How to break self-centeredness

What is another person? You allow yourself to hear different voices, and allow different opinions and expressions. If you allow everyone to think according to your thoughts, do things according to your words and deeds, and meet your standards according to your requirements. Then you are crazy. It is arrogance, and everything is self-centered. So learn to accept and tolerate. Only in this way can you meet different people. Get along with different people. Otherwise, as a mother? And you, especially unique, will be depressed because life is not satisfactory, and will also make everyone particularly angry with you, and you will become a manic person. Suppress and restrict others' self-existence, and you are a bad person. No matter how good a person is, he is particularly annoying.

So you must change your self-centered state. Your depression can be cured.

? The fundamental psychological cause of depression is lack of love and self-centeredness. Only when the lack of love gives birth to love and the self-centered model collapses, can people listen to their inner command and become terminally ill.

The problem of lack of love has been solved in the last article, and the problem of self-centeredness is solved below.

Self-centeredness is mainly about being too obsessed with gains and losses. Perfectionism, idealism, pacifism and security restrict self-opening. Let yourself live too dark and too dead.

Depression is depression because I want something, but I can't get it, not because I can get it. In the past, depression was obsession, and obsession lay in the heart. A dreamy state.

Mania is that I want to achieve a certain goal but I can't, not that I want to achieve a feasible goal. Action is not in the body, but in the mind. Paranoia.

The similarity between fantasy and delusion comes from fantasy.

Depression and mania are ruthless. So depression and mania are beyond your control. I don't know. So it's called a state of mental loss. That is, mental loss.

If you want to control your depression and mania, you must feel right, feel right, know right and know right. Let the heart give birth to more and more wisdom.

As mentioned above, awakening and enlightenment can produce wisdom. Get rid of the ego through the unity of mind, body, mind and thought. After being possessed by demons and mental disorders, the mind can grow and be familiar with personnel. The next step is to return to reality and make yourself proficient.

Let me land. I can't be a rooted me before landing, but I have been floating or sinking. So all the power is in the head. Therefore, migraine and nervous organs of the whole body, lack of qi and blood, poor operation.

Let's break our four prohibitions by breaking the mindset.

What is the mentality? Even if the calf is tied to a small tree, it can't get rid of it. Later, when the calf grew up, it was tied to another small tree. He can get rid of it, but he can't get rid of it anymore, that is, when he was still in his calf, cognitive thought I couldn't get rid of it. Still can't break the habit of thinking.

Most patients with depression are honest and disciplined, so they are stubborn and old-fashioned and unwilling to do avant-garde things. If you feel too safe, you will stick to the old ways and be afraid to accept new things.

Most people with depression feel inferior and don't accept themselves. When things go wrong and bad, it is painful and sad.

Idealism is divorced from reality and lives in fantasy, thinking that it is always better, always better, and does not want to get disaster and pain.

Pacifism has become tolerant and weak. There is love, there is love but there is no love and love. Will not fight back, lack of military thinking, poor attack ability.

Therefore, we should have a thorough understanding of the above-mentioned big ban and then break it.

challenge oneself

You just can't go on stage. You have to go on stage again and again. Where the heart is, the body is there. Become a new behavior and life state.

Depression depends on it for too long and is weak. To be independent is to be your own master. After breaking the mindset, you can constantly challenge yourself and make breakthroughs. Self-breakthrough is self-landing. That is, return to reality.

Focus on current events, gather current strength, and forget yourself. You can constantly challenge yourself.

If something goes wrong, I'm in pain. This is all about self-concern, not about the events encountered in reality. My strength was concentrated on my brain, so my brain was numb. I lost my soul and didn't want to do anything.

Therefore, it is impossible to gather the current strength and have no strength to solve the current problems. So get rid of yourself. No, I have nothing. I have no intention of wanting Wukong. As mentioned above, improving one's spiritual realm and raising one's spiritual level will lead to the state of no self. No ego understands change. Let me blend in with everything. Once I am one, I am everything, everything is me. Without me. Then I live for change, live for change. Then I can do anything. This eliminates all self-limitations and obsessions.

