Big S mocked Ayacheng's habit: I don't like your knife mouth, why?

Even if the child has done well, the answers are still "not enough" and "you can't", just like every time you say, the child can do better.

Compared with adults, children lack decades of experience and experience to face such blows and belittles. Perhaps the stubborn parents have a love of "aspiring to success".

Unfortunately, children can't understand this, and parents who are used to denying it can't understand their children at all.

Dr. jane nelsen said, Where on earth did we get such an absurd idea that if we want to make a child better, we should first make him feel worse?

If you want to promote it, at least promote it first. Can you hold it all the time?

Degraded education, while obviously hurting children, will also make your blood pressure soar. What's worse, the double unfriendly education method will always be taught by most parents without teachers.

Degraded education is actually "bad expectation"

There is a "label effect" in psychology. Bechor, an American psychologist, said: "Once a person is labeled, he will become the person marked by the label."

Degraded education is like putting a bad label on children, making them realize their parents' "bad expectations" step by step.

Eight fires broke out in a residential area in Shenyang in less than 24 hours, and the suspect was quickly arrested by the police.

It is understood that the suspect is a teenager of 16 years old, who should have enjoyed youth and sunshine in the classroom and confessed his actions.

Why gamble on your own tomorrow?

He said he was often beaten and scolded by his father, who said he would go to prison sooner or later. Show him!

In order to get back at my father, I deliberately committed a crime and really failed my father's expectations by going to jail.

Sooner or later ... not late, only early!

Children who are beaten by their parents actually have two little people fighting in their hearts:

A little man said, forget it. I'm not satisfied with anything anyway. Let them get what they want. I am an idiot.

Another little man said, still not satisfied? Again, I just want to prove it to them.

Parents bet that their children will be persuaded by another villain and fight harder and harder.

And that child, I don't know which time point on the way, fell at the foot of the first villain.

Professor Susan Forward said in the book Poisoned Parents:

"Children can't tell facts from jokes. They will believe what their parents say to themselves and turn them into their own ideas. "

Adults still don't like the boss's demeaning, and they are named PUA in the workplace. How come it becomes love and responsibility when it comes to children?

Children, when they don't have the ability to adjust their emotions and don't understand the meaning of "deep responsibility of love", will face blows and negation and can't quit.

"Let it be, forget it" is the child's self-abandonment after being ridiculed countless times. "Yes, I am what you said. Are you satisfied?"

Even if you struggle all your life to prove your child, chasing the light is only for an affirmation.

Writer San Mao wrote after his father's praise: "If I wait for you all my life, I will wait for you, my father, to say it himself, affirming my inferiority and guilty conscience that I can't get rid of in this family all my life."

I always thought that if I let my child fall into the dust, the child would rebound on his own, but I never thought that a child wrapped in dust might be the last grain of sand that crushed the child.

Where there is a knife mouth, there must be a knife heart.

Some people say that parents have no bad intentions, but they are all for the good of their children.

Indeed, parents will instinctively believe that I am doing him good, and when he grows up, he will know how to thank me, regard his love and strictness all the way as his own sacrifice, and sacrifice the warmth with his children to fulfill his children's future.

Aunt is a typical practitioner who belittles education. What she said to her cousin when she was a child was not the worst, or even worse.

I went to their house for dinner the day before yesterday, and when I talked about this topic, my aunt suddenly cut in:

"That you have to thank me, if it weren't for the ugly words I said to you when I was a child, you would have such a strong heart now. In today's society, many people are hard to obey. The fragile ones were depressed, and some even committed suicide. What are their names? That is poor ability to resist setbacks.

Can you get into a good university and find a good job without my constant urging?

Everyone praised you for killing you. I have to pull you down a little, so you won't be proud!

Besides, there are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people. You haven't reached the point of cattle. "

"Here we go again," my cousin said with a wry smile. My uncle said, "Your aunt is just a knife in her mouth and a piece of tofu in her heart." ...

After supper, I went out for a walk. My cousin said that I am not strong and dare not conflict with others. I told myself that suffering is a blessing. I always feel that others look down on me. My mother is old, and I don't want her to think I'm bad. I'll tell her everything good, or I'm sure I'll be scolded again. I feel that I have been considering the feelings of everyone around me. I am afraid that they will be unhappy, but I never want to be unhappy.

"Aunties" have gone through the world and have rich experience. Nine times out of ten, they will blame those children whose lives are unsatisfactory, those children who are unable to be independent, fragile and unable to bear the blow when they are adults, because they have never experienced setbacks and blows when they were young.

Even if you love again, keep it in your heart.

In the final analysis, the so-called knife mouth and tofu heart are just psychological comfort given by parents who are used to belittling their children. After all, it should be understood as exercising parental privileges in the name of "love".

Even if the child has done well, the answers are still "not enough" and "you can't", just like every time you say, the child can do better.

