It's because you are not good-looking, and you are really hurt!

A person was born in this world, and his appearance can't be chosen by himself. Some people, but with graces granted by heaven and not to be concealed, have been the darling of everyone since childhood, and they have unique conditions in both work and love. However, people who are not good-looking are met with a wall and laughed at everywhere, and that sadness is beyond the ordinary people's understanding. When it comes to all kinds of sad things, in a word, the reason why you get along so badly is summarized. This sentence really hurts!

I accidentally saw a song on the Internet two days ago called "Because you are not good-looking". At that time, I felt very heartfelt when I saw the name. Out of curiosity, I clicked in and listened to it. After listening, I felt that ordinary people like me should basically have no love, let alone true love. It's so piercing!

Just like a joke I saw before, the story about the unlucky beauty probably means why all beautiful women are unlucky, just because ugly people can't remember it at all, so who cares how long you live?

So, it seems that good-looking people have love, and good-looking people will be remembered. People who are not good-looking should have no love and should be unknown.

Apart from love, it seems to be the same at work. Good-looking people have strong work ability, and good-looking people are competent for any job. Good-looking people are excellent ...

I have a friend who is in charge of recruitment. He said that when he interviews, he looks at looks first. If the candidate is not good-looking, he will be eliminated first, regardless of his ability. In other words, he thinks that looks are greater than abilities in his work. I don't know how many people think like him, but his presence at least shows that there is.

On another occasion, when I was walking down the street, I heard someone discussing work, and one of them said that it was not difficult to find a job as long as I was good-looking, but I could still do personnel administration if I really couldn't. At that time, I walked in front and silently shed a bitter tear for myself. Who said it wasn't? This is the bloody history of my job search!

From interview to work, I have seen some examples of enjoying "privilege" because I am good-looking. Sometimes I really feel that what others can easily get, I have to work hard.

I used to think that two people with the same conditions, the one who looks good will win. After all, everyone has a love of beauty. I understand that, too. However, it was later discovered that if the appearance is good enough, people sometimes relax other restrictions.

then an ordinary-looking person like me will be hurt, because I don't have enough looks and I have the ability to make up for it, but sometimes my ability can't be a competitive condition.

So, are ugly people really so disadvantaged? Is it wrong to look bad?

A few days ago, my circle of friends was screened by an article. I finished reading Lao Yang's article "Girls, It doesn't matter if they are not beautiful" with tears in my eyes, and then I went to chat with Lao Yang. I said that your article was really empathetic, and then we comforted each other and almost cried.

Lao Yang said: "In my last ten years of life, the lack of beauty has made me wrong in many things, such as princess-like treatment, loyal love, easy-to-get job opportunities, and more that I didn't realize."

So I couldn't help thinking bitterly about what I had to face as an ugly girl in my life for more than 12 years.

1 When I was very young, standing with other little girls, adults would always touch the faces of other little girls and say, This little girl is really beautiful, and then I was silently left aside.

when I was in primary school, I took part in a chorus competition and lined up according to my height. I stood in the first row. After a rehearsal, the teacher came out and carried me from the first row to the middle of the last row.

in the fifth grade, I signed up for a chorus performance with my friends on Children's Day, but it was deleted before I spoke in front of the teacher.

4 In junior high school, seed of love, a variety of children, and his friends around him were all handed love letters and confessed, and all kinds of small gifts were stuffed under the drawers, but I didn't.

5 Later, someone wrote me a love letter, and I was very happy. Later, they told me that this boy wanted to write it to me because he lost a bet.

since I was in my teens in 26, I have always secretly loved others, and I dare not speak, because I feel that if I speak, I will definitely be rejected.

when I was in high school in 27, I went to the stage to run for class cadre, and I was booed because they said I was ugly. How can I run for class cadre?

When I was in college in 28, I interviewed various clubs, student unions, broadcasters and press groups, and went with my roommates. No matter how I performed, I was the first one to be eliminated.

when I was a freshman in 29, I had a boyfriend, who seemed to be known by many people in our class. When he was waiting for me downstairs, he was seen by others. Later, when I went to the water room, I heard a classmate say, Then how can anyone have a crush on XXX (sorry, it happens to be my name)? Another person chimed in: Yes, I can't believe that so many beautiful women in our class don't have boyfriends. How can she have boyfriends?

