A phone call from my mother-in-law made me understand that treating her husband's family as my home will make you live like a joke.

My mother-in-law called and cried about my uncle's faults, but I didn't want to say a word. At this moment, I decided to divorce.

First, use the most fake name and tell the truth.

My husband Qin Tian and I met online. At that time, the chat tool was not called WeChat, but QQ.

Qin Tian works in an accounting firm and I work in a securities company. We use the most fake names, to tell the truth.

We are in two cities, just the objects to pour out to each other, but they are different because of the arrival of Qin Tian.

We started trying to be together.

Qin Tian quit his job in the provincial accounting firm and returned to his hometown. And I also quit my job in a securities company, went to the city where his family lived, and took an examination of a small local bank.

From strangeness to familiarity, to marriage, it seems that it is really destiny takes a hand.

My parents disagreed at first. After all, our two families are 200 kilometers apart. Even if we try harder, Qin Tian and I are still 80 kilometers apart. How can a long-distance relationship have a happy result? More importantly, Qin Tianjia's economic situation is not good, worse than mine. His home is halfway up the mountain, with only two tile houses, and his parents are old. He is 30 years old and has accomplished nothing.

When we felt we were going to part, the arrival of my mother turned the tables. My mother went to her husband's house for the first time, and when she saw his yard, she exclaimed in surprise. I dreamed of this place in my dreams. My mother believes in Buddhism and believes in karma and fate most.

So, we got married and had nothing but a rural wedding. No room, no car, no bride price.

Second, he said it was his responsibility and he owed it to his brother.

The days after marriage are getting better and better.

The salary in my bank is very good, much higher than that in my securities company. Qin Tian dotes on me except for not making money.

The work in the bank is very hard, and all kinds of KPIs keep me busy, and I only have one day off every week. During the break, Qin Tian will come to see me and buy me all kinds of things.

Later, with my efforts, I paid the down payment of the house and bought a car by mortgage. The benefits of the bank are not bad. The provident fund pays the mortgage, and the rest of my salary pays the car loan.

Qin Tian's parents are old and have been farming in their rural hometown. Qin Tian has a brother and a sister. His uncle and sister-in-law are both teachers, and his sister-in-law got married in the same village.

After we got married, my uncle became the shopkeeper of cutting, and Qin Tian was responsible for everything my parents and in-laws needed.

I was angry at first, and Qin Tian told me the story of his family. His father is ill all the year round, and his brother always pays for the treatment. His college tuition is paid by his brother, and his brother's salary card is directly used for his study.

He said it was his responsibility and he owed it to his brother. Although unhappy, I should be glad that I found a responsible man, shouldn't I?

Uncle doesn't seem to exist, and he doesn't go home during the Chinese New Year holidays.

My mother-in-law cries to me every time she comes home, telling me all kinds of problems with her uncle and sister-in-law. Pulling my nose and crying, I said it was a good thing that he had two sons. The eldest son, regardless of her and the younger son, Qin Tian's marriage to me is the greatest blessing of his family.

This has happened many times, and I also regard myself as the most indispensable member of this family. Every time I go back to my husband's house, I have to buy a lot of things: food, clothes, medicine, and leave some money when I leave. My mother-in-law is also very kind to me. She often praises her for having a good daughter-in-law when she meets people. If she doesn't come home for a long time, she will call me and say that she misses me and wants me to go home and get me eggs and kill chickens for me.

Third, "it's okay, mom. I'll call you if it's short."

When the days were getting better and better, something happened to Qin Tian. Only then did I know that all my happiness was an illusion.

Qin Tian said that he contracted a project with a friend and needed some money. He had no money and couldn't raise money, so he begged me to help him. I took out an IOU and several credit cards and gave them to Qin Tian. I also took out my savings over the years to support the cause of Qin Tian.

I gave Qin Tian the rest of my monthly salary except 1 1,000 yuan.

Qin Tian's accident happened without warning. It was already after 10 when he received the call, and the police station called to say that he had been detained.

Later, I learned that in order to get the project payment, he found someone to illegally detain the other party.

My mother-in-law has been asking me to do something. She cried badly on the phone and said that she couldn't live without her son. Let me do something. He misses his son. But what can I do?

When I met Qin Tian two months later, he said he was sorry and asked me to take good care of his parents for him.

