The boss asked me to treat him, how should I respond?

In the workplace, worldliness is inevitable. It is normal for colleagues to treat each other to dinner. Usually there is a back and forth, and you can't suffer the loss. But if the leader asks you to treat him instead of inviting you to dinner, should he refuse or accept?

Recently, my colleague Xiaonan encountered a boss at work who asked him to treat him. At the end of the year, the company is about to have a holiday. The leader suggested that Xiaonan treat people in the department to a meal because Xiaonan's performance this year was good and he had a large year-end bonus. Xiaonan didn't want to agree, so she said, "The year-end bonus is not that big!"

After saying that, the leader's face changed. Only then did he realize that he had said the wrong thing. In the workplace, it is not a bad thing for your boss to treat you to dinner. Don't refuse casually, but think clearly, how to answer?

01.Why does the leader ask you to treat him?

①The leader gives you a chance to express yourself

Treating guests is common in the workplace. In our country, treating guests to dinner is a way of interpersonal communication. It is normal for leaders to treat employees to dinner. But when he asks you to treat him by name, he is actually giving you the opportunity.

Normally, when the leader gives a treat, there are always people rushing to pay for it. If you really don’t want to spend money, you don’t need to treat me. The boss saw Xiaonan's good performance and asked him to treat him, probably to promote him.

Inviting someone to dinner is actually another form of congratulations. Your boss can praise you at the dinner table, and your colleagues will also thank you in their hearts when they know it's your treat. There is an old saying in China, "Eating people is soft-spoken, and taking advantage of others is short-handed." Rejecting leadership is tantamount to rejecting an opportunity.

②A joke from the leader

To take a step back, it can be regarded as a joke from the leader. Treating guests is not a big deal. This is also the time to let the leader see your attitude. If you treat me today, someone else will treat you another day. It's just a matter of a meal. You just need to choose a suitable place to eat based on your financial strength.

If it doesn’t work, it’s okay for a group of people to eat at the food stalls. Don't worry about spending a lot of money, it's actually more about your heart. If you reject the leader on the spot, the leader will lose face. The reason why your boss didn't fire you may really be because of your good performance.

02. If your boss asks you to treat you to dinner, how should an employee with high emotional intelligence respond?

①Let’s go, where to eat?

If your boss asks you to treat him to a treat, you will be in a hurry. Leaders generally don't have a good impression of such employees. For leaders, it may be just a joke. The best way is to agree directly first, and then ask the leader where to eat?

Decide on the treat and leave it to the leader where to eat. Seeing how generous the employees are, the boss might even take the initiative to pay after finishing the meal. As a leader, I will basically not miss this meal for you.

②Great, I have wanted to treat you to dinner for a long time

Change from passive to active. Originally, the leader asked you to treat you to dinner. By saying this, you can show that you have long wanted to invite the leader to dinner. Since we are going to invite you to dinner anyway, you need to say this beautifully.

It is equivalent to thanking the leader for giving you the opportunity to treat guests. By treating guests, you can get to know more people at the dinner table, which will also be beneficial to your future work.

③I invite everyone to eat together

Many people have concerns about this sentence because they don’t know whether the leader is serious or joking. If you invite your boss to dinner alone, your colleagues may gossip. At this time, you can think of inviting the leader as inviting everyone to dinner. At the same time, it is also to prevent everyone from misunderstanding and thinking that the leader is inviting everyone to dinner.

In short, if the leader asks for a treat, it’s best to agree. Next, consider what to eat and where to eat. Even if you have to refuse, do it tactfully. When it comes to treating guests, be generous.