What are the customs of getting married and having a bridal chamber all over the country?

(1) Beijing-Tianjin region of the Yellow River Basin: Some people say that there is no custom of sexual life in Beijing because there are many Manchu people, and Manchu customs are different from Han customs. However, some people say that the custom of disturbing houses also exists in old Beijing. Mr. Ma Zhi also thinks that there is such a custom in old Beijing, but he also points out that Beijing is a place where the royal family of the Qing Dynasty is concentrated, and the sexual activities are not so intense: cousins are of course the ones who tease relatives; Cousins with cousins and in-laws must attend. The most fashionable move is to let the bride kiss. At that time, although influenced by the west, men and women were more open than before, but there were still not many men and women kissing in public, so when guests shouted' kiss! Kiss! ? Often make the bride blush. But after all, Beiping is a city with an ancient cultural tradition, and there are many descendants of the Qing royal family. Some people are conservative and think that marriage should be conducted in a serious atmosphere. Such a family is more' custom-free'. Hebei Province: There are many people who can have sex, such as friends, guests, the bride's sister-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, cousins and so on. All my peers also come to have sex. It's just that elders don't have sex because they are always detained. Of course, the method of making trouble cannot be the same in every family. But there are always these kinds: troublemakers try their best to make the bride talk, but the bride always doesn't talk, even hits her, pushes her and scolds her, in order to make her anxious and angry. But the bride must not be angry with the noisy guests, because being angry will offend the guests. Sometimes they ask the bride and groom to sing for them or let the lotus fall to the ground (a folk tune in eastern Hebei), but the bride naturally won't agree, so some people will say a lot of provocative words to the bride. For example, teasing my sister-in-law that she has a mistress at home. We all know that. Come on! Tell us all to listen? I don't think you like the groom. See why you don't talk to him. You see, some noisy people insist on letting the bride and groom talk. If they don't talk, they will tie up the groom. Or roll up the groom and push the bride to untie him. Sometimes it makes the bride cry. However, noisy rooms were never banned until the noisy guests were tired and dispersed in a hubbub. The custom of listening to rooms is also very popular in Hebei Province. Although the troublemakers left the bridal chamber, they can't let the bride and groom go so easily. Some people listen to the couple under the window or outside the new house because they believe that whoever speaks first will die first. Another taboo thing tonight is that there is a lamp in the new house, which means to tease the ever-burning lamp, which means to tease the endless longevity. Always turn one side of the bucket upside down. This lamp is placed at the bottom of the bucket and must not be blown out. Blowing out this lamp means that the couple will not live long. Everyone who listens outside wants to hear the new couple talk, so the next day they have materials to tease the bride and groom. Sometimes they will break enough paper (because the windows in the country are all made of paper) to look inside, so most brides always sit under the bed all night on their wedding night, afraid of being seen by people who listen to the room. The gangsters acted in batches and came up with various tricks. Some people put a toad in the bride's quilt in advance, and when the bride is covered, she will scream with fear, while others force the bride and groom to kiss in public. Some bedroom behaviors try to keep the couple away: some hide in the window and eavesdrop, and whenever the bride and groom talk, they hiss. Some young people are hiding in the closet. One minute they bark like dogs, and the next minute they bark like cats. The purpose is to prevent the bride and groom from whispering. Datong, Shanxi: The noisy room in Datong is quite fierce. Therefore, in the first two months of a girl's marriage, her sister or aunt and others all gave guidance and practice in advance to avoid embarrassment at that time. There are many people who can have sex, whether they are brothers-in-law, cousins or friends of the same year in the village. Some manners are necessary when making trouble. The first thing is to make the lion talk, that is, when the bride meets the guests. Opening the sleeves together is called a gift to make the lion open his mouth. After the ceremony, the guests asked each couple to take an ancient coin with eyes and exchange it with each other's tongue. It is absolutely forbidden to help with your hands. After that, she buckled a small cup on the ground and asked the bride to turn it up with her toes. So visitors can take this opportunity to see the bride's golden lotus. After that, the groom hugged the bride's feet and asked, Very funny. Soon, the bride will say: it's funny to look at, run and walk, hold it in her arms, have squeaky breasts in her stomach and fan her back. After the quiz, they tied the groom to the bench, tied the knot of the rope around the groom's waist, and then asked the bride to untie him. If the bride is embarrassed to solve it, the guests will threaten to stay in the bridal chamber for one night. When the bride went to solve it, the people in the dormitory burst into laughter. At this point they are