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How to stimulate your child's learning motivation and interest

Having the motivation to learn is the source of students' learning knowledge. The issue of learning motivation has always been a concern in educational psychology and teaching theory and practice. One of the most important areas is also a problem that parents and teachers are eager to solve. What is the relationship between learning interest and learning motivation?

1. Four major reasons that lead to children’s lack of learning motivation.

Many parents of primary and secondary school students are troubled by urging their children to study hard. They always think that they are not active and lack initiative in learning. Sometimes, I even wonder whether children are born not to like learning. In fact, children’s motivation to learn is innate. I believe parents will still remember how their children always asked questions about everything and were curious about external things when they were two or three years old. But why do children become less motivated to learn as they get older? School culture and assessment systems, Curriculum content and teaching methods are all important factors, and parents’ attitudes, behavior patterns and discipline methods cannot be ignored. The following will use several examples to analyze how parents unknowingly drain their children's intrinsic learning motivation.

1. When your child asks you a question. Should we tell him what we know immediately?

If we do this, we will prevent them from experiencing the fun of finding answers on their own, thereby killing their intrinsic motivation to learn. At the same time, it will make them develop the habit of dependence and giving up easily, causing them to lose their ability to learn on their own.

2. When your children ask you to help with exercises in certain subjects, such as collecting or organizing information, will you help?

I believe many parents will help, and even regard it as a matter of course. Complete the "parent homework" with all your heart and soul. However, the child loses a rare opportunity to learn communication and data processing skills and develop multiple intelligences through practice.

3． When a child tells you that he is being bullied by his classmates. What would you do?

Most parents will teach their children to tell the teacher, and some parents will go to school in person to teach the classmate a lesson. But will the above practices make children more dependent? The child may believe that problems can only be solved by relying on others, even authority. In fact, if we look at it from another perspective, we will find that the experience of children being bullied is a good learning opportunity. It can cultivate children's ability to solve problems, protect themselves and get along with others. Parents may wish to discuss with their children how to face this situation based on their children's mental maturity. We need to listen patiently to their feelings and ideas and encourage them to think about solutions from different perspectives. If they suggest inappropriate actions such as retaliation or aggressive actions, parents need to spend more time asking questions to inspire them to think, try to guide their children to think and imagine the consequences of various options, and encourage them to reflect on what they can do. Whether to bear the consequences. Finally, let the children implement the plan they think is best and conduct post-mortem review.

4. Is it when the child is concentrating on a certain activity (such as reading a novel, etc.). Urging him to do his homework?

This seems to be a natural thing, but it has many negative consequences. first. The child will lose an opportunity to concentrate. As a result, they lack a sense of engagement and concentration whether in study, games or work. At the same time, they may develop an aversion to schoolwork because they believe it prevents them from continuing the activity. On the other hand, they will also have some negative emotions, such as irritability, resistance or suppressed dissatisfaction. They may even misunderstand their parents, thinking that they do not love or understand them.

To avoid this dilemma, parents can regularly exercise their children's self-discipline. Through different forms, children can fully understand their rights and responsibilities and reflect on whether they can bear various consequences. Before carrying out the activity, encourage them to complete their homework first, set their own time to complete the activity, and bear the consequences for failing to achieve the set goals. On the other hand, we should pay more attention to the meaning of "learning from games" and children's sense of achievement. Don’t forget to let your children experience care and success.

Do the above examples reflect that because we love and protect our children too much, they lose many learning opportunities? It also causes them to suffer from "learning dependence", which prevents the children's inner learning motivation and potential from being fully utilized.

2. How to detect the poor performance of children who lack motivation to learn?

1. Avoid learning. Reluctance to attend classes, no sense of achievement in class, no ambitions and expectations, and no desire to seek knowledge and progress.

2． Excessive anxiety. Lack of self-esteem and self-confidence. Do not feel embarrassed if you do not study well.

3. Pay attention to distractions. Lack of learning motivation will lead to distracted attention, shifting interests, and vulnerability to interference from various internal and external factors. As a result, students will be very interested in things other than learning, and will not hesitate to spend time, often overestimating the priority and reversing priorities.