When I was in my senior year of 1, I went to the TV station for an exam. I scored first in the written test and didn't make any mistakes in the interview. I didn't get the notice, so I was so angry that I didn't talk all night. Then my mother said, TV stations must recruit good-looking people.

11 I went for an interview with an executive of a company. HR told me that we have high requirements for the appearance of this position, and you probably don't meet our requirements.

12 I went out to play with a group of friends. In the evening, the boys consciously said to XXX and XXX, who are good-looking, let me take you home, and then I walked home by myself.

13 There was another time when I played with a few friends who were not familiar with me. One girl spoiled and said that she wanted a drink. The boy next to her immediately said that he would buy it. We have four girls. He bought three bottles of drinks, but I was the only one who didn't have mine. Another boy pointed to me awkwardly and said that there was still her. He said, sorry, I forgot about her.

14 someone confessed to me, and the first thing he said was: Although you are not good-looking, I didn't listen to the following words. I said, Oh. And then there was no more.

15 someone claimed to chase me and invited me to dinner, so he ordered two, an eggplant and a edamame. I hesitated for a long time, not knowing how to restrain my 1,-ton grass-mud horse from roaring past (mainly because I only like meat), so I asked him what he liked about me, and he said, I think you are quite suitable for living. I said, Oh. And then there was no more.

16 and I sent a broadcast before: Speaking of the robbed man, I carefully recalled my sad history: ex-boyfriend No.1 hooked up with my best friend A and my best friend B, ex-boyfriend No.2 cheated on me and had an affair with my best friend D, and ex-boyfriend No.3 dumped me and chased my best friend E after half a year, and a blind date took a fancy to my best friend F after dinner with me. It's all true, because all my girlfriends around me are better-looking than me.

17 I've hardly been picked up, and almost no one asked me for my number for the purpose of chatting. No one deliberately came to talk to me when I was on the train, and even if I didn't ask for help with my suitcase, no one would take the initiative to put it on the luggage rack for me.

18 people often say that I haven't found a partner yet, and I always despise others when I am obviously not good-looking. In fact, it's good to have a crush on you. What qualifications do you have to be picky?

19 Once, a young man smashed after me. My mother thought that he was particularly handsome, honest and reliable in his work. He wanted me to stay with him anyway, and even quietly discussed with him where to buy a house after smashing. = =

After the young man smashed me, my mother was very angry and pointed at me and swore: What are you worrying about? Look at you, ah, yes. I'm telling you, I wouldn't have a crush on you if he wasn't from other places! Then she was so angry that she didn't talk to me for days.

2 I met my ex-boyfriend and his current girlfriend on the road with my mother, and turned to my mother and said, Oh, whose girlfriend looks much better than you, no wonder people don't want you. I said: nonsense, obviously I dumped him. My mother stared at me for a long time, and then said, judging by his appearance, it's impossible. He is much better-looking than you. He must have dumped you. Right? No! Wrong! ! My mother has been professional for 5 years, and I am ugly! ! !

I can't remember a lot of things at once. In short, in the past twenty years, because I was ugly, it really "made me lose my body a lot", and some things didn't even have a chance to express my grievances, because many times, unattractive people were ignored intentionally or unintentionally.

I think it's just a lot of bitter tears! ! ! I can't help but want to bite the quilt and squat in the corner and cry silently for a while! ! !

Because it's ugly, no one will ever spoil me or indulge me. Therefore, since I was a child, I won't be spoiled. I'm used to doing everything by myself, and I won't rely on anyone easily, and I won't easily show my feelings to others. Even when I am in love, I often feel embarrassed because of some intimate actions of the other party.

(For example, one day, I told my ex-boyfriend that I was going to the train station to buy a ticket. He said that tomorrow morning you asked me to go with you. My first reaction was: You are crazy. I won't go myself. What do you want to do with me? ! ! There should be a waving expression here)

They all call me a "female man", but I don't want to! But the problem is, there is no one to spoil you! Occasionally, someone comes out and wants to spoil him, and he will get goose bumps and slap him directly! !