finally satisfied. Huaxian County, Shaanxi Province: If a family marries a bride, at dusk, all the people in the village go to congratulate and set off firecrackers at the door first. When the master knows, he will come out to meet them. Everyone bowed to each other before the throne, and then set up a banquet to reward the guests. At this time, the couple came out to propose a toast to thank the guests. Pour a glass of wine, and they kowtow once. When the banquet is over and some guests are dispersed, ordinary young people stay in this noisy room. When the bride and groom entered the bridal chamber, they prepared a bowl of salty boiled water. The two drank the water first, saying it was drunk, so that the couple could live in harmony in the future. Then eat jiaozi, everyone eats a little, and then they exchange bowls and chopsticks. Some * * * exchanges three times, saying that they want to make chopsticks change bowls. After these things were done, the guests began to make trouble. Or ask the couple to bow to each other, or call the bride solve riddles on the lanterns, and stay up until midnight. If there is another rule, it is noisy for three nights, so the lights in the bridal chamber will not go out for three nights until dawn. After disturbing the room, there is also a listening room. Most people in the room listen to the groom's sisters. What to listen to so as to make fun of the bride and groom in the future. Sometimes, when the newlyweds are asleep, they try to open the door and steal the bride's clothes. Only the next day did the bride agree to their demands, such as asking for candy or inviting them to dinner, would they return the clothes. Jinan, Shandong Province: This sentence can't be funny for three days, no matter how big or small, is also used by Jinan people to describe a noisy scene in a room. If no one makes trouble, the main family will be jealous! The way to make trouble in the bridal chamber is to find some young people who like to play in advance. One of them will pretend to be funny (a deacon serving the public), put a lot of powder on his face, put on women's clothes, sit in the hall, drag the bride and groom, and kneel before the queen. The queen picked up a cotton boy doll and threw it at the bride. The bride carefully ran to the new house with the doll, expressing her expectation of having a son. Then all kinds of farce, regardless of men, women and children, all say some shy words of men and women and ask the newcomers to make all kinds of shy actions. It lasted until late at night. This is the night when the new house is brightly lit. Relatives, friends and neighbors all come to see the bride, see her dowry, see her' handicrafts' (the work of pillows and uppers), ask for wedding cakes, grab fruits and so on. , which is the so-called' noisy room'. At night, my brothers and sisters eavesdrop outside the new house, whispering: when no one is listening, they put a broom behind the window, and some put a chopping block, which means' roll the chopping block and have grandchildren'. This custom no longer exists. Henan: There are very lively and noisy rooms in zhenping county, Gushi, wen county and Mengxian in Henan. In zhenping county, on the wedding night, midnight snack wine is packed in the bridal chamber. Ordinary relatives and friends-mainly my sister, brother-in-law, uncle and others, as well as cousins, grandfathers of the same family, or some young friends-will have an affair at this time. The methods of having an affair are really varied and strange. This noisy method won't stop until midnight. Although the noisy room is over, the custom of listening to the room still exists. These noisy tenants listened in the room under the window and came up with an idea while the bride and groom were asleep. Open the door, steal into the bridal chamber, and sometimes take off her coat, so casually grope for her upper body and face, which is allowed by custom. Shouxian County, Anhui Province: There is another saying that it is funny for three days, regardless of size. However, male elders have never had sex, because they are always polite. Others, such as brother-in-law, nephew and sister-in-law, can naturally find ways to make the bride laugh at will. For example, they can greet the bride, bow and introduce themselves. The bride was embarrassed to make any promises, so she called it teasing her sister-in-law or aunt, saying, I hope I can make the bride laugh, but I must not tease her with teasing tone or obscene words. If you say it carelessly, the groom will give you an ugly face when he is young, and will beat you or scold you when he is old. Can't say that the groom is rude. Sometimes after breaking up, I often let my sister-in-law and others pretend to be the groom and cheat the bride. It is said that once the groom went out to see a guest off and didn't come back to the house. Taking this opportunity, the bride's sister-in-law put on the groom's clothes and went into the new house, while the others closed the door. The bride pretends to be the groom and lies in the new bed in her clothes. The bride doesn't know the groom at all and thinks it's the groom. So he said to the groom. The groom ran out of the house at once for fear that the bride would say something to avoid people's eyes and ears. Later, I often used it to tease the bride. The custom of listening to rooms is also popular here. This is a necessary thing after a noisy room. It is considered unlucky if no one listens in the room. Therefore, if there is really no room for listening, you must put a broom under the window of the new house instead of the listening room, so as to avoid bad