The reason why a man blocked you (what do you mean by blocking me in a circle of friends)

I remember meeting an interesting scene in the elevator.

Two men know each other.

Where did you eat the day before yesterday?

The day before yesterday? I ordered takeout. I haven't eaten out for a long time.

A: Oh, I thought C (who should be B's girlfriend) went. I thought you were there.

No , you 're going the wrong way. She is very busy recently, as you can see, I don't know where it is.

A: I think she sent a circle of friends.

Oh ... ..

I can see that B's face was not very good at that time.

The elevator is here. What happened afterwards?

We don't know.

We can imagine that the scene was suddenly awkward and B's face changed greatly. Is it possible?

Yes!

It is very likely that the information inadvertently provided by A made B quickly capture the message that "my girlfriend didn't tell me to go out for dinner the day before yesterday, but she sent a circle of friends, but blocked me".

After this information appeared, the brain circuit quickly generated the keyword "betrayal".

So the scene suddenly became awkward.

We can regard it as a joke.

But this joke is familiar to many people.

Now send a circle of friends, see a circle of friends, and comment on a circle of friends?

Has become a very important part of social behavior.

It can be a part of our self-expression and self-presentation. It can also be part of the information we get.

Therefore, in the process of pursuing and saving, there are many skills around the circle of friends, including reasonable expression, obtaining information, emotional interaction and so on.

It is precisely because the circle of friends is a very important part of social behavior. So naturally there will be a game of interpersonal relationships.

That kind of intrigue, that kind of duplicity and that kind of closeness are different, all of which can be reflected here.

The only difference is, did you see it? Can you see it? Are you going to watch it or not?

Blocking the circle of friends is not easy to detect.

Perceived, often don't understand.

Being blocked by the person you love often makes friends more confused.

This is because the circle of friends is blocked, often suddenly. Unless the other person completely shields you for a long time, your perception is often discovered by accident. Just like the example in the elevator, I happened to notice this sign. At this point, your heart is unprepared Secondly, there is such a result, which is infinite and contradictory. One second you watched a movie with each other happily, and the next you may find that the other person's circle of friends blocked you. And our own emotional needs will inevitably replace more negative emotions, which is also difficult to analyze rationally.

Social networks provide us with easier access to information than before, but the truth and intrigue also add many problems to our understanding.

This article, I want to tell you, when you find that your boyfriend and girlfriend have blocked you in the circle of friends, how can you sort out this phenomenon and get close to the information it conveys?

Don't scare yourself when this happens.

Many people will deepen the problem with the mentality of "there must be a demon in an accident".

Actually, it may be nothing. It's just ordinary social behavior. If you start criticizing because of this, you may turn no problem into a problem.

I have encountered such a case: my girlfriend found that her boyfriend blocked herself and made a big scene. Finally, she found nothing special, but her boyfriend felt that she couldn't stand it and wanted to break up.

Without clarifying the situation and understanding the information transmitted behind the behavior, the problem is deepened (extended) rashly.

So don't interpret shielding behavior from this single angle.

Many people will do this, so pay attention to this.

Find a boyfriend (girlfriend) and send a circle of friends to shield yourself. I suggest you make a morphological judgment first.

Look, it's completely blocked. Can't you see any of them?

Or is it blocked from time to time, some can see and some can't see?

If it is completely blocked, consider the problem in combination with your own situation and communication stage.

It often explains the problem of resistance: there is resistance, and it is in a relatively high position.

It takes some courage to completely shut a person out of your circle of friends. Because it's easier to detect.

Such a comprehensive ban sends a straightforward message: I don't want to (refuse) have too much intersection with you.

From the point of etiquette and self-feeling, it is not an easy thing unless you are facing a stranger.

The other party did it, indicating that the degree of resistance exists.

Of course, it's not the limit, because it would be easier to delete you directly.

At a relatively high position, there is still some room for distance limitation.

But this space is not your advantage, but a risk area.

The circle of friends is completely blocked, and the appeal behind it is the feeling of "I want to be quiet", but it is not "old and dead."