4. Feelings of boredom and apathy.

5. Lack of appropriate learning methods.

6． Learning without goals or plans.

After research by our education experts, we found that there are internal and external reasons for the lack of motivation to learn. Internal reasons include: (1) unclear learning motivation; (2) lack of interest in the major; (3) misattribution. External causes specifically: External causes refer to causes from society, school, family, etc. Some families are eager for quick success and quick profit, and let their children study majors that make more money and find jobs easily, without considering whether they are interested in these majors and whether they are suitable for their children to study. These factors have a negative impact on students. , and even become a hidden reason for students to drop out of school.

3. Effective ways to improve children’s learning motivation!

Do you need to ask a tutor to force your child to study, but he has just passed the exam? How to encourage your children to establish spontaneous learning Motivation is, I believe, a problem that many parents are trying to solve.

Judging from the successful experiences of talented people from Peking University and Tsinghua University, self-confidence plays a great role in learning. Here are some ways that talented people can improve their self-confidence. Students can adopt one or more of the following methods according to their own circumstances and keep trying them, and they will surely be effective.

1. Say to yourself in your heart "I can do it". "I can do it"

Students who have an inferiority complex always think that they are not good enough. I’m not good at Chinese, I’m not good at math, I’m not good at English, I’m not good at this and I’m not good at that. The more you think you are not good enough, the less confident you will be. The less confident you are, the less motivated you will feel, and you may even fall into pieces.

Some students have a poor foundation in learning. When the exam is about to expire and the exam is about to expire, they always think that I will not do well in the midterm exam. I am not good and I still failed this time. Anyway, I didn’t do well in the exam and had to be scolded by my parents, so I didn’t want to review. Of course, I still didn't do well in the exam.

In order to overcome inferiority complex and build self-confidence, you must recite "I can do it, I can do it!" silently in your heart. You must be decisive and recite it repeatedly, especially when you encounter difficulties. As long as you persist in reciting silently, especially nine times after getting up in the morning, and nine times before going to bed at night, you will gradually build up your confidence and psychological strength through your own positive suggestion.

"I am born to be useful," so can other students. Everyone has similar intelligence. As long as they work hard and use the right methods, their own grades can be improved. His academic performance will also decline. If I work hard, my academic performance will improve.

2. Happy things are the product of confidence

Every student has his or her own happy things. Happy things are things you do successfully, which are the product of your confidence and strength. Every student has many happy things. Think about your most proud and successful things, for example: your 100-meter race. When you get excellent grades, think back to your psychological feelings at that time.

Don’t feel downhearted if your academic performance is not ideal once in a while. You can recall your previous successes, which shows that I am not stupid, I can succeed. In this way, I will feel at ease and have strength, and I will believe that I can still do it after hard work.

3. Smile often

Those who do not have confidence often look sad and listless. , eyes dull.

An ambitious person has sparkling eyes and a cheerful face. A person's facial expressions are consistent with a person's inner experience. Laughter is a sign of happiness. Laughter can give people confidence and strength; laughter can make people feel happy and cheer up their spirits; laughter can make people forget their sorrows and get rid of their troubles.

Learn to laugh, learn to smile, learn to laugh when you are frustrated, and you will increase your confidence. Please carefully experience the psychological feeling of smiling. Please smile naturally in front of the mirror and experience your inner feelings. This method seems simple, but it is really effective. When you gradually develop the habit of smiling often, you will feel full of strength and confidence in your heart.

4． Don't be downcast

When people are frustrated and discouraged, they often become downcast. Hanging your head is a sign of lack of strength, failure, and loss of confidence. Successful people, proud people, and victorious people hold their heads high and are high-spirited.

Human postures are compatible with people's inner experiences, and the performance of postures and inner experiences can promote each other. The more confident a person is, the more powerful he is to hold his head high. The less powerful a person is, the more inferior he or she is and the more he or she becomes listless and dejected. Learning to hold your head high naturally will gradually build up your confidence and enhance your confidence.

