25 and 26 years old

"How old are the people of 1996 this year?"

I typed it word by word in the browser, pressed Enter and looked at the pop-up answer:

"25 years old, 26 years old."

I found it acceptable when I was 25, but I felt depressed for a while when I was 26. According to the popular words on the Internet, there is no age anxiety before the age of 25. From the principle of rounding, less than 25 years old is about 20 years old. Those over 25 can be around 30. People from science and engineering majors have a tighter card. So I only admit that I am 25 years old. Nominal age doesn't sound real. When I work normally, I also have a principle of four families and six people. So in a house like this, if someone asks him how old he is, he is still in his twenties. But at the age of 26, these words are always dazzling. Think about next year, this 26-year-old is not a nominal age. I can't give up. In other words, I am a person who is about to enter the third grade.

Stroll through my mind again. When I was a child, I always liked to say that I was a little old. What impressed me deeply was 2003, when I was in the first grade of primary school, and the age of admission was over 7 years old. The teacher asked the parents how old they were, and the parents answered. At that time, I was 7 years old and was eliminated for the first time. The reason is that I am too short and thin, and the teacher doesn't believe it is a 7-year-old child. Fortunately, the principal is the head teacher of my mother's primary school. After many twists and turns, I finally got my wish. Since then, I like to say that I am old. It seems that I am older, which can cover up the fact that I look younger.

I remember when I was in grade two or three, the math teacher taught us how to measure the size of objects without a ruler. I remember two things clearly. The index finger and thumb are open, which is 10 cm. Spread your arms, it is 1 m. These two rules took a long time. Until he came to the construction site later, the experienced master would open his index finger and thumb, measure it and confidently say, "20 cm is not bad at all." At first, I didn't trust them very much. I checked it several times with a tape measure and found that the error was within half a centimeter. I measured mine again, about 17 to 18 cm. I smiled at the thought of this. Over the years, how many things that should be 17 to 18 cm have been taken by me as 18 cm. Then open your arms and it is no longer 1 meter.

Including the first time I went to the construction site, I like to say that I am old. Because I don't know much, and I don't want others to see it. Older people, at least unfamiliar people, think that this person has been working for a long time and should know more, but he can't fool around casually. Now, if people ask how old they are, they are telling the truth. Because how much you know has nothing to do with your age. The confidence of others in you does not depend on your age, but on the weight of what you say.

I'm 25, nominally 26. I stayed at the construction site for nearly four years. In four years, night and concrete occupied most of life. Look at the colleagues who come to the construction site together, and then look at the new employees who have sprung up every year. Their eyes are clear and curious about new things. Once upon a time, we were not the most promising people.

People around me have grown to like me, and there is no "elegant" hobby. Tucao work, Tucao environment, Tucao leadership, these things have been done. People who like to play games then get together to play games. Occasionally chat, the content of the chat is roughly how to operate the game, and people who like to watch the game will discuss which team is strong and whose level is bright or stingy. Besides, almost everyone uses Tik Tok. Let's talk about the interesting videos we watched recently and share them with each other.

Headache topics, such as blind date, getting married and having children, are tacit and unwilling to talk about each other.

Occasionally, in the middle of the night, after drinking, older people talk about it first. The general content is "recalling the past eventful years and feeling that the revolution has not yet succeeded, and comrades still need to work hard." Not many people listen attentively, but on the surface they agree.

When they are tired of chatting, those of us who say we are young and old seem to think of the past. The key words are youth, dream, love, future and change. The next day, when I woke up, the dust returned to dust, and the line was paid off, the days continued to be calm. As for what I said last night, I may have forgotten or don't want to remember. In short, let him keep what should be left in his heart.

"I remember you used to write very well ..."

One day, I was chatting with my college classmates. When the dog left, he suddenly raised his mouth.

"I can't write now, I have no inspiration, and I can't write those Sao words. ..................................................................................................................................................

"I was sealed with cement, and my talent was erased, haha ..."

It is true that writing today does not need some messy rhetoric, and what you usually write at work is not mixed with personal feelings. Nothing more than copying and pasting. If you can't write, just search in the browser and copy and paste. It's an honor.

