Pay attention, these body languages will reveal your inner secrets!

Lie to Me, an American drama, has taught many of us about body language and what micro-expression is. A casual look, a casual smile and a small gesture may determine your success or failure-even if it is a business negotiation of 10 million yuan. Yes, those tiny body languages that we ignore have such great magic. It is these subtle body languages that determine whether we control others or be controlled by others in our communication with others.

Crossing your arms will greatly reduce your credibility.

As early as ancient times, our ancestors had learned the self-defense method of hiding behind obstacles for protection. When we were children, once we felt dangerous, we immediately hid behind fixed objects, such as tables, chairs, furniture or mom's skirt. After the age of six, we gradually learned to hold our arms tightly to protect ourselves. When we were teenagers, we learned to hide, knowing that we can hide our self-defense by hugging our arms and crossing our legs, thus hiding our inner fears.

With the growth of age, under our deliberate cover-up, the defensive qualitative change of arms holding the chest becomes less and less obvious. However, whenever we feel dangerous or encounter something we don't want to encounter, we will subconsciously hold one or two arms across our chest and form a physical defense line with our limbs to protect ourselves from external dangers. Anyway, one thing is certain:

When a person feels nervous, wants to protect himself, or is unwilling to accept other people's opinions, he is likely to cross his arms and hold them tightly to his chest to tell him that he is nervous or upset. Your credibility will be greatly reduced when your arms are crossed on your chest.

Diana won the sympathy of the whole world with her eyes looking up.

In the long history of human development, the eye has always been our most concerned organ, and its influence on human behavior and habits has also become a topic we often study. Eye contact can sometimes control the conversation.

For example, when someone says, "He looks at me with very contemptuous eyes", it shows the condescending attitude of the person talking to him. And when you say to others, "please look me in the eye when you speak!" " "That means you suspect that he is lying. In face-to-face conversation, our eyes stay on each other's faces most of the time, so the information conveyed by eyes is the best weapon to help us interpret each other's attitudes and ideas. When people meet for the first time, they will form their first impression of new friends in a very short time, and this impression mainly depends on what people see with their eyes.

During love, the eyes are the most expressive organs. Why do romantic encounters always happen in dimly lit places? Pupillary dilation is the answer. In the dim light, people's pupils will involuntarily expand, so that two people who meet can attract each other and achieve romantic love.

In order to show others their majesty or aggression, people often make low eyebrows. On the contrary, raising eyebrows is a sign of obedience and humility. It has been found that some kinds of orangutans and monkeys also use these actions to express the same meaning. They also pointed out that people who often raise their eyebrows intentionally will bring a sense of obedience, while people who often deliberately lower their eyebrows will be considered quite aggressive. In this respect, orangutans and humans feel exactly the same.

Looking up when you bow your head is another gesture of obedience and humility. This posture is also attractive to men, because it makes eyes look bigger and women look like children. This psychological reaction can be explained as follows: children are much shorter than adults, and they must look up when they are regarded as adults; Over time, whether men or women, will be this look up to stimulate the emotional response similar to parents.

When her marriage was in crisis, Princess Diana won the sympathy of the whole world with her eyes looking up. Chin slightly retracted, eyes raised and looked up, revealing a slender neck. This gesture was almost artistic by Princess Diana. This childlike gesture has aroused the goodwill of thousands of people, especially when people think that Princess Diana has been attacked by the British royal family, and they want to protect her like their parents. People usually don't consciously practice such a submissive gesture, but everyone knows that as long as they make such a gesture, they will get the expected effect.

Women prefer to smile, which may be innate.

Robert Bonwin found that people laugh 30 times more when they live in groups than when they are alone. At the same time, he also found that the purpose of establishing friendly relations with others seems to be more closely related to laughter than jokes and interesting stories. Of all the reasons that make us laugh, only 15% comes from jokes.

People express their happiness with the expression of upturned corners of their mouths. On the contrary, when people are unhappy, they will show an unhappy expression, and their mouths will droop, which is what we often call pie mouth. Whenever people feel unhappy, depressed, desperate, angry or nervous, such a pie mouth expression will emerge on their faces. However, I want to tell people who have this habit an unfortunate news: if a person always writes this negative and negative expression on his face, over time, his mouth will always remain drooping and always look listless and depressed.

Marvin Hecht and Marianne La Frans of Boston University conducted a study. The results show that subordinates will smile when facing supervisors and superiors, whether in a friendly atmosphere or in an unfriendly tense atmosphere; In front of subordinates, supervisors and superiors will only smile on the premise of friendly atmosphere.

This study also shows that women smile much more frequently than men in both social and workplace communication, which makes smiling women in a weak or subordinate position when facing unsmiling men. Some people think that it is precisely because women laugh so much that they have long been placed in a subordinate position below men. However, research shows that as early as eight weeks after birth, baby girls laugh far more than baby boys. Therefore, the characteristics of smile are likely to be innate, not acquired. The most reasonable explanation may be that in the process of human evolution, women mostly play the role of appeaser or nurturer, and smiling coincides with the characteristics and functions of this role.

The most common gesture when lying.

Some people pretend to cough to hide their mouth shape. For example, we often see actors playing robbers or criminals on TV. They often do this when discussing criminal plans with other gangsters or being questioned by the police.

The gesture of touching the nose is generally a few quick rubs with the hand on the lower edge of the nose, sometimes even a slight touch, which is almost imperceptible. Women make this gesture less than men, probably to avoid makeup on their faces.

American neurologist Allen Hirsch and psychiatrist Charles Wolf studied Bill Clinton's testimony to the jury about Monica Lewinsky's sex scandal. They found that Clinton seldom touched his nose when he told the truth. However, as long as Clinton tells a lie, his brow will wrinkle slightly before the lie is told, and he will touch his nose every four minutes, and the total number of touching his nose during his testimony will reach 26 times. The two scientists analyzed that, contrary to touching his nose frequently, as long as Clinton answered questions honestly, he would never touch his nose at all.

The thinking posture is that the grasping hand is placed on the chin or cheek, and the index finger is usually raised. When people begin to lose interest in the speaker's topic, but want to pretend to be interested out of politeness, this attitude will change quietly. As boredom strikes, the wrist that was gently next to the face gradually becomes the support of the head.