reading.

Reading a good book not only helps to improve one's opinion and listening, but also sublimes one's temperament imperceptibly.

In today's society, fewer and fewer people are studying, but it is an opportunity to "overtake in a corner". If you really can't understand paper books, you can start by listening to books and watching programs like a good book.

5 skin care.

Boys also need skin care! Boys also need skin care! Boys also need skin care!

It is important to say it three times. Many straight men think that skin care is a girl's business, and boys are sissy when they do it. Anyway, the boys who care for skin have found beautiful girls, and I feel that my mother is still struggling to pursue them.

In fact, boys' skin care does not need to be as complicated as girls' big bottles and small bottles. They just need to do basic cleaning, hydration and sun protection in the big sun.

What? What Mingyu said is too complicated! Don't want to do it

You know, the goddess you are chasing may be doing yoga, removing makeup, moisturizing and acne, whitening and sun protection, strictly controlling diet and paying attention to inner cultivation every night. The money for going out to make up every day may be worth half a month's internet fee.

Don't they want to find a good man because they work so hard? If you think you can't do it, don't feel sorry for yourself for why you can't catch up with the girl you like.

Secondly, value display is a relatively simple thing.

You just need to find a good angle to take pictures and send friends when doing push-ups; Find a good angle to take photos and send friends when reading a book; Wash your hair with a suit, take a concave photo and send it to a circle of friends, and so on.

It's not difficult, but you can't be lazy.

Third, find a suitable topic to chat with.

We all know that there are eight topics during the first meeting in love, among which girls are most interested in:

Constellation, food, travel, pets, shopping, movies, animation, gossip news.

But when these eight topics have been thoroughly discussed, do we have to recite the other 70 topics?

The answer is of course: no!

It's like you can only count the ducks in "8 columns *9 rows" one by one before you master the "99 multiplication table", but once you master this method, you can easily get the answer.

Many people don't know how to find a topic when chatting. They feel that every day is dull and there is nothing interesting to say, or they don't know whether it is appropriate to talk about some topics at this stage, and whether the other party will feel offended.

Then I want to talk to you about these two points.

First of all, chatting doesn't make you a commentator, but makes the other person feel that your life is wonderful and you are a great person, so they like you.

Most of us don't have so many magnificent lives, but only a small fortune in ordinary life.

We meet different people and experience different things every day, from leading colleagues around us, strangers we meet, to three meals a day, which can actually be the material for chatting.

Even if your present life just stays indoors to eat and sleep, we still have past experiences, and we can talk about our future ideals!

In addition, you can look at this girl's circle of friends, find a topic, see what hobbies this girl usually has, what friends send, and find a point in it.

For example, this girl's circle of friends often exercises and likes pets, so you can start with sports and pets. Let girls feel the same way about you at first.

After opening the topic, talk about each other's hobbies. When chatting with each other, you should implant your three views, so that girls feel that your thoughts are similar to hers, and you are the same kind of people.

Many brothers asked at the beginning: Where are you from? How many people are there in the family? What occupation? Where are you working? ...

This kind of audit chat is the easiest for girls to resent or even hack you!

Don't ask questions, girls hate it, most boys chat like this, and you chat like this, which proves that you are also a diaosi.

Therefore, it is necessary to distinguish the boys around girls, be a special man, and make her feel that you are different from other men, so that girls will remember you.

Fourth, how to deal with girls in chat correctly

Some brothers don't know how to reply to the girls in the chat, and give you three suggestions:

1. When talking about girls, we should express the growing interest through praise.

For example, if a girl says she is too busy, you can praise her: "Busy, now girls love to play, and give you ten points."

2. When talking about yourself, praise yourself in a narcissistic way, let girls invest or reward girls unreasonably.

For example: "I am so kind to you, when will you cook for me?" Or "You should take a break when you meet such a lovely girl."

3, simplify the complex, flirt, or retreat.

On the premise that girls like you, directly default that both parties are boyfriend and girlfriend, and then lead girls to flirt with you. If the girl's reaction is not good, then talk about the girl or herself, and flirt later, and it will be natural over time.

Fifth, the chat atmosphere is very important.

In fact, there is a very important and crucial point in chatting, which is to create a chatting atmosphere.

Be sure to relax when chatting and don't be obviously aggressive.

If you are like a bully, you want to refute everything others say, and in the end you still think you are awesome. You think that the "You are right" expression package sent by the other party is really positive, and you think that the other party must be amazed at my thinking logic and conquered by my personality charm. Then your road to getting rid of the bill is still very bumpy and long!

We should understand why we prefer to chat with friends rather than with colleagues and leaders.

Except for friends who are familiar with you and have the same hobbies, the key is that when chatting with friends, the whole person is relaxed and doesn't have to think too much. But chatting with colleagues and leaders will unconsciously make you a little nervous and alert.

The same is true when we chat with the opposite sex. It is said that opposites attract, and we always keep a little mystery about each other until we are particularly familiar with each other. Curiosity makes us want to talk to him more, which is actually an advantage.

As long as we concentrate when chatting, make the atmosphere relaxed, show ourselves sincerely, tell a joke from time to time, laugh at ourselves occasionally, and bury a small pit for each other occasionally, Doby will make each other fall in love with the feeling of chatting with you.

After reading so much, some brothers may find it troublesome to chat and fall in love!

But many times, feelings are slowly nurtured and deepened in the temptation of you coming and going, in the confrontation of you pushing and pulling, and in the interaction of you laughing and joking.

If you don't want to experience these "troubles", it's just that you are not ready to love.

If in the process of chatting, you find that the stalk you throw is always perfectly avoided by the other party, and your chat can never go deep.

In fact, it may not be that your chat skills are wrong, but that your chat skills are not enough, just because that person doesn't want to chat with you.

In this case, don't be impatient and bitter, and don't be sad because you give up.

Let's take a step back, calm down for a while, do a good job in our own construction, improve ourselves, and then set off. Maybe you will have a different harvest!

Due to the limited space, Mingyu, today's love dry goods, is shared here.

In fact, it is not difficult to get rid of the bill. As long as you know the skills of getting along with girls and attract them, you can easily get rid of the order.

I have worked for so many years and met many students, because I learned nothing from the East, nothing from the West, and finally nothing.

I've met too many boys, because they can't chat, which ruined the feelings that haven't started yet;

I met too many boys and broke up because I couldn't understand some of the girls' thoughts;

I also see that many students have gone through systematic training and finally realized emotional freedom.

Learn the skills of love, not just by reading a few posts and listening to a few courses.

Love is like a nine-ring chain, which is interlocking. Only by breaking it one by one can it be completely solved.

So in recent years, Mingyu has always had an idea to organize these skills in feelings into a systematic and efficient textbook like Xinhua Dictionary, and teach this textbook to more frustrated brothers!

Well, today's love dry goods have arrived. If you want to get more love knowledge and emotional guidance, you can directly find Mingyu!

I'm Mingyu, and I'm waiting for you in Yilian Emotion!