So I have to bear huge debts and take care of my in-laws. I not only dragged myself into the water, but also let my parents and brother suffer with me. My parents gave me pension money to pay off my debts, and my brother gave me money every month when he paid his salary.

I think I can't live up to Qin Tian's entrustment and take good care of my in-laws. My mother-in-law cries every time she calls me, so I will keep comforting her.

I don't want to buy myself any clothes, and I don't want to waste the fare for the New Year. I don't go shopping alone in the city.

My own expenses have been reduced to the limit. I used to eat rice noodles for breakfast, but now I eat steamed bread, and I dare not buy steamed bread. But for my in-laws, as long as everyone calls and says there is no rice at home, I will give her money at once.

My mother-in-law called me again and sobbed about all kinds of faults of my uncle and brother. When Qin Tian had an accident, Uncle still ignored his parents as before. And Qin Tian, who can call once a month, keeps telling me to take good care of my in-laws.

Mother-in-law said, "Your eldest brother is really outrageous. I asked him to take out the money for renting the land and keep it for him temporarily. Now I just want to spend half, and he won't give it. " She cried again and began to criticize her son for being unfilial.

I listened quietly, and my heart ached beyond words.

At this moment, I realized that I was like a fool and took the responsibility I shouldn't have.

Husband and mother-in-law, I don't know when I really treat me as a family. My mother-in-law praised me, but I just hope I can be kind to her as always. Family members are when they need to pay, and outsiders are when they have a little interest.

My mother-in-law didn't hear my comfort, nor did she hear the expected "nothing, mom, how much I'll call you."

Probably aware of my abnormality, I said to myself, "Your father and I are old, and we are afraid of selling fake money before we let your big brother go. I don't trust my family's money. What if it is stolen by a thief? You are far away, big brother is near. "

I tried to suppress my anger and said to my mother-in-law in a cold tone, "Mom, that's your money. You can give it to anyone. I have something to do. I have to hang up first. "

I hung up the phone, tears streaming down my face. I can't help crying anymore. Looking back on these years, grievances mixed with guilt, I decided to divorce.

Taking charge of my husband's family is the worst thing I have done in my life.

Looking at myself now in a mess, I can't help asking myself what I got in this marriage.

Whether it is emotional sustenance or economic prosperity, there is nothing. Maybe, my mother-in-law boasted that she married a good daughter-in-law, but my husband said I was really sensible. Other, I don't know what else?

I always thought my in-laws had a hard time in the countryside, so I didn't want to take care of it. I always thought that I was good to my in-laws, and my sister-in-law would be good to my parents. In fact, I was just evading my responsibilities.

When I stopped to think, I knew I was wrong. In-laws have a lot of land. In recent years, many people have contracted to grow vegetables and notoginseng, and the annual rent is about 20 thousand yuan. Rural pensions and food subsidies also cost 3,000 yuan a year. In-laws raise pigs and chickens themselves, not to mention saving money, but at least to be able to support themselves.

I didn't complain when I was in trouble. Now I am heavily in debt, but my in-laws don't want to help me.

I have regarded my in-laws as my home since I got married. I don't have to buy clothes for my parents, but my in-laws must buy them.

I think of my parents again, so they are not easy. I suffered a lot to pay for my college education, but they never used me a penny after I worked. My father is over 60 years old and my mother is almost 60 years old. Without a pension, they took out their life savings just because I was their daughter.

My brother, after graduating from junior high school, went out to work Finally, I graduated from work, got married, and paid my debts with my salary. He also has his own home and people he wants to protect. He is the father of two children.

Suddenly I feel stupid to study. Why are you so superstitious after graduating from college? I believe that I am kind to my in-laws, and my sister-in-law can be kind to my parents? I use such words to escape my responsibility.

Qin Tian owes his brother his responsibility, not mine. My duty is to be filial to my parents and raise my children.

Qin Tian to me, is half pity? It seems that he doesn't care about anything except asking me for money.

In the wardrobe at home, his clothes are all famous brands, more than mine, and my clothes have nothing but work clothes. Buying one occasionally is the cheapest on the Internet. He once laughed at my ignorance of fashion, but I just couldn't bear to spend money.

Have you thought about the pressure I have to face in his accident? He can let his uncle take care of his parents instead of constantly putting pressure on me.

I feel sad when I think about this, but I am glad that I am only 34 years old and still have a chance. God gave me a chance to make up for my mistakes over the years.

I am @ Xiao Xie. I look forward to meeting you in the world of words.