How to stop thinking?

From my own experience, sometimes, especially at night, I will think about some unrealistic things. My response is: don’t resist them. If you find them interesting, you can record them, but we must be clear that the most important thing is the present moment and what we have to do.

First of all, we need to figure out why we have random thoughts?

Many people tend to have random thoughts late at night or when they are free, especially when they are alone. This is because under these circumstances, a large amount of our own energy and attention are withdrawn from the outside world to ourselves. On the body. When you stop interacting with the outside world and don't need to care about other people's eyes and feelings, your true nature will slowly be revealed.

Some emotionally sensitive people are particularly prone to having random thoughts. They are full of energy, and every little thing can trigger their feelings. But because we are in contact with the outside world for a long time, our attention is not on ourselves, so our own thoughts are sometimes not noticed by ourselves. But when we are alone, we can truly see our own thoughts clearly.

Secondly, what are we thinking about?

Not all random thoughts are bad. You must first look at what you are thinking about and how often you think about it. Sometimes some sweet and beautiful fantasies can often satisfy the needs we lack in real life, and occasionally so-called "daydreaming" can also bring a certain degree of satisfaction. But if you often daydream and lose touch with reality, your thinking and behavioral abilities will slowly deteriorate.

If you often think about some bad memories, or even feel uneasy about your own behavior, this kind of random thinking accompanied by nervousness and anxiety will become a drain on your own energy, and you need to stop it as soon as possible. .

So how do we stop these wrong thoughts?

Don’t resist, first be tolerant and accepting

From a psychological point of view, it is very difficult to deliberately control one’s thinking. For example, in the most classic “white bear experiment”, the test subjects Even though they are asked not to think of the white bear, most people still think of it. In the same way, the more we suppress ourselves from thinking about something, the more this thought will occupy our minds. Therefore, when we always have random thoughts, what we have to do is not to deliberately suppress these thoughts, but learn to accept them. On the contrary, we will slowly let go and reduce the trouble these thoughts cause to you.

Record your daily thoughts and feelings

When your random thoughts have caused you stress, you can try to record them every day and consciously sort them out. When we look at the thoughts in your mind as bystanders, instead of bothering ourselves with painstaking efforts to solve them, your physical and mental state will gradually recover.

Value the present

The random thoughts in our minds are often reflections and compensations for our past selves. We are anxious about whether our actions in the past were correct, and worried about whether we can be good in the future. Doing certain things better often causes us to lose sight of the present moment. Therefore, what we have to do is to focus on the present life and look down upon our past shortcomings and worries about the future, so as to reduce the physical and mental constraints on ourselves.