How to get along with classmates

Getting along with others is an art, and everyone has his own way to get along with others. Some people know how to think of others everywhere, some people will haggle over every ounce, and some people want to take advantage of others at any time. Everyone's standards are different. Different standards lead to different results in communication with people. Some people are very popular and have many friends. Some people are withdrawn and have few friends. Nowadays, many families are only children, and only children have grown up under the protection and doting of their parents. Over time, children have poor independence, poor sense of cooperation and poor communication skills. Today's children have to be trained from these aspects to make them develop more comprehensively. When dealing with your classmates, I hope you can master the following principles: First, learn to accept and tolerate others. Of course, if you like someone, you will accept it easily. But if you meet someone you don't like, you should try to live in peace with him and try to tolerate him. People can't be perfect, everyone has their own bright spots. Although your classmates don't talk about personal hygiene, they should have advantages in other aspects. So don't ignore him. In fact, he is very willing to blend in with you. Do not discriminate against him. Learn to accept him and tolerate him. You will find it not difficult to get along with others. Second, learn to care about others. When people encounter difficulties, they need the care and help of their friends most. Your classmate * * came from a poor family, lived in a bad environment, did not form good living habits, and got beriberi. He must be very upset himself. He is also afraid that people will laugh at him and discriminate against him. He must feel inferior, too Son, you should care about him more from the perspective of friends. Don't laugh at him Mom has prepared beriberi cream for you. You can take it to school and use it together. He will be very grateful to you. So, don't you have another good friend? Third, learn to praise others in a timely manner. Praising others at the right time doesn't mean belittling yourself and learning to praise others. It means that if you find the advantages of others, you will get their appreciation. Praise others from the heart and show your true feelings, not unprincipled compliments or even sarcasm. There are eight people living in your dormitory now. I believe everyone has his own strengths. You don't always boast that the students in the lower bunk are good-natured, and you are all willing to contact. This is the advantage of others. Aren't you still praising your academic performance to your classmates who have been in the upper bunk? This is also the advantage of others. Didn't you also say that * * students usually dress very simply and never compete with others, which is also his advantage. You also have your advantages. Not all people think that you are virtuous, have good habits and are polite to others. You each have your own advantages, so you should learn from each other, learn from each other's strengths and make progress together! You must spend most of three years in high school. You can regard the dormitory as your second "home". You must live and study there. You should learn to love your "home" and get along well with the other seven "families". How to communicate correctly with the opposite sex "I am a high school student and the monitor of our class." Because of work, I have more contact with a girl in my class. I found myself very fond of her. I always want to see her more in class. After school, my mind is full of her image, so that I often stare blankly when I write my homework. But we seldom talk in class at ordinary times. I know I shouldn't have this idea now. I tried to forget her, but I couldn't. ..... "(a letter from a male middle school student)" Maybe it's because I talked to a boy in a foreign teacher class several times, and the students joked that we were lovers. I was a little scared at first, and I always alienated him intentionally or unintentionally. But gradually, I found that I really began to like him. His every move will attract my attention. I've been worrying about it all day. I don't know whether to associate with him or not, and how to associate with him ... "(Letter from a female middle school student) Letters from two middle school students put forward a topic that every adolescent boy and girl can't avoid-how to get along with the opposite sex. Are you the same as that boy, unable to forgive yourself for daydreaming about the opposite sex? For example, I find that I like a boy or a girl a little, and think it is an inappropriate and disgraceful thing, but I can't erase his or her shadow from my memory.

In fact, it is human nature for boys and girls of your age to like the opposite sex, and it is also a sign of your normal mental development. We know that the gay hormone content of adolescent boys and girls has soared. It is a large amount of androgen (male) or estrogen (female) in the body that makes a person have the need and desire to approach the opposite sex, which scholars call sexual demand or sexual impulse. Sexual demands or impulses are not wrong and indecent, but normal and healthy. They are as common and natural as eating, sleeping, birth and death. Because of this, almost all adolescent boys and girls are very concerned about the opposite sex. The need for friendship, curiosity about the opposite sex and romantic fantasy have mixed into an unusual emotional experience, giving boys and girls new experiences and opportunities to explore and know themselves, and many people have since shown the best, most generous and most constructive side of their personal lives.

So, do you still have to blame yourself for liking the opposite sex? Please remember that it is the youth right of boys and girls to associate with the opposite sex.

However, sexual impulse is natural and healthy, which does not mean that we can let it dominate us. If we want to turn sexual impulse into a positive factor in a person's personality development, it means that it must be properly controlled.

You need to know clearly that a good impression of a boy or girl is not equal to the love often mentioned in books. Love refers to a lasting intimate relationship between two economically independent and mature opposite sexes after a period of communication and a deep understanding of each other. The adolescent boys and girls are immature in character and unstable in temperament; Due to the limited life experience, people's understanding of themselves is still very superficial; In addition, your lifelong career has not been determined, and you probably don't know your future lifestyle, and of course you don't know what kind of person you need as a partner in the future. Therefore, taking a hazy good impression as the bud of love, and now rushing to establish a deep personal relationship with a specific opposite sex is like venturing into a forest full of exotic flowers and plants, but also hiding hydrazine. You also need to know that the purpose of your contact with the opposite sex in adolescence is not to find a lover (that is the subject after your twenties), but to understand the opposite sex, learn to get along with the opposite sex, and in the process, cultivate friendship and develop yourself. Recognition from the opposite sex will make you confident as a man or a woman, thus alleviating the psychological discomfort caused by study pressure and youth development. Just as a window suddenly opens in our mind, we will also feel the fun and significance of learning and living in the interaction with the opposite sex.

The first is group communication. It is best to take part in more group activities for both men and women. Because you are in contact with several opposite sexes at the same time, you may not be as nervous and shy as facing a certain opposite sex, and it is easier to express yourself naturally, which helps to cultivate yourself to get along with the opposite sex with a normal heart. In addition, in group activities, you have a better chance to get to know different members of the opposite sex, because a person's performance in a group is more real than his or her performance in front of a certain member of the opposite sex. If you often associate with only one opposite sex alone, you actually lose the opportunity to know other opposite sex.

The second is shallow friendship. Don't establish a deep personal relationship with a certain opposite sex at once. Good feelings between adolescent boys and girls can easily change. Do you have a similar experience: with the deepening of understanding, boys or girls who used to have a good impression become less cute. If the relationship between two people is defined as love without in-depth understanding, it will bring unnecessary harm and trouble to both sides when the feelings change. Maintaining equal and extensive contact with multiple members of the opposite sex helps to leave room for the development of the relationship between two people.

If we can follow these two principles when dealing with the opposite sex, seemingly intractable problems may become clear.

According to the principle of shallow friendship, the two middle school students written at the beginning of this article might as well not confess their favorite classmates first. But this does not prevent them from continuing to communicate as classmates. Besides, you should associate with other friends of the same sex and the opposite sex, which may dilute your upset mood. Don't deliberately label the relationship between two people. Let friendship flow freely in the long river of years, see if they still admire each other after five years and ten years, and then decide whether the other party is their only one. In these five or ten years, you can let yourself develop freely. Source: Dayi Middle School Editor: Moral Education Office