Then you can land and do whatever you want. In this way, the power of the moment is gathered.

With this landing state, you can challenge the original thinking mode to do things. Gradually, the fixed thinking mode was broken and a new thinking mode was formed. Depression will be completely cured. Because you can do anything, live and feel. Everything's fine. Full of love, peace and tranquility.

Depression itself is a fantasy, which means living in your own world, unable to link with real life and unable to make a breakthrough in real life. Fear of reality is difficult. Because fantasy is smooth and easy. Second, the reality is more difficult. Therefore, depression should stop fantasizing, go out of its own world and solve practical problems.

To break the illusion is to suffer, suffer from what, suffer from not eating, and be laughed at. All these sufferings come from collective sufferings. Of course, you have to stop fantasizing and work to make money. Let yourself live better. Fantasy and reality make people with depression start to think about what reality is.

Depression will live in painful memories of the painful past for a while and worry about the future for a while. So my brain can't think about real things and has no intention to deal with real things. Only by solving the knot of depression patients living in the past can the heart not be blocked. This emotional connection with parents. You can also have emotional understanding with other people outside. So the cold heart turned into a warm heart. People are not picky and will not stay away from people.

The sadness has been solved. No longer sad, no longer live in the future, but focus on reality and solve practical problems. Focus on solving practical problems, and gradually life will be improved.

Why do you have a bad memory? That is, you love fantasy in class, living in the past for a while and living in the future for a while. It is better to recall what happened in time than to live in reality.

Finally landing, life is like a dream. Dreamed of it for too many years. It's good to land. I stopped living in my personal world after landing.

I couldn't do anything before landing, or I only did one thing and did nothing else. No confidence, no fear, no paranoia.

You can do anything after landing, as long as it is not illegal. You can do anything with your heart. Because everything you do will get wisdom, because everything you do will get benefits, because everything you do is happy, because everything you do is happy. Whatever you do is worth it. A state of complete openness. The state of being without self.

Understand fear and eliminate the state of self-interference

What scares me is that I have no confidence. I can't. I can't. If I can do it, there will be no fear, and if nothing happens, the fear will be eliminated.

See clearly the essence of fear, and fear will gradually disappear. If you are afraid, you can try to beat him. If you are defeated, you will gain new gains and become braver and wiser.

The more lonely and helpless people are, the more they live in my personal life, and it is easy to be more afraid because they can't think of countermeasures. Therefore, to overcome fear and have greater wisdom is to associate with more people, increase wisdom, or go to the crowd. The wisdom of many people exceeds that of one person.

After landing, I feel brand-new and full of vitality.

When you open yourself up, you won't dwell on past experiences and feelings. But every day is a new beginning, and every day has new feelings. This allows you to live a particularly fresh and energetic life.

Feel the feeling of reality, experience and create the feeling of reality.

I used to do things with poor thinking and closed mind. If you don't collect money, you will naturally be poor. If you can't, you can't do it yourself. It's all harmful to your own thinking. It is closed thinking that leads to its own bad aspects. In this way, I will live in despair or paralysis. Afraid of this and that, completely concerned about their emotional state. Therefore, after awakening and enlightenment, everything is a state of no self to solve things.

When things are done, people are done, and things are done wholeheartedly.

It's no use telling the truth, nor listening, because you are not in the Tao and everything has come true. So if you follow the rules, you will be enlightened. That is, it began to practice. Reality is achieved through hands, feet and mouth, and it is achieved through interaction.

