How to treat bullying in jokes?

It is a joke to vomit yourself and make others happy; Making fun of others and making yourself happy is not a joke, it is bullying. I believe that everyone has experienced a similar situation, whether they become the target of bullying or see others being bullied. These experiences make us realize more clearly that the so-called "jokes" are not always interesting.

Here are some jokes about bullying.

Laugh at your imperfections in the name of joking.

Colleagues are fat, but cute, and the little girl's house is more lively. But since the new colleague Xiao Li joined the company, Xiao Zhao has become silent and doesn't get together to chat with everyone. The reason is that Xiao Li often jokes about Xiao Zhao's physical shortcomings. For example, when everyone is eating, Xiao Li will suddenly say to Xiao Zhao, "Stop eating, your eyes are getting fat." After that, he will laugh at himself, and some people who play better with Xiao Li will follow suit. If Xiao Zhao is angry, he will say, "It's just a joke. You can't afford to joke."

This is typical of mocking others in the name of joking. This is lip service, not a joke, but a very ill-bred behavior. Jokes are meant to make the other person feel funny. If it hurts others, it is ridicule. Maybe some people will laugh at themselves for their shortcomings, but others' self-mockery doesn't mean you can speak freely.

Especially between good friends, we should pay more attention to it. You can't say whatever you want when you feel a good relationship. It is often your casual jokes that hurt each other. No matter when, what situation or relationship, joking can't be an excuse for you to laugh at others' shortcomings.

Second, make fun of your own shortcomings.

This reminds me of a classmate in high school who was born with a lack of' sports genes'. What impressed me deeply was that during the military training, no matter how the instructor taught and changed, he always kept his hands and feet unchanged and made many jokes. Whenever he has a rest, he always practices silently, so as not to slow down the class, but there are always several classmates who think they are very humorous running to him and laughing at his shortcomings. After being discovered by the instructor, he will pretend to be familiar with this classmate and say, "We are joking." And this' joking' classmate can only smile awkwardly.

This kind of people who joke about other people's shortcomings is very common, whether in the workplace or on campus. They don't necessarily have shortcomings, but when they face others' shortcomings, they will have an inexplicable sense of superiority, and then enlarge each other's shortcomings and expose them in language to satisfy their vanity. I am joking, but I am full of bitterness and disrespect.

Third, in the name of joking, poke your pain point.

I heard someone quarreling downstairs the other day. The quarrel was very fierce, and finally the police came. Driven by curiosity, I also followed to understand the ins and outs of things. Qian's wife died of cancer in Unit 6, and Qian and Tian in Unit 3 are old friends. Some time ago, Qian was busy with his wife's funeral, so they haven't seen each other for a long time. Originally, Qian wanted to accompany Tian to drink a little wine tonight to ease his mood. Who knows that Tian's opening remarks are: "What a blessing! When a person reaches middle age, his wife is gone, and his wife is promoted and made a fortune. You have occupied two of the three happy events in life. " This time, Qian quarreled with anger, but Tian kept saying, "I'm joking with him, joking!" "

How many people joke about other people's pain without empathy? People with empathy will know how to respect and understand the situation of others and will not make inappropriate jokes.

Fourth, finally, we also need to reflect on our behavior. If we have hurt others without knowing it, we should admit our mistakes and apologize. At the same time, you need to pay attention to your words and deeds to ensure that your jokes will not hurt others' feelings and dignity.

To sum up, these behaviors may be regarded as humor or jokes in certain situations, but if you don't get the consent of the other party or the other party feels hurt or embarrassed, it is bullying in the name of joking, and you should stop this behavior immediately.