5． Take the initiative to interact with people

Take the initiative to greet people when you meet them, and take the initiative to greet others. As a rule, if you say hello to others, others will also say hello to you. If you smile to others, others will also smile to you. We rarely see you smiling and saying "hello" to others, and others will frown and say "you're not good" to you. This is not in line with human nature. In the greeting with a smile, both you and your partner will feel the warmth and true feelings of the world. This kind of warmth and true feelings will make people full of strength and increase your confidence.

6． Appreciate inspiring music

People will have this kind of emotional experience. When they hear majestic and passionate songs, they are often inspired to be enthusiastic and high-spirited; Often sadness and nostalgia come to mind.

Healthy music can mediate people's emotions, cultivate their sentiments, and cultivate their will. When you are frustrated, depressed, or lacking confidence, choosing appropriate music to listen to can help you cheer up.

4. Why do children not have good interest in learning?

To stimulate children's interest in learning, it is first related to the cultivation of "curiosity". Curiosity represents the love of contact with new things. The more a person is exposed to new things, the more he will want to know more; wanting to know more is the source of motivation for learning. However, many times parents do not encourage or even suppress their children's curiosity. When a parent takes his children to the street, he may point here and there and ask them to look, but usually he will also add: "But don't look for too long." Sometimes, parents will obstruct their children when they observe things. The reason why children stop asking their parents the second question after asking them the first question is because they know that their parents don't like them asking further questions, but in fact asking questions is the source of motivation for learning.

Therefore, parents should not only not suppress their children’s curiosity and prohibit their children from asking questions, but also encourage them; because when they grow up, they may not necessarily want to know so much. Parents should also take their children out on the street more often to expose them to new things. Of course, if the parents themselves are highly curious and love to ask questions, the impact on their children will be even greater.

1. Lead by example

If the parents themselves are people who do not know how to ask questions and do not like to seek answers, their children will not have rich experience in asking people, nor will they be able to ask questions. More than two questions. So "leading by example" is really important, and "leading by example" should be applied to parents' reactions to "wrong". Do parents "know what is right", "It doesn't matter if you are wrong, just ask someone" or "Let's start over j"... These concepts are the most important, rather than being obsessed with saving face, never admitting mistakes, and only knowing how to bluff.

Are you the kind of parent who immediately wants to be "promoted to the court" as soon as their children do something wrong? 90% of parents are extremely nervous about the 65 or 56 points on their children's score sheets. Whenever children receive test papers and report cards, they will ask sharply: "What's the score?" In this way, the children will either comfort their parents in turn, or cover up their low scores, both of which will ultimately lead to a decrease in learning motivation. .

In addition, the method of "explaining to your children why they should study using character examples" is also a good method. Parents can also tell their children about the occupations of all relatives and what education levels are required for these occupations. This enables children to realize the importance of learning knowledge after feeling real success.

2. The relationship between environment and learning emotions

Research shows that the early learning performance of children from well-off class families is higher than that of lower class families, especially boys. This illustrates that the environment can affect the mood of learning. There are differences between boys and girls in this regard: girls have to sit in a fixed position to concentrate on reading, and it will be very hard for them to constantly adapt to the new environment; boys, on the contrary, can read wherever they go, and even You can still read while the exciting songs are playing. As parents, you should pay attention to these details.

5. 18 ways to stimulate children's interest in learning!

A very important aspect of improving children's learning motivation is: how to stimulate and improve their interest in learning. So how should we help our children? How to improve their interest in learning? Every parent hopes that their children can learn easily and happily and achieve good results. But often times it is not satisfactory. Some children get headaches when it comes to studying. They are afraid of reading, doing homework, and even writing essays. When encountering these situations, many parents are helpless and helpless. What causes their children to be tired of studying? In fact, the main reason is that the children are not interested in learning. Interest in learning is the most practical motivation to promote children's learning. It can encourage children to learn consciously. Generally speaking, children's interest in learning, their academic performance and learning confidence are complementary to each other. If a child is interested in a certain subject, his academic performance will be good and his confidence in learning will be high. Therefore, it is important to cultivate children's interest in learning. How to cultivate children's interest in learning?