The more persistent people are, the more nervous they are, the more they care about their feelings, and the narrower the space is. Only if you don't say it, will you have unlimited free space. Accept everything and you can have everything. Embrace everything and you will feel infinite warmth. For example, do you think about poverty every day? Thinking about money every day. Money? This is why you are nervous, so everything you do will be in a bad state. If people look at you, you will look down on them, and if they don't buy you, you will be angry. Because I make you too nervous, I am in a bad mood. If you want me to have money, I don't care whether others buy me or not. As long as you do my job well, you won't care about others' bad attitude and abnormal eyes, because you have sold the goods. It's true that you earn money. It feels good to land. The heart is particularly peaceful and atmospheric. The atmosphere is not what I want, but I don't think about it at all. But do the real thing. Simple people are the most atmospheric. Doing things well without thinking about anything is foolish wisdom.

Empty self-absence

What is empty? For example, if you are lazy and others say you are lazy, you will be unhappy. This is willfulness. Sex is a lazy temper. If I love cleanliness and others dirty myself, I will not be happy. They are all full. In other words, I listen to what others say, and it is empty to improve myself after listening.

Therefore, great wisdom does not talk much and does things wholeheartedly. Great wisdom is foolish. For patients with depression, their minds are full of their own things, and they are always willful and stubborn. Self-satisfied, asking for trouble. Lyrics and sharing can make people less complacent. But a person can't handle inner peace well, and the outside is also a chaotic state.

Cultural exchange and sharing can be empty. Sex is empty, that is, there is nothing to say and no choice. Whatever you want. Party is relieved. I am getting more and more empty. If I am empty, I am not me, but a collective consciousness emerges.

When you feel that you are too small, the ego will gradually melt away and reach no ego. Love is born without me, so it becomes self-centered and lacks love. Only I can catch love. Otherwise, if people treat you well, you will still be angry and the other person will be more disappointed. In this way, I became more isolated and heartless. Being empty is not listening to others and being others, but being a high-level person.

In order to get rid of parents' negativity and promote parents' positivity, and to get rid of the world's negativity and promote the world's positivity, there is a vacuum. Empty Buddhist language. It is not the emptiness of Buddhism that indigenous psychology introduces this concept. Local psychology still stays at the mental level. It's not spiritual yet. Buddha is connected with ghosts and gods. People can't understand ghosts and gods. The depressed local psychology only leads people to practice humanely. You can't leave human nature. Unless you go to a higher level of practice and stop reading.

People with depression have a lot on their minds.

Too much thinking, ignorance, introversion, malice and inferiority. Worried about taking things too seriously, timid, afraid of losing their roots.

This kind of person feels very affordable on the surface, but the fact is particularly calculating, which shows that he is honest. In fact, he is also dishonest. The truth is cowardice and prude. We call such people earthlings.

What do you mean? That's it. People often think too much and worry too much. Suspicious by nature. Why show interest, kindness and stupidity? The stupider, the greedier. Timid and afraid of greed. So when something happens, I'm scared. Take things too seriously, gain and loss too seriously. The more greedy people are, the more timid they are. Therefore, everything should be taken lightly. In this way, people become generous. They are too many people to understand. They like to escape when things happen. They never do anything to complete the task, so they always promise when things happen. They don't know that they are almost as bad as each other. Say yes easily. I can't do it at all. Often let the other side down and feel cheated. This person is unreliable. This kind of person always wants to succeed in this life, but he can't succeed in this life because he can't grind it. You can't challenge it. Often timid, give up halfway, pay a little and be impatient and greedy. Such people are only suitable for fooling and guessing. If you want to achieve something, you have to be patient, patient, persistent and optimistic, regardless of gains and losses. Get things done. People can do things easily, and they can exercise maximum restraint in doing things.

If you know that you are not a disciplined person, you should behave yourself and achieve great things, and you will be depressed and manic. If you don't finish anything, you won't complain. Call yourself unlucky. How ridiculous. So if you see yourself clearly, you will know why you can't do it and why it's not going well. It's time to see the situation and the status quo clearly, and why there are such opportunities. If you are self-centered, willful and don't look inward, then you will only be sad and resentful all your life, and naturally there will be no happiness.

