The mate selection criteria for 79-year-old leftover women: the annual salary is 500,000, and my name is written on the house. Is this very demanding?

With the acceleration of urbanization, women occupy more than half of the positions in many industries in the city, and the decline of sports has also spread to many fields. Thanks to the social reform and opening up, women are highly educated and more competitive in society, especially the one-child policy, which is more beneficial to girls. The siphon effect of the city makes a large number of rural girls flock to first-and second-tier cities. Usually, women have low wages and steady work. They are more likely to find jobs in the competition, so big cities accommodate more foreign women.

But everything has two sides. If there is a good side, there must be a bad side. With the improvement of women's status in recent years, a social phenomenon is also extremely common, that is, the increase of older women.

However, in today's society, it seems that there is a certain prejudice against older leftover women, thinking that as long as they are leftover women, they must have high eyes and unrealistic expectations. In the face of overwhelming ridicule, where will the future of older women go?

In fact, I think the most important thing for older women is to recognize themselves and position themselves. Don't always put forward some unrealistic conditions and shut men out. If you really want to get married, then don't put material conditions first, and lay a good emotional foundation first. Only in this way can we eliminate the misunderstanding of leftover women in society.

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I have a friend. Her name is Xiaoli. She is 79 years old and 40 years old. But she is still single and is regarded as an older woman.

The reason why she has never been married is that her mate selection conditions are too high, and many men are scared away. But in her own mind, these requirements are not high at all, but quite normal.

Xiaoli is actually very good, otherwise it would not be possible to make such high demands. She graduated with a master's degree and has been working in a foreign company. Now her annual salary has reached several hundred thousand. As early as several years ago, she bought a house and a car in the city.

It is such a highly educated and well-paid woman that many men are discouraged. So Xiaoli is still single.

Xiaoli once told me about her criteria for choosing a spouse, and I was shocked after listening to it. She said: The man I want to marry must be better than me. The annual salary is at least 500 thousand. Write my name after buying a house. These two points are just basic requirements.

I can't help but vomit: "Let's not talk about buying a house and writing a name. Let's just say, at first, the annual salary was 500 thousand. You killed most people with a stick. "

Xiaoli gave me a white look: "I am so excellent, I must find a better talent worthy of me."

I didn't speak, but my heart was very ridiculous: the man you are looking for is probably hard to meet.

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Maybe my idea is correct. Xiaoli hasn't met the man she wants in these years. Even if I meet a man with a standard annual salary, I will turn around and leave as soon as I hear that she wants a house. So until now, Xiaoli is still single.

Parents at home have long given up hope for her, from initial anxiety to numbness now. Xiaoli's parents have stopped urging her to get married. In their words, marriage is just a distant dream for her.

Xiaoli certainly disagrees with them. She thinks she still has a chance. Although I am almost forty years old, I can still find a good man.

She kept thinking: am I really demanding? But even so, she didn't lower the standard of mate selection at all.

As friends, we often tell her that only by lowering our requirements can we find someone to get married as soon as possible. After so many blind dates, everyone thinks she is demanding, which shows that her expectations are far from reality. You should be more accurate about your own conditions, and you can find someone to marry if you have realistic requirements.

However, she even said: I don't want to be single either, but my intuition tells me that I will get married in the future and have been waiting for the person who is highly compatible with her soul to appear. What she said shocked me and impressed me deeply. Where does my confidence come from? This kind of waiting will only be rejected by more people.

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Xiaoli, 79, is still looking for the man in her mind. I don't know if she can find it, but I can only bless her.

In fact, most leftover women want to find a better man, which is not wrong. Everyone wants to be better, which is a very common psychology.

In that case, why don't those men who are excellent in all aspects choose a younger and better girl instead of a middle-aged woman?

Although marriage can't be settled, we must have a correct understanding of ourselves in order to grasp the correct marriage.

I often hear the older generation say that "contentment is always happy" is also applicable in marriage. Don't be too picky and don't care too much. Only what suits you is the best.