As the saying goes: "If you are poor, you will not be busy with your parents' family, and if you are rich, you will not live in the southeast house." Why is this said?

China has a history of five thousand years, which has also created a long-standing, extensive and profound Chinese culture. Among them, common sayings, as a branch of traditional culture, are summed up by ordinary people through their own life experiences, and some are true to them. The descriptions of folk life also include reflections on life. Because they are easy to understand and catchy, they are widely circulated among the people. For example, the older generation often said, "If you are poor, you will not be busy with your mother's family, and if you are rich, you will not live in the southeast." "House", why is there such a saying? Does it make sense? Let's take a look next. When a poor person is poor, he should not seek help from his mother's family

Although a daughter is thrown away after she gets married, the married woman and her mother's parents and brothers are, after all, close relatives whose blood is thicker than water. Why is it that when a person is in trouble and poor? Why can't you ask your parents' family for help? There are two main reasons:

1. Dissatisfaction from sister-in-law and younger siblings. In the early days, ordinary families did not have only one child, so the daughter was married off, but there were still brothers in the family, and the brothers lived with their parents after they got married. Therefore, after a woman gets married, she goes to her parents' family to seek help because her family is poor. Her parents who feel sorry for their daughter will definitely be willing to help. Brothers will also be willing to help out of sibling affection, but it is different for sisters-in-law and younger siblings. Originally, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law Relationships are a problem for every family. If parents help their daughters again and again, they will inevitably arouse dissatisfaction from their sons and daughters-in-law, which will deepen family conflicts. Therefore, when you are poor, you should not ask your natal family for help unless you have to. Otherwise, it is very likely to embarrass your parents and get you into trouble.

2. Being laughed at by your natal family. Poor and lowly couples still suffer from everything. In the face of reality, sometimes even blood relatives may gradually become distant. Su Qin failed to start a business in his early years. Even his parents treated him poorly when he returned home, and his sister-in-law didn't even talk to him. Later, when Su Qin took charge of the Six Kingdoms, this imagination disappeared. This is how we treat our sons, let alone our daughters. As the saying goes, "a daughter who gets married throws away the water." Many people think that their daughter is no longer a family after she gets married, so how can they help each other. Furthermore, if a woman’s husband does nothing and needs to rely on her natal family for help, wouldn’t she be ridiculed by her natal family? Many parents will also be angry with their son-in-law because of the poverty of their daughter’s family. Take Fan Jin, for example. When he was living in poverty, he asked his wife to ask his father-in-law for money. As a result, his father-in-law slapped him in the face and told his daughter that such a person had long been told not to marry. So be careful when asking for help from your parents-in-law. Once or twice is okay, but if you ask for more help, everyone will get bored. Not only will they not get help, but they will also be humiliated. Rich people don’t live in southeast houses

There are two reasons why rich people don’t live in southeast houses: First, in ancient times, people believed that "sitting north and facing south" was the best Feng Shui position. Therefore, from the palace buildings to the residential buildings of ordinary people, they all adopt the "north-to-south" architectural pattern. Therefore, there is a distinction between the main house and the side rooms. The main house is the largest and brightest house in the north. Where the head of the family lives, there will be penthouses on both sides of the square, usually for resting or for children. Wing rooms are rooms in three directions: south, east and west. Generally speaking, they are places for guests or servants of the family to live. It can be seen from this that the status of the southeast house is lower than that of the main house, so the owners of wealthy families will not live in the southeast house.

Furthermore, the ancient house building pattern we mentioned above is facing south, because geographically, China is in the northern hemisphere, and the sun rises from the east and sets from the west, so it faces south. In the winter, the house will be exposed to more light, and the house will be warmer. In the summer, the light entering the house will be less, and the house will be very cool. In addition, northwest winds blow in most areas of our country in winter. If the house faces south, it can block the wind from the north to the greatest extent. Therefore, living in the main house is the best choice, but the southeast house is different. The east wing has poor lighting in winter and is cold in winter. Although it is cool in summer, there will also be moisture problems. Such a living environment is harmful to the human body. Health is very bad, so rich people will not live in the east wing, and the same reason is true in the south wing.

The editor has something to say: As the saying goes: "When you are poor in the busy city, no one cares about you, but when you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives." When you are poor and destitute, not only are the friends around you unwilling to associate with you anymore, but also Even close relatives will have dissatisfaction. This is true for the mother's family, and the same is true for the husband's family.

Everyone has their own life to live, and every family has its own difficulties, so when you encounter such a situation many times, there is no need to worry about it, and there is no need to hold a grudge. The important thing is to cheer yourself up quickly and use your own strength. hands to create happiness. As the saying goes, if you rely on trees, they will fall; if you rely on others, they will walk. It is better to rely on yourself for everything! What do you think?