For example, if a person is often unemployed, he thinks that he has imitated the enterprise, and when he goes, he thinks that he is a scourge. At the same time, I also consider myself unlucky. Still think there are no good people. This kind of thinking is that everything looks at the outside world from the perspective of self. First, I am a disaster, and I will imitate the state of possession of Huang enterprises. I am unlucky to be pessimistic. There are no good people, I'm only interested in what I get. What I can't get is the bad selfish performance of others.

In fact, he chose all declining industries, where he was destined to go. If he had the ability to imitate Huang enterprises, he would have been invited by Ma Yun to imitate Huang Tencent. It is my bad luck not to choose a developing enterprise, sunrise industry. As for the absence of good people, it is fierce commercial competition and has nothing to do with good people and bad people. No matter how good a person is, the declining industry will be destroyed by competition.

Know yourself thoroughly, and you won't have to wallow in the mud all your life. Only by jumping out of yourself can you have a good life. Selfishness can only be painful if it starts from self-feeling.

Depression focuses on itself, does not understand itself, and can't wake up after hitting the wall again and again. When it hit the wall, it cried sadly. It's like a person going out and hitting a wall, hitting it once, or hitting it. It hurts to hit it. Without reflecting on why you are always like this. That is self-centered, always resenting the bad outside.

You must go downstream to catch fish.

Tired of fame, the shell of vanity must be broken. Why do people with depression behave honestly is because their vanity is too strong and their life is too proud. Why are you afraid that others will say that you are not good? For fear of losing face and losing money, everything is safe and the perfect shell must be broken. Otherwise, these two shells will make you unable to do anything, and people will say that you are bad, humiliated and imperfect. This is the lethality. It is also a state of self-protection with extreme nervousness.

If you want to catch fish in the river, you have to touch it in the river and catch fish in the dynamic. As for the people on the shore, they all say that the water is cold and smelly. I have no experience in fishing in the river.

There is a difference between life and life, as long as it is not illegal and does not cause public outrage. There must be two ways to do things before you can land. If you always think with an antenna, you don't want to lose it. Just stay forever. Do nothing. I don't have the heart to do great things, but I have the determination to solve depression and get out of trouble. The stubborn self-enclosed shell of depression is difficult to break from the inside, and the external pressure to force yourself to get better is also particularly great. This sample has to be broken inside and out before it can come out.

I often feel that depressed people can't understand me. In fact, do they know what is in the shell of their depression? I don't know, even if I know how to understand knots, it's not necessarily professional. At the same time, it is not easy to break the shell. Not everyone has the heart and nature to break the shell. There are demons, and not everyone knows their own demons and obstacles. There is also transformation, which requires real efforts and study.

Sometimes I get impatient with them and want to give up. So what if I have a martial arts secret book? I can't understand it myself. That's it. It is difficult to teach others secrets. Why don't you take your time? It will take three to six years to get out, depending on the nature. I'm not talking about all depressed people. Many ordinary people estimate that 1 year will come out.

Heart-to-heart communication, emotional and wealth communication, understanding and understanding, and communication of meaning and joy.

There is sympathy in the heart, and there is joy when there is affection, and the mind comes. Futong yuntong

If a person is unreasonable, the money will not come up, the financial business will not go up, and the wallet will not be opened. Only the pressure of life can force him to be reasonable in dealing with people.

Stupid people have no good luck without feeling. So be reasonable. Inferiority, timidity and introversion are also unreasonable, and such human feelings are not satisfactory. Therefore, we should also change our personality and make ourselves comfortable. It's not bad to be stupid, just be stupid and obedient. How can you be reasonable when you say that a fool is disobedient, withdrawn and unsociable, and can't do anything for a long time? Stupid, withdrawn and conceited, this kind of sex is not the sex of doing things. If things are to succeed, they will be incompetent and unreasonable, so they will have to be losers, the black sheep of my family. So it must be sexual. Honest, dare not take risks, always want to make something, but also made a fortune, the family is poor and unlucky. How can we do it well? Can only be unlucky people.