The most self-abased time is adolescence, when I was in my teens and twenties. At that time, all the girls around me were glamorous and sought after enthusiastically. I was the only one who was completely humiliated and had a love affair and ended in tragedy. At that time, I really felt self-abased to the bone. I stayed in my dormitory every day, unwilling to go out, afraid to show my face, and had no confidence in doing anything. I felt that I was unlovable and useless.

On such a long and dark road, I walked silently all the way, full of fear, fearing that I would stay in such a corner of inferiority all my life.

It didn't come to me until I stepped out of the small circle and started working. In fact, the so-called "unattractive" is just an excuse I found for myself. It seems that all idleness, timidity and laziness can be covered up with the excuse of "unattractive", and I can hide behind this excuse with peace of mind, not fighting for it or pursuing it, just like those attractive people, everything they have.

The older we get, the more we know. After all, the amazing beauties we see are very few, and most people in the world are just ordinary-looking. I am not just one of them. Even if I am not good-looking, I am not ugly enough to make people angry. At least I put on a little makeup, and I am not unable to see people. And many "sad memories" that have always been in mind, even if they did happen, can not be a reason for a person to hold back.

for an ordinary person, if you can rely on beauty to commit crimes, you can probably take many shortcuts, but beauty is never the only way to change your life.

Similarly, "I have been rejected, provoked and abandoned", and I failed to live up to my time for a long time. Fortunately, I didn't fail all the time. After that long pause in adolescence, I finally started to run towards the place I wanted to go. I stumbled along the way, and it was actually full and abundant. One day, when I was in the subway station,

Perhaps I finally found out that apart from natural beauty, what determines a person's beauty is more his spirit and temperament, as well as the smile on his face and the confidence revealed from his heart. Of course, it is necessary to dress properly and tidy up properly. Walking on the road of work and life, being recognized, approached, accepted and liked by others, besides appearance, is more about his ability, knowledge, emotional intelligence, personality, dealing with others and so on, which need to be accumulated and perfected in a lifetime.

Everyone likes people who are good-looking, but no one is an idiot and will give you all the benefits just because you are good-looking. Similarly, no one is a fool and will shut out the truly excellent you because you are not beautiful enough-provided, of course, that you are really the best and capable.

I chatted with my friends the day before yesterday, and talked about the relative fairness and absolute unfairness of this society. Many times, others will have unique conditions than you, even if they pay far less than you, they will have more than you. However, no matter how hard you work, there are always some people with superior family background, beautiful figure and first-class figure who live better than you without much effort.

but so what? If what others can get easily requires an ordinary person to make great efforts to get it, then you don't have to say much, just run on the road in silence. Complaining and accusing can't change your origin and appearance, but will only make you watch what you want get farther and farther away from yourself.

Work hard, live hard, read and write in my spare time, walk and run more when I have nothing to do, constantly meet new people, constantly get in touch with more new things, and feel a little bit of growth and change from the bottom of my heart. When I meet everyone, I sincerely smile, talk and chat with them, and talk about the distant future and dreams of life ...

There are more and more friends around me, and I am no longer always afraid when I go out to meet people.

I finally want to believe that I am a person worthy of being known and liked. People don't live for skins. There are always many things more important than skins in the world. If you don't look good, you can eat without your face. You can't win life by brushing your face. Then you can only compete with others by your talent and ambition. Can you just give up? Is it content to continue to be a dusty person all your life?

At the end of the chat, I told Lao Yang that it doesn't matter whether it looks good or not, but it's practical to work hard and earn more money. She said, not as honest as live high. Then she said, I know, we are all people who deserve to be known and liked.

If a girl is beautiful, she naturally has a beautiful way to live, but if she is not beautiful, she can still live openly and freely, which is enviable. It is a sharp weapon to have a good skin when you are young, but how to go through life smoothly requires too much wisdom. If some things are powerless to change, it is better to make your life more exciting and rich under limited conditions. Well, I believe I can do it, right?

it's not because you are not good-looking. don't people who are not good-looking have no spring of life? Of course not, if we have a lot of skills to make a living, have a good cultivation, read more books and read good books.