Compared with adults, children lack decades of experience and experience to face such blows and belittles. Perhaps the stubborn parents have a love of "aspiring to success".

Unfortunately, children can't understand this, and parents who are used to denying it can't understand their children at all.

Dr. jane nelsen said, Where on earth did we get such an absurd idea that if we want to make a child better, we should first make him feel worse?

If you want to promote it, at least promote it first. Can you hold it all the time?

Degraded education, while obviously hurting children, will also make your blood pressure soar. What's worse, the double unfriendly education method will always be taught by most parents without teachers.

Degraded education is actually "bad expectation"

There is a "label effect" in psychology. Bechor, an American psychologist, said: "Once a person is labeled, he will become the person marked by the label."

Degraded education is like putting a bad label on children, making them realize their parents' "bad expectations" step by step.

Eight fires broke out in a residential area in Shenyang in less than 24 hours, and the suspect was quickly arrested by the police.

It is understood that the suspect is a teenager of 16 years old, who should have enjoyed youth and sunshine in the classroom and confessed his actions.

Why gamble on your own tomorrow?

He said he was often beaten and scolded by his father, who said he would go to prison sooner or later. Show him!

In order to get back at my father, I deliberately committed a crime and really failed my father's expectations by going to jail.

Sooner or later ... not late, only early!

Children who are beaten by their parents actually have two little people fighting in their hearts:

A little man said, forget it. I'm not satisfied with anything anyway. Let them get what they want. I am an idiot.

Another little man said, still not satisfied? Again, I just want to prove it to them.

Parents bet that their children will be persuaded by another villain and fight harder and harder.

And that child, I don't know which time point on the way, fell at the foot of the first villain.

Professor Susan Forward said in the book Poisoned Parents:

"Children can't tell facts from jokes. They will believe what their parents say to themselves and turn them into their own ideas. "

Adults still don't like the boss's demeaning, and they are named PUA in the workplace. How come it becomes love and responsibility when it comes to children?

Children, when they don't have the ability to adjust their emotions and don't understand the meaning of "deep responsibility of love", will face blows and negation and can't quit.

"Let it be, forget it" is the child's self-abandonment after being ridiculed countless times. "Yes, I am what you said. Are you satisfied?"

Even if you struggle all your life to prove your child, chasing the light is only for an affirmation.

Writer San Mao wrote after his father's praise: "If I wait for you all my life, I will wait for you, my father, to say it himself, affirming my inferiority and guilty conscience that I can't get rid of in this family all my life."

I always thought that if I let my child fall into the dust, the child would rebound on his own, but I never thought that a child wrapped in dust might be the last grain of sand that crushed the child.

Where there is a knife mouth, there must be a knife heart.

Some people say that parents have no bad intentions, but they are all for the good of their children.

Indeed, parents will instinctively believe that I am doing him good, and when he grows up, he will know how to thank me, regard his love and strictness all the way as his own sacrifice, and sacrifice the warmth with his children to fulfill his children's future.

Aunt is a typical practitioner who belittles education. What she said to her cousin when she was a child was not the worst, or even worse.

I went to their house for dinner the day before yesterday, and when I talked about this topic, my aunt suddenly cut in:

"That you have to thank me, if it weren't for the ugly words I said to you when I was a child, you would have such a strong heart now. In today's society, many people are hard to obey. The fragile ones were depressed, and some even committed suicide. What are their names? That is poor ability to resist setbacks.

Can you get into a good university and find a good job without my constant urging?

Everyone praised you for killing you. I have to pull you down a little, so you won't be proud!

Besides, there are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people. You haven't reached the point of cattle. "

"Here we go again," my cousin said with a wry smile. My uncle said, "Your aunt is just a knife in her mouth and a piece of tofu in her heart." ...

After supper, I went out for a walk. My cousin said that I am not strong and dare not conflict with others. I told myself that suffering is a blessing. I always feel that others look down on me. My mother is old, and I don't want her to think I'm bad. I'll tell her everything good, or I'm sure I'll be scolded again. I feel that I have been considering the feelings of everyone around me. I am afraid that they will be unhappy, but I never want to be unhappy.

"Aunties" have gone through the world and have rich experience. Nine times out of ten, they will blame those children whose lives are unsatisfactory, those children who are unable to be independent, fragile and unable to bear the blow when they are adults, because they have never experienced setbacks and blows when they were young.

Even if you love again, keep it in your heart.

In the final analysis, the so-called knife mouth and tofu heart are just psychological comfort given by parents who are used to belittling their children. After all, it should be understood as exercising parental privileges in the name of "love".

Someone in Zhihu asked, what kind of experience is it to have a mother who is sharp-tongued and soft-hearted? One of the best countermeasures is:

I don't trust people who are mean with their mouths and hearts. Even if there is, it is hard frozen tofu, which can kill people.

I don't trust people who are mean with their mouths and hearts. Even if there is, it is hard frozen tofu, which can kill people.