People get depression, depression is an unattainable pain, and mania is a step-by-step failure. Such people love fantasy and hate in their hearts. Is an insatiable evil spirit.

To break self-centeredness, we must see our true colors, break from the heart and see our spirit clearly.

Understand; Understanding

How lazy are people who are individual-centered, and my personality is weird. Such people are hard to get in touch with because the situation is not smooth. How can you not pay attention to your personal image? How can I do business with people who are particularly unlucky and smell smelly? Love is not smooth, and popularity is hard to reach.

People are desperate, starting from a heart, there is no need to talk about everything.

Therefore, a kind heart and inner courage can break all obstacles.

Loneliness and self-styled

When doing this scary joke and that scary joke, I always learn from others for the first time. There are always places where I can't do well, but I give up countless first times for fear of jokes, thus becoming a loner. All aspects are self-styled, and we must always do it for the first time and accept being laughed at before we can make progress. Break the status quo.

worried

Trouble is trouble and worry, and the whole person is often depressed. There's nothing I can do. Worried and helpless. I have fallen into this dilemma many times in my 39-year-old life because my personal subjective will is too strong. Ignoring the changes of external events, I can't find and place my economic news and trends in time. Self-mind and vision are too small, and when they encounter setbacks, they become depressed. Instead of constant internal breakthrough, what is selfishness, that is, always thinking about your own worries instead of solving things and serving others. I always fall into selfish sadness, and I can get out of it quickly by focusing on myself rather than others and other things. Sorrow hurts the lungs, so the skin often gets sick. I want to overcome my sadness and get out of it.

exercise dictatorship over

That is, others must follow me and say things against me. Headstrong and arrogant. I am overbearing. My friends have to help me in everything. If they don't help me, they won't be friends. It seems that they owe me, and they all have to listen to my reason and do things according to my reason. I'm the master, I'm the leader, and you can't go against me. To be a superior person, you often look down on others, make jokes and be arrogant. This self-authoritarian character must be stronger than the people around you, otherwise life is worse than death. This is one of my extremes.

It is not easy to understand other people's feelings. If you have love in your heart, help others more, and Dont Ask For Help people will definitely come back. It has also become more successful, using fewer words. Make more friends. How close to people. Pride has also been eliminated a lot because of poverty and suffering. Stop being self-righteous and become more objective. Extreme self-balance, self-breaking self-centered state.

self-contemptuous

Self-abased to the point of often asking for trouble. What I want, what I like, what I dare not say, what I dare not face, but what I always want. This ambivalence makes me feel miserable and always feel inferior. Living is worthless. If you are honest and feel inferior, you will encounter some mistakes and be afraid. Therefore, it is often chaotic and has no concentration. People like me always want to be heroes, but they often desert and surrender. This is the conflict between ideas and personalities. If you live, you can figure out how to live smoothly. So take care of yourself and don't live in contradiction. This is also one of my own contradictions and imbalances. Therefore, we should solve our own contradictions, make ourselves smooth, and gradually learn to accept and stabilize ourselves. I'm not always a good man who surrenders when something happens, and I'm getting less impatient. Gradually, I became strong, no longer cowardly, no longer so extremely honest and stupid. More agile.

0 Risk 0 Things

Live a carefree life forever, and always hope that everything will happen and there is no risk. In this way, everything is afraid of mistakes and accidents. Cause oneself to dare not do anything, timid, often anxious and worried. I have a big career to do myself. You have to go through all kinds of things to do great things. This has formed a kind of ambivalence and extreme psychology.

Later, I learned that only the dead are fine. 0 Risk means nothing will be done and nothing will be born. This is the lethality. Only people who are obsessed with dead ends will think so. So people should take good care of themselves and see their extreme imbalance and contradiction. Only by solving contradictions and balancing ourselves can we get rid of depression and compulsive thinking.