1. Respect your child's interests.

Nowadays, many parents try every means to make their children learn well and understand better from the moment their children enter school. Therefore, parents make full arrangements for their children's weekends and holidays. In fact, it is good for children to learn more, and it is also a good starting point for parents. But do their children like to learn? Parents ignore them and ignore their children's feelings, making their children learn very hard and strenuously, and they don't want to learn. Children are like various saplings, some are like pine and cypress saplings, some are like willow saplings, some are like banyan saplings, etc. No matter what kind of saplings they are, they can grow into various materials. Therefore, the responsibility of parents is not to force their children to learn this thing or not to learn that thing, but to give their children more free and loose space and let them choose what they are interested in and like. For example, some children like to work with their hands and make some small productions. Parents think that this has nothing to do with learning, so they stop it, restrict them, and don't allow them to do it. actually. Children also need to use their brains during the production process. When they don’t understand, they will consult relevant information and books. This is the learning process. With this kind of learning, children will learn consciously and happily. Moreover, in such activities, It not only develops children's thinking ability, but also improves their hands-on ability. Not only should parents not stop them from doing it, but they should also provide them with relevant books based on their children's interests and create opportunities for their children to participate in some useful activities and competitions.

Many facts have proven that interests developed in childhood often lay the foundation for a lifelong career. Some parents place great hopes on their children, but they often "prescribe" their children's interests according to their own subjective will, rather than respecting the development rules of the children's own learning interests and cultivating them, which often delays the development of their children. .

2. Pay attention to linking children's original interests with knowledge learning to cultivate and stimulate new interests.

Some children get headaches when they hear about writing essays. If they are asked to write this, they say they have never done it; to write that, they say they have never been or seen it, and they don’t know how to describe it. In fact, there are many things that children have never experienced and have no personal experience, but they have to write about them, so they have to copy from this composition book and copy from that composition book. When they really can’t find anything to copy, Just writing a few sloppy sentences to cope with it became a truly "composed" composition. But like the child mentioned just now, he likes to do hands-on operations. If the parents support him and provide him with relevant books, he will read more and do more, and if he is really asked to write, then when he writes It will be handy, and the articles he writes must be more specific, real, and flesh-and-blood. He will write down his production process, his joy of success, how to overcome difficulties when encountering them, etc. in detail. Therefore, parents should let their children participate in more useful activities that they like and connect them with learning. In short, parents should pay attention to linking their children's original interests with knowledge learning and directing interests to learning to cultivate and stimulate new interests.

3. Accurately determine the reasons why children don’t like studying and help solve them.

The reasons why children don’t like learning are very complex. If we discuss it, we will find that it is not actually that children don't like reading, but that it is caused by certain factors, such as being criticized by the teacher at school, being ridiculed by classmates for reading wrong words, being forced to do homework when they want to watch TV, etc. . After these reasons gradually accumulated in my heart, I gradually lost interest in learning.

We parents must first communicate freely with our children and discuss with them in a gentle manner why they don’t like reading. Here, children can say anything, no matter how ridiculous their reasons are, parents are not allowed to scold or make fun of them. When the child tells all the reasons why he doesn't like reading, he will find that the reason he doesn't like studying is not the learning itself, but the environment related to reading and learning, such as being criticized by the teacher, being ridiculed, wanting to watch TV, etc. If his parents understand his problem, they will solve it for him. For example, you can talk to the teacher about your child's situation, and when the TV program your child likes to watch is playing, let your child watch the TV before studying, etc. This can help the child solve learning obstacles and restore the child's interest in learning.

4. Listen and talk to your children about their study life

Newly admitted children find everything at school novel and interesting. When they return home, they will happily tell their parents about their study life at school. At this time, parents should listen patiently and And discussing study life with them is very important to cultivate their interest in learning.

5. Make the desk an interesting place for children

Children need a good environment to learn and do homework, and a desk of their own is essential. Making the desk an interesting place for children will make them interested in learning activities that often take place at the desk. The desk should be neat and tidy, and the drawers should be equipped with the tools needed to do each homework, so that when he needs it, he can find it immediately and will not interrupt his homework and become irritated because of the lack of a certain tool. The desk is beautiful and comfortable, and children will sit here to start their learning activities whenever they have time. Some parents often report to teachers that their children are slow in doing homework at home, and often do homework until 11 or 2 o'clock. They don't know what to do? When teachers ask how their children do homework at home, some say that their children do homework at the same time. While watching TV, some talk about children playing while doing homework, some talk about children doing homework while listening to adults, etc. These reasons are all factors that cause children to work slowly. Due to the large amount of external interference, it is difficult for children to concentrate. If adults are talking around him, he will not be able to concentrate on his homework, and his speed will be slower. No matter what the reason is, parents must eliminate the interference that may affect their children's completion of homework and give their children a relatively quiet environment to study.

