Fans and: I don't love enough, how can I persist?

Recently, the hottest TV series "Ode to Joy 2" is being broadcasted, and all five girls in the drama have stumbled and gained love. However, compared with Andy's steady, clever ditty, simple Qiu Yingying and pure amorous feelings, Fan gives people a specious sense of peristalsis from beginning to end. However, the test of one family event after another shows us that the hope that her love with Wang Baichuan can go on is getting more and more dim.

Love is not what it was at first.

From the first season, we know that although Fan understands her affection for herself, she resolutely rejected it in order to marry a rich man and get rid of her suffering. It was not until her father had a stroke and her elder sister-in-law had an accident that Wang Baichuan spared no effort to help her solve the housework and made her feel dependent, and she accepted Wang Baichuan's pursuit. In other words, she chose Wang Baichuan more for her sense of dependence and security than for her love. So, when something happened to her family, the first thing she thought of was to call Wang Baichuan and ask him to do something. If she can't think of anything satisfactory, she will blame each other and treat Wang Baichuan as a servant.

For me, fans are the goddess he admired for more than ten years, so they always look flattered and cautious in front of the goddess, fearing that this dream that they have been doing for more than ten years will suddenly be broken. So he decided that if Fan didn't have a group of great relatives, he couldn't have her at all, so he would continue this dream even if he was tired.

One is to regard love as a savior in suffering, and the other is to realize the dream of a goddess as a teenager. Even if there is love, it is covered by other "impurities"!

Test each other, understand each other, and let trust continue to drain.

Fan's elder sister-in-law was arrested in an anti-vice operation, and the families of the victims were blocked at the door every day to abuse, while Fan's mother gave all her money to her in-laws because she was eager to save her son, and her family faced the dilemma of not being able to eat. Faced with this situation, Fan's first reaction is to call him and ask him to find a way, whether he is busy with work or not, because she thinks, "You are my boyfriend, what's the use of asking you if you don't find a way for me?" .

In the face of Fan's reproach, we had to find a way to appease him. However, the customer's advice made him understand that if he pushed himself too hard, Fan would inevitably put the blame on himself, and they might also face the crisis of breaking up. So, in the face of the fierce pursuit of fans, I had the idea of retreating for the first time and silently turned off my mobile phone.

Later, Fan's brother went home behind his father's back to make trouble, and Fan threw the question at him again. But when she saw that Wang Baichuan was eager to take her home out of the incident, she felt extremely disappointed, thinking that Wang Baichuan didn't love herself as much as she imagined, so she felt ill.

Later, in the matter of buying a house, she disagreed with Fan Ba's name written in the household registration book, on the grounds that she was afraid of her brother's idea of playing his own house. However, Fan thinks that not writing her name means that she doesn't love her enough and can't give her the sense of security she wants, so their love is broken again.

After so many things, the trust between two people is getting less and less. Fan Meisheng regards Wang Baichuan as the patron saint to save herself from suffering, so she can't stand him being a little slack and returning to the ordinary working class, because she will feel that there is no hope. For Wang Baichuan, Jia Fan's successive accidents made him feel tired. At the same time, he was tired of Fan Meisheng's infinite dependence and inaction, and slowly began to have "infidelity" and began to plan for himself. After considering each other several times, plus family persuasion and comparison, mutual trust will of course be lost.

The weakness of both sides leads to their inability to resist reality.

Every time he faces his brother's troubles and his parents' difficulties, Fan's solution is to clean up the mess at home, borrow money everywhere, and then cry about his helplessness. She has paid so much for her family, but she still can't get the approval of her parents. She bought a house for her brother and sister-in-law and supported a large family, but she still couldn't change their fate of treating themselves as ATMs. It seems that she is really poor, but looking back, is she really not responsible for being dragged down by her family? If it weren't for her compromise and weakness, how could her family become a baiwenhang who would never have enough to eat? How could she be dragged down by them and still accomplish nothing?

And Wang Baichuan's character also has a weak side, which can be seen from the fact that he just carried Fan Fu out of the house without solving the problem face to face. Moreover, from the strength of Wang Baichuan's mother, we can easily see that Wang Baichuan is probably a mambo. Even if he can put in a good word for Fan in front of his mother, he will still stand on her side on key issues (for example, Fan's name is written on a good real estate license, and then he changes his mind).

Therefore, this weakness of both sides' personalities directly leads to their inability to fight back when difficulties come, and they can only choose to push as far as they can and as long as they can, which also makes their love difficult and both sides feel more and more tired.

So, does Fan Meisheng really love Wang Baichuan? I guess she's not even sure about herself! Because when Andy said that she loved someone very much, just like she and Wang Baichuan, she hesitated and nodded numbly, but her heart was troubled, wondering if she really loved each other. Besides, along the way, their relationship has always been the model of a lonely princess and a timid servant. Although they snuggle up to each other to keep warm, they also have bad feelings and look at each other, completely losing the sweetness and frankness they deserve when they are in love.

As for Wang Baichuan, I believe that the dream realized in this love is more fulfilling, but he didn't expect to be so at a loss when managing this relationship. Every day, he tried to make him feel pressure with the expectations of fans, and his insistence on this love began to become slack and hesitant.

For them, love has become their last good expectation when they are struggling in life.

Love should be a harmonious note that two people with independent personalities jump out. They are independent of each other, not one parasitic on the other. Love is not always clinging to the original beautiful fantasy and ignoring the cruelty of reality, but when you have experienced ups and downs, you still maintain your appreciation and love for the other half and are willing to face the future ups and downs with it.

In this way, Fan He didn't love each other as much as expected, and their love was always suppressed in the 7788 of two families. If Fan doesn't change the idea of relying on others to change his own destiny, and doesn't try to make his life independent, then this relationship will be difficult to go on, and breaking up is the final outcome.