After graduation, I moved to several places, Tianjin, Hebei and Shandong. To outsiders, you can go to different places, see different customs and taste the salty taste of different places. However, no matter where, the construction site seems to be one high enclosure after another, and inside the enclosure, it is us. Outside the enclosure, it is a colorful world. Is the outside world really colorful? I don't know.

One day, I took a taxi to the construction site. Almost to the destination, the driver suddenly said:

"You just repaired the viaduct, didn't you?"

My answer is that the driver can't help but give a thumbs-up and say:

"This bridge is really well built. Very convenient. You look very young, and you came all the way to build our Jining. It's amazing ... "

I smiled with mixed feelings.

This is for me and my colleagues of similar age, 25 or 26 years old.

My dog and I are college roommates. Born in 1995, one year older than me.

Dog residue is not his real name, but a nickname given by our classmates.

Not long ago, we played games together, with voice on, and talked without words. Generally speaking, how about communication, whether the work is easy or hard, when to get married and buy a house, and so on.

The result is similar to what I expected. Although I work in different places and different companies, I am faced with the problem that the salary difference is not too much: My parents are urging me to get married, get married and have children. Why doesn't ..................................................................................................................................... get married and get married and have children? The reason is probably that you have no money, no house and no object.

The dog said he kissed several times. When dating, everyone is very frank and puts their ideas on the table. The main topics are cars, houses, wages, bride price and so on. Sometimes the woman is not satisfied, and sometimes he is not satisfied. Anyway, it all went away in the end. Although I have never been near, but think about the scene at that time, he said less, sorry, in short, it is a very interesting picture.

We all sighed and said: Life is bitter after all.

Watching the news, it is said that the average age of young people getting married has been postponed. I think the current situation may be that most men want to get married and don't have the conditions to get married. Women are of marriageable age and don't want to get married. Since then, they are all old.

The future is far away. We don't know what the future looks like, where to live, who to marry, how much money to earn and what the children will be like.

We talked about college again, although the living expenses were not much. But the days are carefree and full of expectations for the future. One afternoon, it was sunny. On the way from the classroom to the dormitory after class, I talked with the dog for a long time. That's all. He asked me:

"Where do you want to work after graduation?"

"Lanzhou, I think Lanzhou is quite good."

I answered without thinking. Because I haven't been too far before college, Lanzhou is the farthest place I have ever been.

"Lanzhou have what good? It is better to go out for a walk while you are young. "

Dog residue is local, maybe I think a better place, in his view, has become accustomed to, reasonable.

When I was looking for a job last semester, I wanted to stay in Lanzhou, so I applied to an engineering company in Tianjin. He signed a contract with lanzhou railway administration, and his work area is close to home. You can go back a few steps after work.

In this way, people who want to stay in Lanzhou will fly away. Stay at home if you want to go out and break in.

"We are two extremes."

Dog residue made such an evaluation of our situation. He said he envied me, and I told him that I actually envied him.

"Actually, it's not that interesting to be too far away from home ..." I wanted to explain to him.

But I know he won't understand.

If I am like him every day, I will only see two ordinary tracks in a section of railway that I will walk every day. I'll get tired of it after a long time. It's like swimming hard under the deep water every day, and occasionally the sun shines. I always think it would be great if I could go up and catch my breath.

Today, life is neither too bad nor too good. I don't know when I can live the life I want in the future, so I want to live every day seriously. On the one hand, I am worried about the present, on the other hand, I am full of expectations for the future.

This is the state of the left dog and also my state.

This year, we are 25, or 26. Finally, we made an appointment to get together for a drink after the epidemic ended. ......

It's late at night, and then log off separately.

Ajie is my other roommate. As old as me.

There is little contact now. Friends usually praise each other, and occasionally greet each other in the dormitory during the holidays.

I found that most college friends have their own circles and lives while waiting for work, so they have relatively little natural contact. But if you want to contact, just as before, do not make any preparations, direct dialogue.

Not long ago, I saw him send a photo of himself and his partner in a circle of friends, with words to commemorate the first anniversary and so on. As before, I silently nodded in praise.

Ajie often complains about his own emotional experience.

Compared with other members of our dormitory, he is more likely to fall in love and has the most love times. And two or three of them are familiar to us.