luck. Shanghai: On the first night of their wedding, the bride and groom sit at the top of the table together. At this time, the guests will play all kinds of jokes and make everyone laugh. This is called eating a greenhouse. As the saying goes: tease the newlyweds for three days, regardless of size. In other words, within three days of their marriage, people of all ages can play all kinds of jokes and make the bride laugh in the new house. There is a special way to tease the bride by taking off her shoes in exchange for money and things. Shanghai can be said to be the new york of China, which shows the prosperity of Shanghai. Because residents have many opportunities to meet people from Europe and America, their thoughts have naturally improved a lot with the trend. But so far, I haven't got rid of the custom of noisy rooms. From two local folk songs, we can learn about their bedrooms! Song of delivering a house: Holding a red light, both of them wish the groom well. Today you sit in the bridal chamber, and next year you will have the champion Lang. Noisy song: Give this cup of wedding wine to the bride, and the bride will turn to the groom. A man of talent and a woman of beauty, two people love a man of love. Meeting for the first time is like a jade girl and a mandarin duck. Suzhou: They value the listening room behind the noisy room in Suzhou more. Not everyone can go to the listening room, only Quanfu people are qualified to go to the listening room. If there is no one at home who can listen to the room, they put the broom under the window instead of listening to the room, because they believe that if no one listens that night, there will be a flower god to listen to the room, which is very unlucky for the newcomers. Using a broom means letting the flower god see and trust people, so she doesn't listen! Biyang county, Hubei province: the people who make trouble with each other are also brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law. Although there is also a saying that people are ridiculed for three days, regardless of size, it is always the peers who make the most trouble. Most of them flirt with the bride when they make trouble, and they can say anything ugly. For example: tease the bride, not have it! We must eat full moon wine soon! Or: Doby bride, let me see your eyelids. Look at your hands, your feet and your milk. Not only do you say that, sometimes you really touch these places, sometimes you touch the bride's hands very thick, and you even deliberately say, I want to show you how thin the bride's hands are! Although the land is so rude, the bride should not only be angry, but also apologize, otherwise the whole village will scold her and say that she is ignorant and unreasonable. Sometimes even the ancestors will scold, saying: teasing the ancestors without virtue, they married such a daughter-in-law? Sometimes the local ruffians will rob the bride's shoes, so the bride's shoes are always made tightly to avoid being taken off. If they take off their shoes, they will even take away the bride's foot binding strips, and then let the bride stand on a stick, deliberately embarrassing the bride. Sometimes they even put some places to tease beautiful women to undress. Take off your clothes when you get them, which is the inherent name) and put them on the new bed, so that the bride can't help but take off her coat. In addition, they can rummage through the bride's things at will. It is common to steal them, and they will not return them until the bride promises to invite them or give them some food. If you don't have a listening room, you don't feel unlucky, but if someone listens, it's best to listen. Listen, it's very unlucky for the listener. They not only monitor the room, but also often steal into the room and take things from the new bed. Because Mianyang's custom is that couples sleep at two ends, there are pillows as wide as the bed at both ends of the bed. It is said that on one wedding night, the bride and groom slept at one end, and the pillow at the other end was stolen by a noisy person. They didn't know, so it became a joke for their whole lives. Ji 'an, Jiangxi: The night of disturbing new houses, regardless of age. Every time you call the bride, you should kneel down to her, and the recipient need not return the gift. The troublemaker enjoys it, but the bride's legs can't stand it. Nanchang, Jiangxi: Any male relatives and friends can have sex, but female guests are not unable, but most of them are embarrassed to go. Noisy guests often play the huqin to invite the bride to sing. If the bride doesn't sing, they sing by themselves. For example, "Eighteen Horses" and so on are all sung in noisy rooms. This kind of music is very vulgar. ? There are many ways to make trouble. Let the groom smoke, let the bride light a fire, or get some flowers to hang. Ask the bride to take them down. If the bride can't carry them, let the groom carry them. Sometimes they are forced to kiss. Even if the guest drinks wine, falls asleep in the new bed and throws up, the couple can't be angry, because if the guest looks at the couple angry or anxious, he has to say something ugly, such as: tease us not to leave? Look, they are already in a hurry! On this day, the bride will hide the menstrual cloth, otherwise noisy people will look for it specially, and if they find it, they will make fun of the bride. It is also common practice in Nanchang to listen to the room and steal things after disturbing it. They call it teasing and stealing real estate. Steal the bride and groom's clothes and accessories and travel around the city happily. The couple won't stop until they