6. Each study session should not be too long

Currently, parents’ expectations for their children are generally too high. They hope that their children will study, study, and study again, as long as the children sit upright at their desks. , no matter how efficient it is, parents feel gratified and always urge their children to "sit down and start studying." As everyone knows, this approach is dangerous.

Ignoring children's psychological characteristics and arbitrarily extending learning time will make children oppose learning and games, hate learning, have no interest in learning, and develop bad habits of dillydallying and inattention. Therefore, parents must not be short-sighted and neglect the basics, and must not forget that cultivating their children's interest in learning is a top priority.

7. Encourage children to succeed. Improve children's sense of success.

Success is a motivation that makes children feel satisfied and willing to continue learning. Once children achieve success, they feel satisfied and are willing to continue learning. Therefore, parents should encourage and guide their children so that they can experience the joy of success. Each child's intelligence and receptive ability are different. Parents should fully understand their children and set some easy-to-achieve small goals for them according to their children's specific conditions. This will make the children feel that they can achieve it and they will have the ability to achieve it. Confidence and motivation will lead to success. When he realizes the joy of success. You will be interested and confident to achieve your next goal. As each small goal is achieved, the child continues to make progress. Children set goals. To establish a direction, we must proceed step by step and not act too hastily. Parents should provide patient guidance and specific help so that their children can experience the joy of overcoming difficulties and achieving success. For example, after children in lower grades learn pinyin and commonly used Chinese characters, they can write a short message to relatives in other places and ask their relatives far away to take time to reply to the children. This allows them to experience the practical effect of learning, which can cultivate children's interest in learning. .

8. Try to let your children create problems and enhance their curiosity for knowledge.

Children are the parties involved in learning. They are forced to study, forced to take exams, and their learning is in a passive state. It is understandable that children will become tired of learning after a long time. When parents guide their children to learn, they can use another method. Instead of asking their children to answer questions, they can adopt a learning method of letting their children create problems. This will not only change children's learning attitude, but also stimulate the interest in learning in children who hate learning.

Try to let your children create problems. What children will consider is the key point, and parents can also focus on this when guiding their children to learn. In addition, children usually ask questions about things that they understand very well or are satisfied with. This makes it easy for parents to understand what aspects their children are good at and where they are lacking. If you insist on this learning method, your children will accurately grasp the learning requirements and problems in their daily learning. In addition, it also helps to improve children's expression ability, satisfy children's self-esteem, and learning will naturally achieve good results.

9. Let your children be teachers. Provide opportunities to apply knowledge.

Parents can study together with their children, let the children be teachers to teach their parents, and try to exchange the status of teaching and being taught. Children standing on the teaching side will increase their desire to learn. At the same time, In order for both parties to understand, they must study deeply and grasp the key points of the learning content, which will be of great help to their own learning.

10. Carry out competition

“Competition” is an important driving force that governs human actions. Rather than working hard alone, you can maximize your potential by competing with your opponents. Parents who have the conditions can let their children study and write homework together with their classmates to see who can write quickly and well. Children can also secretly find a classmate with slightly higher grades than themselves as a target, and secretly make up their minds to gradually catch up with and surpass him.

11. Make the study plan public

One way to use psychology to quit smoking is to publicly announce to family or friends: "I want to quit smoking!" Doing so will have an effect. A forced binding effect. When you can't help but want to smoke, you will immediately think: "Would you be laughed at by others for being weak-willed or too unpromising?" So you can stick to it: "No matter what, you must stick to your plan." Formulate. The same goes for reading plans. Don't just make a decision secretly, but openly announce to your family or friends: "I am going to study hard." Only in this way will there be positive results.