What impressed him more was his girlfriend when he first went to college, who was one year younger than him. A little girl, who is in senior three, once secretly came to see him in our school by train from Hohhot. He sent a circle of friends to express his feelings. When we saw the circle of friends, we also said that they were "true love". This girl is a very good girl.

Next year, the college entrance examination for girls will be over, and the university where they are studying will be next door to our school. Later, the plot developed according to the normal rhythm. Valentine's Day, Tanabata, Christmas, birthdays and other days that can be slightly related to romance must be related to gifts, and friends will definitely see intentional copywriting. Of course, after seeing it, we must praise it. Let's comment on one or two words of blessing. By the second semester of sophomore year, Ajie rented a house outside and rarely went back to the dormitory.

One day, I received a phone call from him, and his tone was quite urgent, asking me to go to the house he rented to help. When I got there, I found him locked outside the door, with some clothes, shoes, daily necessities and so on at the door. As for what happened, I didn't ask. I guess it's about what I thought. He really couldn't take so many things by himself, so we shared them equally and remained silent all the way.

And then we broke up.

When I was in college, the school banned drinking in the dormitory. It's more expensive to go to a bar outside. So every time we go out. Carrying a few schoolbags, decorating beer, melon seeds, peanuts and the like will not be found in the dormitory. When he was drunk, Ajie began to talk about some past events. I remember one word about ....................................................................................................................................................... clearly-"Left".

Later, Ajie talked several times in succession. In every experience, he developed from happiness to unhappiness. Slowly, we will not be surprised. I guess, when I love, I will naturally devote myself wholeheartedly, and I love to death. When you don't love, your heart is calm. In a word, it was intentional.

I saw the first anniversary of his love this year and talked a few words. When are you going to get married? He said he was engaged and he could get married when the house was decorated. The girl is fine. Keep a dog with him. After sending my blessing, I am envious.

The above is the story of Ajie.

In 2000, there was a little girl on the project she was working on. One day he asked me, "Brother Xin, do you think the love you are talking about is love?" I didn't understand what she was saying at first, but after some questioning, I generally understood that the cause of the incident was that my boyfriend didn't give her a gift on Valentine's Day. I am noncommittal about her question, and the answer to the matter naturally has a steelyard in her heart. Finally, she said, "Anyway, I can't accept love without a sense of ceremony ..."

I feel a lot.

Every day when you turn on your mobile phone, several news items pop up with eye-catching headlines, such as "If your boyfriend doesn't buy you something, he will definitely not love you", or "Every girl should have her own things, boys should pay attention" and so on. When you open Tik Tok, a similar video will naturally appear. With actors and plots, the effect is quite good. Occasionally visit Taobao, JD.COM and the like, and there will be some recommendations with the topic "What moment touched her?" ......

In this way, I don't know when consumerism and love have been confused. It seems that if you don't spend, you don't love.

People around me, including me. When I was young, I talked about love several times, either dull or vigorous. There are many reasons for being together, but the reasons for breaking up are quite different. To sum up, it is three words, I don't love it. Every time someone tells me their love story, I will ask him at the same time: "Is it because I don't love anymore?" If the other party doesn't talk, it should be the default.

25 years old, or 26 years old. Brush friends, peers, marriage certificate, children. There are also confused people. ......

Huang is a good friend of 19 who came to the construction site here in Shandong. Born in 1995, one year older than me.

19, we were three years younger than now, just worked for a year, and were full of blood for our work. We are partners. On a hot day, the two of them paid off their instruments and basked together. In the big night, the two stayed up late to play ash and stayed up together. Let's talk now. It's enough to talk about these past events for half a day.

He resigned last year, in May of 20021. I'm surprised that he resigned.

Recall what happened that day:

I was busy at the construction site when my mobile phone rang and a message came from Huang Fafa:

Brother Xin, I'm quitting.

I was busy at that time, thinking that he was tired recently, and it was normal to have some negative energy emotions. I didn't reply to him. By five o' clock in the afternoon, such as replied:

"Huang, are you serious?"

The top news is brief and to the point:

Yes, I really have to go this time.

My heart is naturally lost. I have known my good friend for two years. Suddenly, one day, he wants to go somewhere else, so there is less natural contact and less meeting.

The night before Huang left, we went out for a meal and a drink. When the whole thing was over, I went to buy a dress. I am well aware of the nature and environment of our work. After working for a long time, there are few new clothes. After a long time, there will be less clean clothes.

