There is an ominous name "Your mother calls you your full name", telling children to ask questions about college, and parents should not call them wrong.

I don't know how many people feel the same way-when your parents call your full name, they will feel scared and numb, just like a sense of terror.

In fact, this is not an exaggeration. This is the "suffering experience" that we have accumulated for a long time as children, forming such a "conditioned reflex".

Xiao Guo's daughter Lei Lei is like this. Lei Lei is only five years old and attends the middle class of kindergarten. But when he was young, Lei Lei was very good at reading people's minds. Guo usually calls the baby, but when he is in a bad mood, he will unconsciously call his full name. It is through this change that the clever Lei Lei can distinguish her mother's emotional changes.

Therefore, when her mother feels uneasy at work, Lei Lei always finds a good opportunity to avoid Xiaoguo and let Xiaoguo calm down so as not to vent her temper on herself. But Lei Lei will deliberately tell jokes or funny expressions and actions to amuse her mother. Guo shared these things with other mothers, only to find that other children are so sensible.

1, usually call the child's nickname.

Under normal circumstances, parents will call their children's nicknames/sons/daughters/babies when they are in a good mood. These kinship terms will not only bring parents closer to their children, but also make children involuntarily happy.

After getting along for a long time, children will know that their parents call their nicknames to prove that they are in a good mood, and they can also put forward some requirements and wishes to let their parents satisfy themselves.

2. Children will call their full names when they do something wrong.

On the contrary, when the child does something wrong and the parents are depressed and upset, the child's full name will always blurt out. At this time, the child will naturally recall in his mind whether he has done anything wrong or even all the mistakes he has done.

Then I waited for my parents' trial in fear. Because of this, once children find that their parents' mood is getting worse, they will "automatically" disappear in front of their parents, so as not to say something wrong or do something wrong and get angry. If you can't "escape", then children will try their best to make their parents happy and distract them.

1, try to be calm.

In fact, it is best for parents to call their children's names calmly in their daily lives. Don't yell at your children even when you are angry or sad.

The child's mind is sensitive and fragile, and the child has been affected by this for a long time, subconsciously "acquiesced" that others called their full names because they were in a bad mood or did something wrong.

For example, when children call their teachers, supervisors and bosses by their first names, they can't help but feel surprised, scared and even panicked. Under such psychological induction, children will make more mistakes. Such children can't adapt to long-term high-pressure work and life because of psychological barriers.

Try not to change the title frequently.

In fact, it is a bad thing for parents to express too much emotion in front of their children. The main performance is that parents call their children more.

In fact, children are good at "summing up the rules": shouting this name means that parents are in a good mood; Calling this name shows that parents are in a normal mood; Calling this name means that parents are in a bad mood and so on …

Because of children's sensitive mind, when faced with different parents' names, children will think about what kind of model should be changed to deal with it. This caution of children is not conducive to their growth and socialization. In fact, parents should let their children know that the name is just a synonym, not a "curse", and there is no need to be so sensitive to address.

3. Try not to call your child's full name.

Parents can observe carefully, and only when facing strangers or unfamiliar and annoying people will they call each other by their full names. Today's children are very smart and can find and feel this. Parents call their children by their full names, and children will inevitably feel distant and indifferent; When parents call their nicknames, they will feel very warm and caring.

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Many parents think that their children are too young to feel their parents' emotions. But the opposite is true. Even if parents hide their emotions, children can tell whether their parents' emotions are good or bad through their parents' slightly abnormal actions, eyes and words. If it is not good, children will try to stay away from their parents even if they don't know the reason.

Therefore, parents should not disagree. In fact, it is also beneficial for parents to call their children's full names when they do something wrong, so that they can be psychologically prepared in advance, recall and "sort out" their "behavior history" and see what they have done wrong. But don't make mistakes and use them frequently, otherwise the parent-child relationship will become more and more alienated and indifferent.