What if I am blocked from time to time?

This is the situation that bothers friends, right?

Most people understand that complete shielding is not difficult, but they can't always grasp the mind about shielding.

It has many possibilities and cannot be enumerated one by one. It must be viewed in the light of personal circumstances, which is worth pondering.

Although we can't list the information it conveys one by one, there is a thinking model through which we can sort out this phenomenon and get close to the information it conveys.

What do you mean, friends block you from time to time?

It often means that the two people "seem to have nothing happened" in their communication.

It just happened, more hidden, more difficult to detect.

Basically, it was an example like the beginning, and it was discovered by accident. It may be a casual mention between friends, it may be that you randomly saw each other's mobile phone, or it may be that you added two numbers to each other, and the other party blocked the one you used frequently, but ignored your trumpet, and so on.

Although you may have noticed this phenomenon inadvertently, you also got some basic information.

Before you make a judgment, you might as well sort out this information.

What basic information did you get in the process of discovering the shielding phenomenon?

Blocked content and blocked people.

It should be noted that in most cases, it is impossible for you to know all the contents of the other party's shielding and the exact scope of the shielding crowd.

You must work hard to collect. Do your best. In most cases, it is impossible to collect them completely.

On the one hand, you should improve these basic information as safely as possible.

On the other hand, we should combine the two to see the problem, so as to improve the accuracy.

A logical and realistic consideration can often be drawn.

Then make a rule out. Exclude what

Rule out whether the shielding behavior is motivated by "Do not disturb at work".

This is a very common social behavior.

For example, due to work considerations, the other party needs to publish some advertisements, but it is afraid that it will affect its image and disturb some people, so it will choose to block or only be visible to some intended customers.

If you belong to this category, you don't have to worry about the status quo.

What this situation can reflect is that the other party has such a behavior habit (blocking friends circle), which may just not happen to you at present, or it has happened, and you didn't notice it.

In the process of recovery, we need to be aware of this risk, especially in the case of bad conditions. But now, don't be too alarmed.

So what if this situation is ruled out?

First of all, it is possible for small partners to encounter such problems.

What you get is that the other party blocks your content, including whether you work or not. Is it because "work is not disturbed" this time?

Not exactly.

After you screen out the jobs, put the rest of the information into the following process.

What can you see when you watch the other person block your content?

You can see if these contents are unified.

Could it be the same type of content?

Or is there a unity of time, a shield around a certain period of time?

If there is unity, there is a hidden intention.

Hiding is always deceptive.

If it's the same type of content, focus on what the other party doesn't want you to see.

Maybe I don't want you to see some of her troubles. Maybe she doesn't want you to see it She did something she didn't want to explain to you.

If it is shielded for a certain period of time, it is often deceptive.

I may have lied to you before, for example, I have to work overtime these days, so these friends circle conferences exposed her lies.

It is very necessary to pay attention to shielding friends around you for a certain period of time, because the most common example is cheating.

What if these contents are not unified?

It is mostly related to the intention of "eliminating troubles".

It may have something to do with you sticking too tightly, or the other party is not suitable for the current communication state. Maybe you can find out in time that she is shielding you. That's why she is shielding you.

See what this means?

The other party may think that every time I send you a circle of friends, it will become an opportunity to trigger your dialogue.

This is no longer a comfortable interaction, but a social interaction.

She was troubled by this.

So she will control the rhythm of your interaction from time to time through shielding.

In short, we can infer and see each other's motives by blocking your content and combing through the above.

Goodwill, neutrality, malice, etc. ...

What can shielding the crowd tell you?

Is it just for you or for a certain group?

Can help you infer how much her shielding behavior is directed at you.

I can also say whether I am worried about you.

Whether it is aimed at it or not, we must pay attention to it. It may not be a good thing or a bad thing.

Some concern is an expression of love and understanding of your emotions.

Some worries are cheating, in order to achieve their own goals.

So you need to think about things in combination with the blocked content.

To understand the smell here.

Through these combing, you can get close to the information conveyed by the blocked circle of friends and consider your solution.