have a big meal. Therefore, Nanchang brides are more afraid of stealing houses than making trouble. Xingguo, Jiangxi: On the wedding night, teasing relatives and friends to greet guests will make jokes in the wedding room and embarrass the newlyweds. Therefore, the bride and groom have invited two or three eloquent male and female relatives and friends as' bodyguards' in advance to help the couple cope with the jokes of their guests and friends. After seeing the bride, relatives and friends got together to send the couple into the bridal chamber and immediately held a banquet with them. During the dinner, the bride and groom sat opposite each other, and all relatives and friends sat on both sides. Two people with good acting skills were elected as the leaders of the haunted house. They made suggestions, posed problems and teased the couple. The most embarrassing thing is to openly say some vulgar and obscene words. This custom still exists today. After dinner, the bridal chamber began to make trouble. Put three or four tables at the entrance of the bridal chamber first, and put tables on them in case the guests enjoy themselves. Everyone sat around the table, leaving two empty seats for the bride and groom. At this time, a couple is in the bridal chamber. The noisy guests chose two leaders as noisy leaders, one for calling the door and the other for getting the bride up. The person who calls the door must first say a few auspicious words outside the door, such as making the day auspicious, lasting forever, the bridal chamber open, beaming and so on. Then the groom will open the door. Those who ask the bride to get out of bed should enter the bridal chamber with a glass in their hands, and say to the draped new bed: Holding a jade cup of nectar, I respectfully invite the bride out of the lotus bed. Get out of bed with your right foot to give birth to a daughter, and get out of bed with your left foot to give birth to a talented person. Exit the new house after singing quietly. Therefore, the bride must get out of bed with both feet at the same time to show that she is willing to give birth to a land full of fun and talent. After the bride and groom walked out of the bridal chamber together, they bowed to everyone, and the toaster asked the couple to sit down, so everyone toasted the couple together. It is natural to say some witticisms during the dinner, but the way of making love without contact is more elegant. Wuyi, Zhejiang: It's time for dinner. We should entertain male guests. After dinner, these guests began to make trouble. It is not necessarily relatives and friends who have sex, but strangers who have relationships with men and women are also eligible to have sex. The main family has never banned it, because' the louder the better', because it is rich, it is rich. At this time, the bride is sitting on the edge of the bed, with two or four unmarried women on both sides, and the attendants are not disturbed. The purpose of having a noisy room is just to make the bride laugh, and there are many ways to use it. They can tell stories or jokes, get rid of unlucky words, and use any frivolous tone or dirty words at will. When they make the bride laugh, they will ask the bride for pleasant fruit. After begging, you can make her laugh again and keep the bride laughing. That's what they want. Sometimes I ask the bride for fruit, and I also ask the escort for fruit. This noisy room is not a one-day event. It depends on the number of days the host family invites guests. If you invite guests for five or six days, you will make trouble for five or six days. Because they asked for seats for at least two days, they quarreled about the room for at least two days. Listening to rooms is also popular here, which is characterized by teasing and stealing things from the new house: after messing up the room, they can't be so willing to rest, so they must listen to the room or steal things from the groom. Sometimes even robes, pillows, clothes and bedding with crests are stolen. The next day, I asked the bride for money to buy crisp candy for them to eat, at least ten kilograms, and forty or fifty kilograms more! They won't return these things unless they get the money. Sichuan: There is a bamboo poem in Sichuan that says: Bring the glass sedan chair to Huatang and help the bride into the bridal chamber. Take off the headscarf, drink and get married, and have sex until dawn. You can see the hustle and bustle. In Shunqing County, on the wedding night, the bride will pour wine for all the guests until they can't drink it. When the bride enters the room at night, the groom's mother will invite many people to eavesdrop or peek outside the room. If nobody listens, mother must put a broom behind the door. It is said that if no one looks at it, it will be seen by ghosts. This couple is unlucky. The lights in the new house can't go out. Quxian also has the custom of disturbing rooms and listening rooms. On the wedding night, the bride must pour wine for every noisy guest, which is called the place of picking flowers and pouring wine or the place of dismounting. The listening room is always a female guest, because the new house can't turn off the lights, so I will take the opportunity to peek. On the wedding night, the bride and groom sit side by side on the edge of the bed or on the same stool, and everyone is around them, saying humorous words. Naturally, vulgar and obscene words are inevitable. Some also ask the bride to sing and dance, or give the couple various program problems, and even make rude moves, often making the bride blush. People think that the more lively, the more auspicious.