Why must we be independent?

There is a joke that a father and son went to the market to buy a donkey and took it home. Passers-by on the road saw it and all smiled and said, "It's stupid that two fathers doesn't ride a donkey." The father and son thought it made sense, so the father got on the donkey and the son followed. "Really, it is cruel for a father to let his child ride a donkey comfortably." Hearing this, the father hurried down and let his son ride on the donkey and walk by himself. After walking for a while, someone said, "How could such an unfilial son have the heart to make his elderly father suffer?"? What a shame! " Hearing this, my father thought it was inappropriate, but he was afraid of others gossiping, so they both rode on. A donkey was carrying two people, and the donkey was panting with fatigue. Someone saw it and said, "You two will kill the donkey if you go on like this." If two people come down again, it will be difficult. Riding is not, not riding is not, riding by one person is not, and riding by two people is not. As soon as they got together, they tied the donkey's leg with a rope, found a pole to put on the rope, and they carried the donkey in tandem. People in the street laughed their heads off when they saw it. As a result, the donkey was tied up and suffered, and people carried it. Father and son blushed and their hearts beat, not knowing what to do. Let's just take it off. On a wooden bridge, the donkey was tied up and its hoof hurt. We couldn't stand it and struggled. With a splash, two people fell into the river together with the donkey. ...

It certainly makes people laugh, but after laughing, think again. Are we often misled, at a loss, indecisive, not knowing who to listen to, and swaying with the wind? This is actually normal. No matter how decisive a person is, he will inevitably hesitate in some things. But if you don't have your own opinions about everything, you will lose yourself and become a mediocre person mixed in the crowd.

People should have their own opinions, not to say that they are willful and willful, do not listen to other people's opinions, and do not accept criticism when they are wrong. But stick to the truth and stick to yourself. As long as you think it is right, you will ignore outsiders' comments and "go your own way and let others talk." People judge others by their own subjective ideas, and the success or failure of things is still left to time to test.

When looking for a job, many people are always troubled by various opinions from abroad and don't know how to choose. Xiao Na is a fresh graduate majoring in computer science, but she also likes literature very much. She went to the talent market to find a job, but in the face of many conditions offered by employers, she never made up her mind. The family wants her to find a job with a stable income, not too hard and not too far from home. Most IT companies that can match her major are in Beijing and Shenzhen, and the work is very hard. She doesn't want to go against her parents' wishes. There is a school that recruits computer teachers, and she wants to try, but that school asks for a one-year probation period, which she thinks is too long; Someone introduced her to a small magazine as a column editor, and a friend who opened a shop advised her that she could not earn much money from the manuscript fee these days, so she might as well go to sea with her ... She has been hesitant and unable to make a decision. In the end, those job opportunities were taken away by others, and she didn't know where her future was.

Sometimes the more considerate, the more difficult it is to be considerate. It is impossible for everyone to be happy if you want to take care of everything and not offend anyone. Even the best things will be opposed, and you can't expect everyone to agree with you. No matter how hard you try to cater to and accommodate others, there will always be people pointing at you and making irresponsible remarks. Since it is inevitable to be criticized and discussed, why not do what you want?