When I came back, Huang said to me:

"The elder brother of the hin, I've been outside for almost three years. ......

Sometimes I feel very sour when I think about it. The salary is five or six thousand, and the house prices are high everywhere outside, so I can't afford to buy a house anywhere. Our bride price is so high that we can't afford to get married. ......

At the end of the year, I can't go home a few times. ......

I am really tired. I thought I was young and warm-blooded, and I thought I could make my own sky in the distance. In retrospect, I think it was too simple. ......

I'm really unwilling ... "

In this way, he talked all the way, and I listened all the way. Finally, he talked about his love experience with his college classmates when he first joined the work. The story is about a smug teenager and a girl who likes him. They have not experienced the test of survival in society and lost to distance and reality. Between the lines is full of regret.

That night, lying in the quilt, I don't know why, but I felt sad and left a few tears.

He left at noon the next day. Around twelve o'clock, I was on duty at the construction site when he called:

"The elder brother of the hin, the car is coming. I have to go. "

"Well, then you pay attention to safety and have a good trip!"

After a short sentence, I hung up. I looked up, the sky was gray, green dense eyes were covered with mounds, excavators and cranes were busy and very noisy. I was thinking, he should be alone, carrying luggage on the bus. ......

Later, as I expected, I never met again and had less contact.

I heard that he got a job in Shaanxi, which is also a construction site. Better yet, close to home. It only takes one or two hours to go home on holiday, unlike in Shandong, which takes nearly seven hours from Qufu East Station to Xi 'an North Station. You need to reverse when you get off the high-speed train.

Later I heard that he had a girlfriend. The girl introduced by an acquaintance is from Gansu, not far from Shaanxi. I went to Gansu during the Spring Festival, and I guess I will get married next year. ......

I am 25 years old, nominally 26 years old, nominally 26 years old, nominally 27 years old.

Looking back at my peers around me, in recent years, some have left and some have stayed. Faced with the status quo, some people choose to leave and go to another place to start from scratch. Some people choose to stand still, or they are afraid to start over, or they see hope and expect things to get better day by day.

I hope we can meet again one day. By then, everyone will have achieved something, and then we will talk back until midnight.

305F4 is the name of our university dormitory group. 305 is the dormitory number, and F4 is the imitation of F4 in Northeast China. Sounds like a combination. Four refers to four people, just as Dog Remains and Ajie have said before, one is me, and the other is Phyl who didn't say anything. Someone one year older than me.

Phyl's situation is more complicated. After graduating from senior year, each of us got a diploma and was ready to work in a different place. At that time, he was still a sophomore, because he failed Kobe more and stayed for two grades in a row. As for why I failed the grade, it was because I didn't attend class or review before the exam. As for why he didn't go to class and review before the exam, according to him, he was full of disappointment with this school from the moment he first entered the university. The scale and facilities are not comparable to the high school they attended. Then I had the idea that I didn't want to go to class, and gradually I couldn't keep up with my study progress. It is expected that you will fail the exam. In fact, I never know whether what he said is an excuse for his laziness. ......

In college, in order to show that we have a good relationship, we often go out to eat and play together. So that the other three of us arrived the day before departure, thinking that it would dawn tomorrow morning, and he was the only one left in the previous 305F4. I remember that day we were drinking by the Yellow River. The sky is getting dark, the cool wind comes with the river, and the lights on both sides of the river are reflected on the water. Four people looked at the water and felt uncomfortable. Finally, Phyl really began to cry. I cried for a long time, ............................................................................................................................................................................ Finally, I agreed to come back to see him during the holiday.

20 18, I forgot whether it was September or 10. On the construction site in Tangshan, I saw a long-lost message from him in the dormitory one day:

"Brothers, I don't go to school, I want to work in the south ..."

Tone relaxed, as if to put down the burden of pressure on the body for a long time, have expressed their blessings. I hope that one day, everyone will live an ideal life.

Later, I heard that he went to Chengdu and did something. We didn't ask, and he didn't elaborate.

One afternoon in May last year, I was busy at the construction site. Silence for a long time, suddenly pop up a few messages, he sent:

"I want to go back to high school and start studying again from senior three. ......

