Parental speaking skills training - effective communication with children

“The killer that destroys a child’s life is not games or playfulness, but parents’ “verbal violence” - Li Meijin.

“Verbal violence can cause lasting damage to children’s body and mind. and serious injuries" - "China Youth Daily".

"Reject violence, use correct educational methods to communicate, speak well, and become a warm companion for children" - "China Education News".

Originally I wanted to express my concern for the child, but it turned into a sermon; I originally wanted the child to correct his shortcomings, but it turned into a scolding; I wanted to let the child eat well, but it turned into a complaint Even losing temper... What is the reason why such a situation happens almost every day?

The author Li Jing gives the answer and provides effective words to solve the problem in "Parents' Speech Training". . First of all, let’s get to know the author Li Jing. She is a family educator, children’s novel writer, and author of many best-selling books. She has been dedicated to the research and publishing of children’s character education and health education for many years. She has a long-term career in early childhood education. She has accumulated rich front-line teaching and research experience in her works, and readers can feel and learn the positive, positive and warm educational concepts. She published "Accompanying Children through the Sensitive Period of 3-6 Years Old" and "Walk with Children." Best-selling books such as "Beyond the Rebellious Period of 7-9 Years Old", and has also published works such as "Children's Enneagram Education Method" and "Speaking into Children's Hearts" under different pseudonyms.

In "Parents' Words". In the work "Training", the author Li Jing mentioned that rude words, rebuking and preaching, and negative labels are all undesirable. So what should we do in this book from getting up to going out and from school? It lists some inappropriate words in multiple specific communication scenarios from family to family, from study to life, hoping that parents can reflect on their own problems in communicating with their children. At the same time, this book also provides some more reasonable words to improve the efficiency of parent-child communication. Suggestions.

Are you particularly prone to getting angry when facing someone who has difficulty getting up in the morning and keep urging, "I've made breakfast, why are you still sleeping?" "You're late, get up quickly" and other complaining and nagging words. As a result, the problem was not solved but instead provoked a "war" between parents and children, making the already tense atmosphere in the morning even more tense. In "Morning Talk" The author mentioned in "The Art of Learning" that the child's difficulty in getting up may be due to going to bed late, not sleeping enough, having nightmares and not sleeping well; the child does not know how to arrange time reasonably; does not want to go to school; it is cold and longs for a warm bed, etc., by finding out the specific reasons why the child has difficulty getting up. The reason is that parents can wake up their children in a targeted, humorous and peaceful way. At the same time, some speech suggestions are given to parents: "Wake up, mom has made you a delicious breakfast, and there are some sesame balls that you like to eat." OK? Blink when you wake up. Is your mouth awake? "Just chirp when you wake up..." and so on.

The book includes "Morning tips", "Words when receiving negative feedback from teachers", "Words when picking up children from school", "Guiding homework" "Speech skills for daily family behavior", "Speech skills related to children's social interaction", "Speech skills for taking children on trips" to help parents better understand their children, find the reasons for their children's problems, and provide specific communication skills . I hope parents and children can communicate peacefully, equally, and effectively.