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How to keep yourself from falling into the pit of Chinese ridicule? Have parents learned?

It's almost Spring Festival. Family members like to visit each other before the Spring Festival, and everyone likes family gatherings during festivals. Generally speaking, people who have children at home will take them with them. When they finish eating, they will start chatting. In the process of chatting, the topic of having children is inevitable. Therefore, it is easy to start "Chinese teasing".

At this time, some elders will joke with their children and say, "When your parents have brothers and sisters, they will not want you and throw you away." "Look, your mother is gone. She doesn't want you. She wants to sell you. " "You were picked up by your parents in the trash can." Equal word.

In fact, this phenomenon is not uncommon in most China families. Many children often hear these words from their elders when they are young. Because they don't know much about the world, they don't think it's just a joke, and some children even take it to heart. Therefore, when they were young, they would cry because of these things and make a lot of noise.

They think their parents don't love them. They made the children cry, and the elders would laugh and think it was funny.

In my opinion, this way is actually not good for children. Children are still young and have little life experience, so they can't distinguish right from wrong. Older people make fun of themselves, and they will inevitably leave scars in their hearts.

When children grow up, they will feel that their parents really don't love themselves. Therefore, some psychological shadows will be formed in the future, and it is difficult to communicate with parents calmly. Including sometimes the unintentional jokes of the elderly, are a shadow to the children's lives. It takes a long time for a child's disappointment and sadness to return to normal. Therefore, in daily life, we should be wary of "Chinese teasing."

"Chinese-style teasing behavior" 1 that needs to be resisted. Scaring children is to pick them up.

Some children's parents have to leave their children to work outside in order to make a living. Some neighbors, relatives and friends will scare their children, saying that they are picked up and no one loves them. Although the elders didn't mean to say it, they left a big shadow on the children.

Children will think what adults say is true. My parents haven't been around for a long time because they don't love themselves. This kind of thinking will lead to very tense family relations. Even if parents go home to visit their children during the Spring Festival, there will be a blank in their hearts. Children lose the sense of security brought by their families, which is not conducive to their healthy growth.

2. Let children smoke and drink

We often see this phenomenon at the dinner table. Some parents' friends always like to let their children drink, especially boys. Some adults will try their best to pour wine for their children. Some parents acquiesced in this behavior in order to save face.

As we all know, smoking and drinking are harmful to physical and mental health, especially for children with organ hypoplasia. Some people may be curious about their children's behavior after smoking and drinking, so they let them drink. But for whatever purpose, parents should say "no" to this behavior in time, otherwise the victim will still be a child.

3. Deliberately deceive children

Some parents make the same mistake when educating their children. For example, if a child wants to eat, parents will tell the child that there is nothing to eat. After a while, the children found it in the drawer.

This kind of deliberate deception will make children anxious. Lying to children often will not only make them form the bad habit of lying, but also make them not very friendly to their parents, which will easily lead to their premature rebellion.

4. Kiss your child on the cheek too much.

When some elders or friends go home to express their love for their children, they will have too much physical contact with them and often kiss their faces and mouths, making them feel that they like them very much.

Although such behavior will make it difficult for parents to refuse, parents should understand the harm of such behavior as soon as possible. Children's immunity is poor. There are many bacteria in adults' mouths that children can't stand. Too much intimate behavior, adults will bring bacteria from the mouth to the child, which will increase the chance of the child getting sick.

As a way for parents to cope with "Chinese teasing", when we find that our children are "Chinese teasing" by relatives and friends. Here's what we should do:

1. Take the initiative to stand up and refuse this behavior.

In fact, in daily life, many parents don't like this kind of behavior. Many parents have this idea when facing their children and being teased by other elders. Our parents should respect their elders and refuse this behavior because of face. They are afraid of losing face by refusing others. Although it may exist in love, face-to-face relationship is not conducive to rejecting elders, but if parents can't stand up and stop this behavior, it is harmful to children.

As parents, we should not hurt our children for love, but try our best to protect them from harm. After the child is born, as parents, we will do our best to take care of the child, give the best things to the child, meet the child's requirements, play games with the child, and at the same time, parents will do their homework and give the child the best education.

Parents do this because they want to give their children a good family atmosphere and a good education. Our parents try their best to take care of their children, let them grow up and let them know that they are loved. But "teasing the baby in Chinese style" is just a simple sentence, which will easily destroy the child's psychological defense and cause some indelible psychological shadows in his life.

Therefore, if children are still young and can't fully express their ideas, as parents, we should bravely stand up and stop these behaviors. At the same time, you should also show your attitude to the people around you or some elders and tell others that your parents know that your intentions are not bad, but your children will take what you say seriously. In this way, it can be created that if some parents dare not refuse this behavior because of their feelings, then parents can find some excuses to take their children away and let them avoid these injuries.

2. Encourage children to learn to refuse

In daily life, parents should educate their children in advance and give them this feeling, just like educating children not to walk with strangers and not to talk to strangers. When you are teased by your elders, don't be afraid, don't shrink back, bravely express your thoughts and refuse this behavior.

The child's heart is fragile and needs careful care. They haven't grown up, and they can't face all vulgarity and vulgarity. Parents should encourage their children if they are teased or laughed at by their elders. Faced with this situation, they can choose not to answer, and even have the courage to refuse these behaviors.