If you fail, you will take two or three exams, and then go to college for a few years. ......

This afternoon, I sat on a bench in the park and thought for a long time. I don't think life can go on like this. ......

I want to ask your opinion. "

I understand that when a person has an answer to a question in his mind, what he wants most from others is affirmation and encouragement.

We all expressed our support for his idea. People have dreams, and naturally they should pursue them without hesitation.

After such a long time, did he go back to study, and what was the result? We didn't ask again. Maybe he will share it with us as soon as he succeeds.

At the age of 25 or 26, there are always people who don't lack the courage to start all over again, even if they are black and blue, even if they can't do it. This is the most respectable.

When I just graduated, I was on the construction site in Tianjin. Jiayu is my colleague and a girl who works in a laboratory. Not long ago, when we chatted on WeChat, we told me a little thing:

A young man came to their laboratory this year. When I first arrived here, I felt fresh and curious about everything. One day, he told Jia Yu that it was great to work here.

So Jia Yu made fun of him. Is it because this is a subway project and the construction site is in the urban area, so it feels better? If it is distributed in remote railway projects, such as mountainous areas, it will not think so.

The young man said without thinking, no, his hometown is very poor, and the fate of the children in the village is divided into two kinds, either farming at home or finding a factory as a porter outside. So he cherishes this job.

I was a little touched after listening to it. I have heard too much negative energy since work. Spit out how bad this is and plan when to leave this dump. It turns out that most of us think about the place to leave every day, but it is out of reach in some people's dreams.

Later, I told this story to another friend, and I think he will be more or less touched as I am. He said, "I don't think so. Each of us lives in a different environment and can see different things, which naturally leads to different things we pursue. "

I think he's right again. To some extent, his ideas are more mature than mine.

Confucius said, stand at thirty. Before the age of 30, that is, before standing, it may be more important to recognize yourself, recognize the reality, and understand what kind of person you are and what kind of things you want to do.

My mother sometimes tells me when playing with her smartphone that the internet is really developed now.

It is true that our present life is basically inseparable from mobile phones. As a result, when we turn on our mobile phones every day, there will be overwhelming news coming from all over the world. Among them, many unknown people, wearing suits and glasses, began to talk about life, philosophy and values.

At first, I thought what one expert after another said was very reasonable. It seems that every article can find loopholes, either too narrow, too absolute or too superficial. Is there anyone or anything in this world that is black and white, good or bad?

So I don't trust them anymore. As a person of this age, I hope I can stay awake all the time.

I washed an apple, ate two bites, and found that I was not very hungry, so I put it on the table and typed. After waiting for about a quarter of an hour, my eyes swept over the apple and the color of the bite deepened. If I were still in high school, I would be able to talk a lot about the chemical phenomena involved in this phenomenon. At this moment, I no longer consider principles, I only consider life. My present situation, like an apple at the moment, is not as fresh as when I just picked it from the tree, nor does it look a little faded after a long time.

About how people should live, I didn't know before I was 22, that is, before I graduated from college. I don't know now. As a result, I kept asking others, hoping to get some answers from others.

Later, a thousand people told me a thousand ways to live, and I searched up and down, sleepless all night, thinking hard. This 1000 lifestyle doesn't seem to be completely suitable for me. As a result, I lived like this, step by step, and came to this step. On the one hand, I don't have much hope for tomorrow, on the other hand, I long for tomorrow and expect some changes.

I remembered something that happened when I set up the beam last year:

Lao Zhang is the leader of the cooperation group, and I can talk to him. One afternoon, I began to complain that the beam truck was slow and I always had to wait. I suddenly want to tell a joke:

"People in my life, is not waiting for?

When you are young, you will grow up, and when you have no money, you will have money. When it's cold, it's hot, and when it's hot, it's cold. Unmarried people are waiting for marriage, and married people are waiting for divorce. Wait for parting when you are together, and meet again after parting. ...

People wait all their lives, don't they? "

Lao Zhang seems to have listened, nodded and said that it makes sense. Actually, I wanted to tell him that I just told a joke, that's all.

I want to laugh. I tried, but I couldn't laugh.

Wait, wait, I said to myself.

Unconsciously, it was already late at night. ......

Another late night. I think I should go to bed, too. Let's stop here.