Sammi Cheng concert crying: What's the feeling of cheating?

-1- On one occasion, a video of a concert in Sammi Cheng was screened in Weibo.

In the video, Sammi Cheng cries and wipes her tears while singing "Traffic Lights".

In this regard, she explained: "I was depressed at the time. This song has been with me for many nights. I smoke every night and listen to this song. I feel like I'm standing at a traffic light. I want to cross the street, but I can't.

After watching this video, many fans expressed their distress.

As we all know, Sammi Cheng is a very emotional person and has always attached great importance to love.

She knew Xu Zhian from 16 years old and regarded him as an idol. Later, she fell in love and got married, and after 3 1 year, she was on and off.

Sammi Cheng suffered from depression before, and that was when he broke up with Xu Zhian.

Now, Sammi Cheng has rediscovered that kind of loneliness and depression, which may be related to Xu Zhian's cheating.

As a fan said, there is a lyric in the song "Traffic Lights", which is especially suitable for women's mood after cheating. That is: "No matter what she does wrong, she can ruin this life."

Yes, cheating, even if it is just a mistake, may ruin a woman's planned happiness in life.

Especially for a woman who has been in love for decades.

-2- What's it like to be cheated by someone you love?

A depression patient I know told me:

She used to think that she was a possessive person and always trusted her husband very much.

They never look at each other's mobile phones and never ask each other where they have gone.

She also joked: "If my husband cheats, I will send San Xiao a banner to thank her for fulfilling her obligations for me."

But then one time, she accidentally discovered that her husband was cheating.

And not through chatting, not through video, but the kind of real hammer that I saw with my own eyes.

Since then, she often suffers from insomnia and sometimes wakes up crying in the middle of the night.

She said, "I really don't care who he sleeps with. I have even forgiven my husband. "

"What I really care about is that I thought he would never cheat, but he cheated. What I care about is that his actual appearance is completely different from what I thought. "

"I married a complete stranger. Can you understand this feeling? "

Trust, once it collapses, so does faith.

In the past, she could tease her husband mercilessly. Now, when he teased her cheekily, she thought like a masked man, "Is he teasing me?" Did he pretend to be like this on purpose? "

So she smiled politely, but she was never happy again.

This is the deadliest lethality of derailment.

-3- Some people say that there are only zero or countless infidelities.

This statement is not accurate. I did meet a man who cheated him.

But just once is enough to kill their marriage, and there is no need for a second time.

In the 1980s, there was a very loving couple in our hometown.

The man works in a nearby factory and drives a taxi in his spare time, while the woman takes care of two children at home. Although their lives are poor, they are also full of laughter.

But it didn't last long. Somehow, the man took a taxi and drove into the bedroom of the female guest.

Villages and towns are small, so they bring two people out casually. Such a thing soon became a scandal and spread to women's ears.

At first, the woman planned to divorce, but the two children were too young to leave their father in tears.

The man is also red-eyed, swearing and vowing never to do this again.

The woman forgave him after all, and the man kept his promise, and there were no moths from now on.

Their lives look the same as before: men work in factories, take taxis in their spare time, and women take care of their children at home.

The only change is that women are no longer willing to eat the food that men put in their bowls and listen to the jokes that men tell.

Their lives, like being suddenly rejected, continue in silence.

Later, the man got cancer, and the woman took good care of it.

Everyone praised: "She is really a good woman."

However, at the last moment of his death, the man cried and asked, "Are you still unwilling to forgive me?"

If time can go back, how much he wants to cut off that disgraceful time and find back the past laughter.

4- The harm caused by derailment is far from simple.

It is not a kind of haggle over every ounce after being occupied and robbed, but a kind of disappointment and deception that can't be put down.

If marriage is a mirror, then cheating is a crack.

Even if the cheating party chooses to forgive, he will never erase this crack.

There was a movie before, which told a story of derailment, called "An arrow goes through the heart".

In the movie, Li Baoli, the heroine, found that her husband was staying in a small hotel with another woman, so she called the police with a public phone to report her husband's whoring.

The husband was ruined and chose to commit suicide.

Li Baoli took great pains to raise his son, but his son thought his mother was a vicious woman.

He resented his mother for killing his father.

Maybe this son will never understand: "Isn't this cheating?" Why can't you choose to forgive and severely punish each other? "

Things like being derailed and being derailed are really hard to understand just by imagining or watching.

However, for those who have experienced it personally, there are really only four words: "Ten thousand arrows pierce the heart."

This is like Sammi Cheng's tears, not because Xu Zhian cheated her, nor because Xu Zhian gave her tenderness to another woman.

But because, she can never find the old Xu Zhian and herself.