12. Use the "reward effect" to stimulate interest in learning

When doing homework, you can use this method when you are tempted to sleep, watch TV, eat snacks, etc. Set yourself to satisfy your desires in the form of rewards after reaching a certain goal or stage, which means that you can only do what you expect after reaching a specified level. In this way, you may concentrate on studying in order to get rewards as early as possible, and shorten the study time as much as possible to seek satisfaction. Happy memories like this are more reliable and lasting than being forced to remember them.

13. Discuss the future with your child. It can stimulate his desire to read.

Every child will have a vision for his or her future. As parents, you might as well allow your children to fully express their hopes for the future, no matter how unrealistic they are. Parents and children discuss together what knowledge is needed to realize their ideals, so that children can understand that hard study is necessary for their future, thus stimulating children's enthusiasm for learning.

14. Understand your children’s learning abilities.

Remember that you must not impose your own ideal model on children, and each child has his own characteristics. The setting of goals will also vary from person to person. Even after setting training goals, they should be constantly adjusted. Keep it in the ideal mode.

15. Cultivate your children’s habit of making good use of their spare time.

In their spare time, children feel no pressure and their emotions can be relieved. It is easier for parents to evaluate their children's true learning ability through observation. Parents can let their children arrange their own time, do some useful things, and unconsciously develop an interest in learning.

16. Parents must strengthen their thirst for knowledge.

Children are good at imitating people close to them, usually their parents. Therefore, parents should not only pay attention to precepts, but also cooperate with teaching by example. The impact of parents who are curious about knowledge on their children is immeasurable.

17. The relationship between parents’ educational methods and methods and children’s learning interests.

Parents should pay attention to their own behavior and attitudes. They are often beaten and scolded at home, compared with outstanding students in the class, and often express dissatisfaction with them in front of their children. This will only hurt the children's self-esteem, make them give up on themselves, lose confidence in learning, and lose interest. , creating a vicious cycle. Therefore, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds, and must view their children with a positive attitude, believing that their children can change. When a child makes even a little progress compared to before, parents should give appropriate encouragement and praise to make the child realize that he is slowly changing. ． Parents should learn to compare their children's present with their past, rather than with other students, because every child is different. Parents must also promptly reinforce their children's excellent behaviors and punish bad behaviors appropriately. Never give a predetermined reward when a child fails to complete an assignment. When children make changes at home, parents can contact or communicate with the teacher, and ask the teacher to encourage and praise them at school or in the class, and strengthen their good behavior in a timely manner.

18 Let children have a sense of crisis and pressure.

For every child and parent, this is an unavoidable and must be thought clearly if they want to shape a conscious life. To form learning motivation, it is best not to indoctrinate, but to form consciousness, to guide children, and to allow children to analyze it on their own. It is necessary for children to have a correct and clear understanding of the small and large environment in which they grew up and live, and to have a sense of crisis. Regarding the general environment, one of the mantras that everyone has now is "Now is a competitive society." We must let our children understand that this fiercely competitive environment requires them to respond enthusiastically and actively participate in it—let them truly yearn for competition.

It should be reminded that children must have a sense of crisis and pressure. To prevent their yearning for a good life from remaining in the stage of daydreaming, we need to let them know how bad a bad future is, and let them know that they are walking on the edge of good and bad; but this The sense of crisis must be moderate, and the child must have a certain sense of security and protection. Of course, this protection is not power and money, nor the replacement of the parents, but the efforts of the parents and him, running forward together, communication and encouragement. brings confidence.

After solving the problem of learning motivation, the next step is to help children establish a good and productive learning habit, that is, to cultivate a daily positive and conscious learning state.

It is worth reminding that we must establish a healthy family entertainment method. Take good care of your children. Play to relax your body and mind and make you happy. Good entertainment can really constitute the highlight of life, become the motivation for work and study, and is also an indicator of a happy life.

Initiate an outdoor activity, mountain climbing, swimming, playing table tennis... and the whole family participates in a family competition. Giving children more opportunities to get in touch with nature and improve their physical fitness is a very positive form of entertainment. In contrast, taking your children to restaurants or shopping malls when you have nothing to do is not a particularly effective way of leisure.