Is it really okay to treat things rather than people?

? Before watching this show, I had always regarded the saying "don't treat the person as the problem" as the truth, and dealt with the things I encountered at work very rationally, whether in management or in the workplace. When it comes to educating children, it is often said that I only deal with things, not people. But after watching the show "Qi Pa Shuo", the opposing side has many opinions that made me think a lot. Sometimes after something happens, I think I am criticizing the other party, but I don't consider whether the other party will accept the criticism in person? But despite having these same feelings, I still stick to Zhengfang's point of view "it's really OK to treat the situation but not the person". This is what I think:

1. Adhere to the principle of "treating things, not people" and treat everyone equally

? People and things themselves are not two independent elements. Things come first. Once the rules are established, treat everyone equally. It's instinct to treat people and things right, but it's a matter of ability to treat things and people right, without favoritism or discrimination. Huang Zhizhong said in the essay: "You are the most gentle when you are right for things but not for people." If we face something wrong, it does not mean that we are a failure; just because we have done a selfish thing, it does not mean that we are a selfish person. ; If we fall in one place, are we a complete loser? At work, as a manager, I insist that after formulating rules, I must treat all colleagues equally, act in accordance with the rules and regulations, discuss matters as they are, and cannot treat colleagues with too much emotion, so that there will be no problems. Favoritism, favoritism. In such an atmosphere, colleagues will not spend a lot of time and thought on intrigues and competing for each other's interests. On the contrary, everyone will work very hard, work very seriously, and do their best to get things done. It's like the traffic case in the debate: a traffic policeman who adheres to the rules cares about various cases of violations, but he cares more about the thousands of strangers protected behind the rules.

2. Adhere to the principle of "treating the matter, not the person". The occasion is very important.

1. As a manager, I will often criticize a colleague in a meeting because he did not do a certain job well. He will explain that "it is not the right person" and then start to criticize. From the bottom of my heart, my starting point is to talk about things, not to criticize people. I am very rational, but people are emotional. Maybe it is difficult to accept the facts in this situation, and I will have the idea of ????resigning and not wanting to do anything. Although everyone can distinguish between judging things and evaluating people, it is still difficult to accept it. If you pay attention to the situation and do not disclose your name, or communicate in advance and obtain his consent before speaking publicly, everyone will be able to distinguish between your evaluation of things and people. Just like Professor Luo Zhenyu said: You were late three times this week, let's find a solution together. This is also the communication art of a leader. Colleagues will definitely accept such a tone. It is also just talking about things, not people. If colleagues all understand that the leader is serious about his work and does not like to do special things for certain people. Everyone is treated equally and no matter what they do, they are judged based on the matter. I believe that colleagues will work seriously and the whole team will be happy. The overall level will also improve quickly.

? 2. As a teacher, many times I "treat the matter but not the person" and inadvertently hurt a student. Understand the role positioning. During the debate, the affirmative said: During a speech, the child stuttered on stage and was laughed at by the audience. The audience made jokes because of this incident. Anyone on stage would laugh if this phenomenon happened. But children who take the stage to speak will be sad on such occasions and unwilling to accept the facts. If the audience considers the occasion and their role as learners, or the host asks before the speech that any contestant is not allowed to laugh at them and respects others, there will be no jokes. If this phenomenon occurs, the audience of the joke should be criticized, and "target the issue rather than the person", and speak first. At the same time the intangible affirms the speaker. To truly put people first, set the rules first. When we are managing the class, we just set the class rules with the children in advance. If problems arise during implementation, we will discuss the matter on a case-by-case basis and treat everyone equally. I remember that when I led the class, I asked students not to bring snacks to the classroom, and I made it a rule in advance. As a result, a classmate reported that Zhu had brought snacks. After verification, the student indeed violated the rules by bringing snacks to the teaching area. Moreover, she was a girl and was the top student in the class. The student union report is just to see the teacher being partial to the top student, so why not criticize it? Of course I will criticize, hold a class meeting, analyze and discuss the matter of bringing snacks, and then talk about violating the principles and discuss the matter based on the facts, so the children can accept and understand.

This is the art of managing the needs of our students as teachers.