Raising children in rural areas

Feng Lili's book Raising Children in the Countryside tells the story of a couple who were forced to live in the countryside for their children.

With detailed and on-the-spot diary style, the difficulties and hardships of rural life and children's escape from fear are recorded in detail.

In the face of children's growth and transformation, the husband and wife are constantly correcting and adjusting, and see the shortcomings of themselves and their families.

The original intention of reading this book is to see what Chinese-style two breaks and five breaks look like. Finally, I was moved by this parent-child story and experienced it. It is not easy to raise a baby in a modern Chinese way.

Many readers, like me, found the problem of this family after reading the previous chapters: too much doting.

Because every day (their nickname for their children) they feel scared and helpless in kindergarten and constantly change schools;

I went to primary school, because I thought there were many rules in the school, so I was afraid, so I dropped out. My parents both quit their full-time jobs and stayed with them 24 hours a day.

She stayed at home from school for fear that others would laugh at her, so she played with her parents every day. When she gets up, her parents get up. When she sleeps, her parents sleep with her.

The world is turning every day, but the fear is getting worse and worse. I can't sleep well and have nightmares.

In this case, they moved to the countryside at the suggestion of their friend and teacher Joe, hoping for new environmental changes every day.

Don't they realize that there is something wrong with family education? That's true.

When they are exhausted by their daily work, when their work and rest are irregular, and when they are helpless every day, they are reminding the existence of problems.

But turning a blind eye and continuing to coquetry is what they think is right.

Even in rural life, I can do housework independently every day and look after my home very well, but my parents will still be scared and blame themselves for their cruelty.

Just because this couple, when they were young, lacked enough love.

Therefore, giving all your love is regarded as the best way of education.

This child actually has his own opinion every day and will judge and examine it. For example, when he sees that his parents are tired, he will say that you are tired and stay with me. However, as a result, I learned to live in the nest, and all my dissatisfaction was cast on my parents, and I didn't bear it myself.

Until rural life, under the education of teacher Qiao and the interaction of the landlord's family, every day I went from encountering difficulties, escaping, taking it out on my parents, learning to complain, and then fighting. Keep growing, learn to fight, and have your own coping mode.

When faced with such a change, parents will find it every day. Children will continue to develop their own social patterns when they are alone.

For example, when I went to Dongdong's grandma's house, although the noodles were salty, I knew it was grandma's wish and would reply that it was delicious.

What parents can teach is the ability to face problems, provide methods to deal with problems, how to choose and how to deal with them, and children need to practice and summarize themselves.

We are all independent individuals, our parents are constantly learning, and so are our children.

When I was a child, I complained about my parents' lonely time in winter and summer vacations, so my parents felt guilty. With the continuous growth, I realized the sweetness behind the bitterness.

During the period when my parents let me grow up, I imitated others through TV, radio and books, and fought with my parents to explore and develop nutrients that my parents could not directly water me.

For example, you can put tea and milk in cooking, which brings different flavors, that is, dad will have diarrhea after eating it.

For example, if you cut your finger, you should learn how to stop the bleeding, instead of putting your hand in the water and waiting for the blood to stop flowing.

For example, how to prevent dad from finding himself secretly watching TV, the father and the daughter constantly upgraded the confrontation mode, and finally closed their eyes and counted as a truce.

Need love, also need space.

Just as plants need sunlight, they also need nutrients and air.

Parents' love is sunshine, and 24-hour uninterrupted irradiation will make plants wither.

Many times, how can we judge that a child's physical development is normal?

Comparison is made through the regular development stage table.

Then children's self-awareness has a similar contrast.

To shrink back and be afraid every day is because it hinders self-development and produces a coping model. Since my parents can meet my needs, why should I learn to deal with them?

Therefore, it is a kind of harm to deprive children of exploring the world with love.

The most commendable thing about this book is that it is documentary enough and shows the contradictions, conflicts, disputes, entanglements and sorrows in family education one by one.

In my opinion, this is the author's bravery, or it is because of her daily growth that the author and her husband keep learning to be brave. Therefore, I am willing to write it down and face the past without worrying about the future.

Although they are worried about the road of life, they know that life is still going on and problems will emerge one after another.

But I am not afraid of making mistakes, because I have learned the ability to face problems and take responsibility.

As parents, we,

It is better to make a sword than to hold one parenting book after another.

Why don't you leave the so-called liar,

Observe carefully and get to know your children.

Make them unique luminaries.