Therefore, under the condition of accepting moderate risks, we will continue to innovate and face it bravely. The risk is to kill yourself, so don't pretend to be a good person forever, so you will never get ahead in your life.

Two kinds of extreme psychology: children and the elderly.

I am a special child and an old man with extreme psychology and behavior. But there is little youth psychology and behavior, so it is not good in youth. Always say that you are old and always like someone. This is the mentality of the elderly and lacks vitality. Often love fantasy, simple as a child, internal dependence and weakness, fragility and simplicity.

When I do things, I have to separate them from things.

Don't think too much about yourself, but concentrate on your work. Otherwise, you will become worried and you will not be able to do anything well. This is because you worry too much. Worry leads to worry. Worrying too much is worrying about being smart and hindering your perfect thinking.

A stubborn person, an old-fashioned person. People who are afraid of rejection, dictatorial, willful, perfect, self-abased, eager for success, quick success, and full of yin are afraid of rejection. They think rejection is humiliating, rejection is a failure, and they are afraid that people will say they are not good. The more others say that they are not good, the more they feel inferior. Actually, I don't want to face the reality and accept the change. It is also that I feel perfect and become imperfect and uncomfortable. So be a man and accept that everything will happen. Only in this way can we grasp a better life in the dynamic and changing. This fear and rejection of people are mostly rare good people, depressed and manic people living in their own world. Without modern thinking, I am very sad at present. It is difficult for young people to live well in middle age. So it must be changed.

Concentration, stubbornness and persistence are different. Although people are dedicated, they are old-fashioned and cannot be constantly updated. Although I can think independently, I have original ideas but no strong sense of team, and I am easy to go astray. Persistence also requires determination. Poor concentration is easily influenced by the outside world, and often changes the original persistence and persistence when you are in a bad mood.

Just because others can't do it doesn't mean they can't do it. Just because others are overbearing does not mean that they are overbearing. Therefore, if you are with people who are negative and full of yin, as long as you have enough inner wisdom, you will not be influenced by them.

I have no intention of imitating my father's bullying and my mother's pessimism. I follow my parents' character. Only when you grow up can you jump out of family knowledge and information, learn new knowledge and information, experience hardships and setbacks, and wake up to change your personality and form a new self.

Therefore, parents are hopeless, and their young people should not guard their parents all the year round and learn their bad personalities, beliefs and thoughts unintentionally. This seriously affected my middle age. Therefore, the concept of filial piety can't always keep you with your parents. Father's overbearing and stubborn character, such a strong character, imitates his wife and children. If you are overbearing and stubborn, you will also blame your father and imitate his wife and children for marrying late and being in poor health. So stay out of the family business. Otherwise, I feel that it is warm without love at home. That is, the yin father and the yin mother can't get along for a long time, because they are also yin, so they won't feel warm. The feeling of lack of love is very strong, that is, others say they want to hear it. This is reception. Even if you don't listen, explain to the other party why you don't listen. Why is the leading family not warm? That is, family members say they don't listen or explain, and the family doesn't accept feelings. People with low emotional intelligence are more straightforward. But you are absolutely right. This way of receiving love. People have to be real and empty when they are alive. This is art, wisdom and cleverness.

People who are over-affordable, serious and straightforward have low emotional intelligence and feel lack of love.

There are too many negative people in China because of China's long-term official-oriented feudal education that favours boys over girls. It is also caused by the rigidity of filial piety. On the one hand, it is patriarchal, on the other hand, it is filial piety, soft obedience and weak dependence on education. It leads to a cloudy personality and forms a depressed personality. At the same time, it is also caused by the strong concept of self-employed and boss.

Don't take what I said too literally. I want to analyze myself in detail and adjust myself according to my actual growth. Otherwise, it is easy to form dogma mechanically.

Stubborn, overbearing and willful, if combined with selfishness and immorality, will form a state of failure.